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NCtriadsub -> Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 3:28:30 AM)
Im curious about bisexuality. My gf (dom), has mentioned it a few times but I really havent made up my mind as to whether or not I want to try it. Any suggestions?

DarkSteven -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 4:25:42 AM)
You've also posted a similar thing about cuckolding - your Domme has suggested it, and you don't know what to do/think. My suggestion: Have a series of long talks with her about your apprehensions, feelings, etc. if she's real, or Quit posting wank material if she's not.

LillyoftheVally -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 5:40:41 AM)
You are curious about your sexuality? Its a tough thing trying to work out who you are. First you need to ask yourself if you fancy other men, then you need to ask yourself if you want to have sex with other men, then you need to ask yourself if you fancy women and then you need to ask yourself if you want to have sex with women. If you answer yes to all of those things then I would say you can call yourself bisexual. [8\|]

FemmeDominion -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 5:52:48 AM)
Removed due to me opening my mouth. What I said did not need to be said thus I removed it. 'nough said...by me anyway.

SomeCdnGuy -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 6:15:32 AM)
There's only one way to find out. Its like deciding if you'll try some foreign food for the first time, you never know, you may just love blotwurst. So in that spirit I say go for it ~ Drop to your knees and swallow that sausage. Slobber all over it, gobble it up and have fun, what's the worst thing that could happen?

DesFIP -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 6:16:51 AM)
How long have you been together? Because opening a relationship shouldn't happen until the relationship is solid, as in years together. And that's when both people want to bring others in. If you don't, well just remember you can always do this later but you can't ever undo it. These are emotionally edgy activities. Ask your partner what happens if it doesn't work? What if the other guy comes over, shoves his dick in your face and you yell RED. Is she going to be upset? Is she still going to push you to do this? How will the other guy feel when he discovers this is all your gf's idea and you aren't attracted at all? Would you enjoy that happening to you? Hell, how would she feel if you told her that he sucks cock much better than she does? And yes, this happens. Same with the cuckolding. There will be three people's emotions she's playing with. All she's thinking about is what turns her on, not about the fact that there are real people involved who could easily be hurt.

Fornica -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 6:20:38 AM)
This. quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven You've also posted a similar thing about cuckolding - your Domme has suggested it, and you don't know what to do/think. My suggestion: Have a series of long talks with her about your apprehensions, feelings, etc. if she's real, or Quit posting wank material if she's not.

crazyml -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 7:02:49 AM)
Dude, get thee thither and scoff a cock already. Then decide whether you like it. Don't make it more complicated, brother. Oh and this... quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven You've also posted a similar thing about cuckolding - your Domme has suggested it, and you don't know what to do/think. My suggestion: Have a series of long talks with her about your apprehensions, feelings, etc. if she's real, or Quit posting wank material if she's not.

LadyPact -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 8:04:21 AM)
Here's My best suggestion. If you're on the fence about this thing, get yourself (and your girlfriend) some male on male porn. If you can find some femdom porn where the woman in control is the one directing the action of two males together sexually, even better. (Sorry, I don't have any recommendations for you.) Gauge her reaction. Enjoy some hot talk between the two of you about how exciting it would be to engage in some of those activities in the future. When that goes well, move up to a dildo. Let her control the motion of moving it in and out of your mouth while stimulating her. If what you were saying in the original is a fantasy of hers that drives her wild, this is a good way to see just how much. During those times when your mouth isn't full, try a few phrases related to what you are willing to do for her, if it pleases her. It's darn near a guarantee for mind blowing sex for the two of you to discuss her potential fantasy. The next day, when you're not in the heat of the moment, have a rational discussion about if you would like to take the next step. Talk about how this will be accomplished, what kind of person you would like to share this experience with, and concerns that you might have. Yes, that should include how it will be handled if it doesn't work out. With all due respect to Des, most people that you approach as a couple to do this, if you explain that this is your first rodeo, they really do get it. Nobody is promising anybody anything and tell the other person up front what the situation is about. Having a threesome is just a hot thing that some couples have done as a part of their sex lives. Years of dedication to each other isn't a requirement and it doesn't have to be an earth shattering experience. It can be amazingly hot and your girlfriend will never forget that you gave her one of her fantasies.

