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harmony3709 -> RE: Playing on a first meeting (11/20/2004 10:47:28 PM)
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Just as my two cents worth -- I for one also have the standing rule of not playing on a first meet, and yet have also broken that rule on two occasions. In both circumstances there had been a fair amount of communication and chemistry already built up, as with most everyone I have met, but the difference on these two occasions was the play was more of a question versus a demand. It was made clear to me that if I chose not to play, it would change nothing in terms of a potential relationship and that they would think no less of me. These two Doms are close friends of mine almost two years after the fact, so I believe part of it was just gut instinct that I could trust them, as well as the fact that they were intelligent, polite, considerate gentlemen.
However, I find it interesting that there were others who tried to insist or demand, gave me the line about not being a "real submissive", or some other such insulting crap, and I found that the more I heard, the less I would have even considered playing. In other words -- the more rude and insulting they are, the more of a natural turn off it is. I think that is probably the best form of self-protection that I have anyway and I don't have to worry about being manipulated into something because I am a submissive -- mostly because they are acting nothing like Doms to begin with.
harmony
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