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Dom curious - 1/27/2012 9:20:54 AM

Monkeyofgoom

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Hi everyone.

I just got out of a 2 year relationship with a naturally dominant woman who was extremely conservative when it came to sex. At one point I landed on some videos of cock "torture" and watersports and convinced her to start slapping my cock while we were watching a movie. Throughout the movie she started doing this until I was trembling and totally turned on. We tried this kind of sex a few more times in our relationship but mostly everything was extremely vanilla and horribly dull. But I will never forget the way my body started shaking that night, or the threads of pre cum that would stretch out every time her hand brushed the top of my super hard cock.

Now that I am free of the relationship I am considering experimenting with this type of sex again, but i don't know where to start. I am not interested in being anyone's permanent slave, I just want to explore this facet of my personality with someone who won't make me feel humiliated about temporarily being humiliated, if that makes any sense at all.

Should I pay for a professional mistress? That feels weird and unnatural to me. Or are there places in Los Angeles where you go to meet other people interested in similar things? Not to offend anyone who is open about this, but I have a mildy public persona, and I don't want anyone knowing I am trying this out.

Pretty confused about the whole thing. And feel really crazy to be taking it this far. Thanks for reading!

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RE: Dom curious - 1/27/2012 1:14:50 PM

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Since you seem rather focused on getting done the way you like it, yep, you should reach into your wallet. 'Cause relationship-wise, a partner (esp a *dominant* partner) just might be expecting something in return.

Errrm, what or where is "goom". Is that like 2 keys right of "doom"? If it is, it sure is one sloppy start to finding a domme here....

Nonetheless, welcome to CM - and the "do me" boards....

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RE: Dom curious - 1/27/2012 3:52:31 PM

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You're looking for non-permanent play partners.. in LA? I'm pretty sure there's a community there. Look around, explore your area. It sounds like you're only after one night stands or maybe a play partner who doesn't want anything serious. There are a few out there like that without having to throw money at them, but you have to be willing to put in the effort to find them and be okay when they decide to end it, as they likely will when the new wears off of you.

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RE: Dom curious - 2/1/2012 11:33:16 PM

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Pro Dommes don't have sex with their clients. Otherwise they would risk prostitution charges.

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RE: Dom curious - 2/1/2012 11:57:09 PM

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correction:Pro Dommes don't have sex with their clients. Otherwise they would be prostitutes(which is completely different from a Dominatrix).

there.much better.

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Pro Dommes don't have sex with their clients. Otherwise they would risk prostitution charges.

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RE: Dom curious - 2/2/2012 2:38:58 AM

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In case "goom" is in Oz, prostitution has been decriminalised here.

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RE: Dom curious - 2/2/2012 6:18:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fetisheden

correction:Pro Dommes don't have sex with their clients. Otherwise they would be prostitutes(which is completely different from a Dominatrix).

there.much better.

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Pro Dommes don't have sex with their clients. Otherwise they would risk prostitution charges.

I am not sure what you are correcting here. Are you suggesting they would be prostitutes, but they wouldn't risk prostitution charges? That doesn't even make sense.

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RE: Domme curious (LA) - 2/3/2012 6:21:19 AM

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Or are there places in Los Angeles where you go to meet other people interested in similar things?

Google "BDSM events LA" when you have a few hours to kill :)

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Should I pay for a professional mistress?

Otherwise known as a Pro Domme or Dominatraix

http://www.lawguru.com/legal-questions/california-criminal-law/bdsm-illegal-legal-pay-domination-53307193/a

BDSM illegal?

I want to know if it is legal to pay for a domination like experience. Where there is no actual sex or penetration to the woman. But the man may experience something like a strap on or so forth. Thanks

Re: BDSM illegal?

Calling an act BDSM does not determine whether it is legal or not. Under California law, paying for a lewd act in order to sexually gratify one or more of the participants is prostitution, regardless of whether actual intercourse is involved.

What matters, then, is whether the particular acts you have in mind qualify as "lewd". Based upon what little you have said, they probably do. If I'm right, then paying for them is illegal.

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Re: BDSM illegal?

Prostitution is defined in P.C. 647(b) as "any lewd act between persons for money or other consideration. The law would consider penetration of your anal cavity by a strap on as a lewd act. However, being tied up and spanked or whipped may not be.

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RE: Domme curious (LA) - 2/3/2012 10:07:54 AM

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So if you go fuck yourself will you go to jail for that???

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RE: Dom curious - 2/5/2012 8:10:15 AM

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M of G,

I just wanted to de-lurk, in order to pipe it: Thanks for making a post seeking to exorcise/exercise your fetish that doesn't appear to be a "Do me, everyone of you! Do me, now!" post, with which we are, all too commonly, inundated. You are either very sincere in your effort to seek advice or very clever in your ability to dodge the almost inevitable sod clots thrown by annoyed Dominas. I'm leaning toward sincerity.

Best luck to you in your quest, oh ye monkey of the land (?) of goom.

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RE: Dom curious - 2/5/2012 8:13:38 AM

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Should I have sex with my client? Naw, don't want to risk prostitution charges.

Should I have sex with my client? Naw, don't want to be a prostitute.

See the distinction?

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ORIGINAL: fetisheden

correction:Pro Dommes don't have sex with their clients. Otherwise they would be prostitutes(which is completely different from a Dominatrix).

there.much better.

quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint

Pro Dommes don't have sex with their clients. Otherwise they would risk prostitution charges.

I am not sure what you are correcting here. Are you suggesting they would be prostitutes, but they wouldn't risk prostitution charges? That doesn't even make sense.