HisPet21 -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 8:40:15 AM)
I've never had a bisexual experience, so I can't offer up any advice. That being said, I suggest you take LadyPact's advice. She has a lot of experience in poly, and knows what she is talking about. P.S. I read your profile, and I get the impression that you really, really don't want to fuck men. You say you refuse to "submit" to a man, but is that really the only issue? Are you really okay with having sex with men, so long as there is no power exchange between the two of you? If so, fine, but seriously...don't do anything you'd rather not. Know your limits and stick to them. You have a right to say no to your dominant.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 9:52:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NCtriadsub Im curious about bisexuality.....I really havent made up my mind as to whether or not I want to try it. Any suggestions? You're making this much harder than it needs to be. Ask yourself two simple questions: 1) Do you want to suck another man's cock (or have him suck yours)? 2) Do you want to fuck another man up the ass (or have him fuck you up yours)? If the answer to both questions is "Yes", then go for it. If the answer to one or both questions is "No", then don't. It's really that simple.

thishereboi -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 10:12:43 AM)
quote: I read your profile, and I get the impression that you really, really don't want to fuck men. I read his profile also and I got the impression he is seeking a domme and won't submit to a male. Now if he already has someone who is suggesting he try bisexuality and cuckolding, why is he still advertising for someone? Don't you generally stop looking once you have reached this point?

kalikshama -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 12:05:35 PM)
It can take a while, if ever, to update a profile. I was sure about M and we updated our profiles after a few weeks of dating. Sounds like the OP has some doubts about this relationship, which is new, so I don't find it unusual that he hasn't updated it. I am surprised at his rather aggressive tone however.

HisPet21 -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 12:13:29 PM)
quote: It can take a while, if ever, to update a profile. I was sure about M and we updated our profiles after a few weeks of dating. Sounds like the OP has some doubts about this relationship, which is new, so I don't find it unusual that he hasn't updated it. I am surprised at his rather aggressive tone however. Yeah, that's why I tried to focus on the issue at hand rather than de-rail the thread. If the man is cheating, he is indeed a bad man. If the gf is aware of his search, or the man has yet to update the profile, no harm done.

DomDaddy155 -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 12:59:58 PM)
Well, here's the real deal. You're already bisexual, everyone is. Whether you choose to have partners of more than one sex is simply a choice. The invention of Heterosexuality

vield -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 1:32:04 PM)
You say YOU are curious about bi-sexuality. OK. I suggest thinking about and writing down all things about this which get your interest, and then ranking everything as : N. Not happening, a hard limit 1. Don't like it but will do it if it turns my partner on 2. Curious about this, not sure I really want to try it but maybe 3. Interested, think I'd like to try it with the right person 4. I Know this does excite me and look forward to trying it. 5. I find this wildly exciting and truly MUST try it as soon as possible I suggest you also go over everything with your Domme after you have thought about your own reactions. Get her to also chart her own reactions to all of your categories of actions, to add her own thoughts, and to rank hers. Then you both compare your ratings and lists, and each rank ideas the other thought of which you did not. I suggest you both also differentiate between things you would do with others with your partner present, with your partner participating, and with your partner NOT present. There is a BIG difference between liking an activity which we believe will please our partner (especially for a sub), and liking an activity because it turns US on to do it. Both are valid, but you and your Domme and any other partners you bring in should know all this. All involved do NOT need to have the same motivations. For example, a Domme who feels that "making" her sub be bi enhances her dominance can enjoy that, while her sub knows this truly turns her on which he loves, and the male partner just really likes enjoying other guys. All different points of view leading to three happy people. My view is that anything consenting adults willingly agree to try is their business & I wish them joy!

JanahX -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 1:42:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi quote: I read your profile, and I get the impression that you really, really don't want to fuck men. I read his profile also and I got the impression he is seeking a domme and won't submit to a male. Now if he already has someone who is suggesting he try bisexuality and cuckolding, why is he still advertising for someone? Don't you generally stop looking once you have reached this point? What I dont get is how is a panel supposed to tell him if he's BI or NOT? We dont know him. He's the only one that can answer that. If he is so lost as to not knowing if he wants to suck dick or not, the guy needs to figure out his own sexuality before involving himself with anyone else.

slaveluci -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 4:00:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact With all due respect to Des, most people that you approach as a couple to do this, if you explain that this is your first rodeo, they really do get it. Nobody is promising anybody anything and tell the other person up front what the situation is about. Having a threesome is just a hot thing that some couples have done as a part of their sex lives. Years of dedication to each other isn't a requirement and it doesn't have to be an earth shattering experience. It can be amazingly hot and your girlfriend will never forget that you gave her one of her fantasies. QFT[:)] luci

HisPet21 -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 4:04:52 PM)
quote: You're already bisexual, everyone is. [8\|]

searching4mysir -> RE: Trying Bisexuality (1/25/2012 4:06:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DomDaddy155 Well, here's the real deal. You're already bisexual, everyone is. Whether you choose to have partners of more than one sex is simply a choice. Bwahahahahahaha What dope are you smoking and where can I get some?

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