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stldaddy -> tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/28/2012 10:38:03 PM)
For a sub or slave that likes to be controlled all day everyday; What tasks, chores, and things do you have Your sub or slave do? For this example assume there are no limits and they are not for punishment but feel free to include those, for what some consider punishment some consider pleasure :) But I am really seeking everyday type things. I am asking for responses from Dominants as well as submissive or slaves.

littlewonder -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/28/2012 11:11:56 PM)
cook, clean, pay the bills, run errands, make his tea or coffee when he wants it, makes me do my homework, take care of any appointments that need to be done, and basically anything else that comes along with being an adult and running a household.

Kana -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/28/2012 11:20:06 PM)
Grins Just think of a TPE slave as the ultimate personal assistant (And then some!) and you should have a good idea how this works in my life :-)

wittynamehere -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/28/2012 11:38:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stldaddy For a sub or slave that likes to be controlled all day everyday; What tasks, chores, and things do you have Your sub or slave do? For this example assume there are no limits and they are not for punishment but feel free to include those, for what some consider punishment some consider pleasure :) But I am really seeking everyday type things. I am asking for responses from Dominants as well as submissive or slaves. Agreed with above. My girls are my personal assistants - and then some. I see them as parts of me that can think and act indepentantly. They bring unique abilities and cahracteristics, and I use them. :) I've never used this, but consider "corner time" or some variation if you're unable to have her do chores etc for you. Sit in a kneeling position perhaps, staring at the wall. Maybe thinking about something you want her to think about. Journalling. Masturbating (or not!) Drawing you a picture, or writing you a story. Taking naughty (or otherwise) photos for you. Fetch things, clean, cook, provide drinks. Some s-types enjoy being used as a footstool or something. This can take up a lot of their time with service and keeps them in the slave mindset, IMO. I don't do this one regularly but it has merits. Good luck and have fun!

RaspberryLemon -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/29/2012 1:54:13 AM)
He has me cook for him, clean for him, bring him things, make him drinks, refill his glass, massage him when he's sore, take care of the animals, keep him company and be his companion and confidant; the list goes on. I personally enjoy certain actions on this list more than others (I love making food and drink for him, I of course love spending time with him and being close to him or touching him, etc.,) but ultimately I enjoy doing everything he asks of me because my happiness comes from his happiness and satisfaction. It makes me happy just to serve him and please him, in whatever way he requires of me. I love being helpful to him and making him proud, and as others have said I am sort of like his personal assistant--and then some. :)

Focus50 -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/29/2012 4:12:13 AM)
Beyond the general rules, I don't have any D/s specific chores etc to give. But I still separate things as I did in my vanilla relationships. In general, I take care of the house and she runs the home. The "house" might include general repairs, renovations, additions, extensions etc, lawns, cars - pretty much anything that needs fixing, painting or doing. "Free" time is usually some project or other - often with restraining her in mind.... Though current project is borewater - boringgggg.... The "home" is her keeping everything running - meals, shopping, cleaning, general organising etc. And (important to me) that she has some interest or hobby in her free time, too. With everything running smoothly, there's plenty of scope to have her do as she's told, too. ;) Focus.

DarkSteven -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/29/2012 5:35:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stldaddy I am asking for responses from Dominants as well as submissive or slaves. Good because you're posting in Ask a Master. I weigh what I need done versus her abilities and where I want her to develop, and her time/energy level.

ProlificNeeds -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/29/2012 6:33:37 AM)
FR to the OP: I don't like to be controlled all day 24/7, I'm far too stubborn and willful for that to appeal to me. However for nice weekend expeditions into servitude, anything fromc ooking and cleaning, down to drawing the bath, washing my partner, being responsible ffor his comfort at every moment (Scantily clad body servant!). I'm not much for the pointless rituals, unless they're part of foreplay, but I do love pampering my partners, so usually whatever they would enjoy, is what I do. Edited to add: I find a key part of pushing the mindset of slave through the tasks works best when the D-type actually acknowledges what is done, or at least orders them done in the first place, if there's no real recognition of the task at all it can kind of spoil the whole effort of staying in the subservient mindset.

FemmeDominion -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/29/2012 6:56:51 AM)
I admit to randomness... quote: ORIGINAL: wittynamehere Agreed with above. My girls are my personal assistants - and then some. I see them as parts of me that can think and act indepentantly. They bring unique abilities and cahracteristics, and I use them. :) This completely put me in the mind of Stranger in a Strange Land. Specifically it reminded me of the Jubal character and his girls. He used them to his pleasure and to their greatest strengths/training. Just sayin'... [:D]

HisPet21 -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/29/2012 8:03:59 AM)
Although we plan to move in together eventually, my dom and I don't live together yet. This makes it difficult for me to be the "Chore Girl," as it were. But he'll occasionally ask me to come over to cook him one of his favorite meals. And when I am over there, I usually end up cleaning the house a bit and giving him a massage. (Although the cleaning is more for me than it is for him. I hate messy houses!!!!). Once we move in, I am hoping to have some more specific chores and stuff, but right now, that simply isn't feasible.

SpiritedRadiance -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/29/2012 10:07:14 AM)
My currently Service tasks are to keep up my 6 credit hours a semester at school and keep grades at a b or better, To go to work daily and be productive, To keep active in the local community doing the normal tasks, such as going to munches being social, doing 50/50s as required, Getting at least 5 hours of sleep a night, eating at least 2 meals a day, and putting aside at least an hour a week to do creative persuits that i prefer...

peppermint -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/29/2012 5:50:43 PM)
As others have said I do basic home chores such as cooking, cleaning, clothes, and dishes. I pour him coffee when he asks for it. I make sure we have the special food items of which he is fond. My main just is to keep him company. We don't do a punishment relationship. We're adults and we expect each other to act like adults in a responsible manner. Discussion settles any conflicts.

DesFIP -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/29/2012 6:04:43 PM)
Cooking, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, research something he needs to know about. Recently I've become go-fer on the job site. However, all this supposes you live together. Because expecting her to run her own household, go to work, raise her family and have sufficient spare time to do all that for your household also is ridiculous. Is she supposed to clean your house at night while you sleep and she doesn't? If so, how is she going to manage at work the next day when she's had no sleep? And what if she falls asleep driving because of your demands. The op's profile is not found, so I can't figure out how old he is. I'm betting young. In that case, it is not appropriate to ask her to do your homework.

AnimusRex -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/29/2012 6:15:35 PM)
Kim does all the things a normal housewife and mom to an adolescent does, which is to say, spends her day being maid/ tax driver/ cook, housekeeper/ mentor/ nanny/ etc, and then tends to my needs in the evenings and mornings. So after all that, I don't really have any needs for any other tasks. However, on occasion I will text or call her with a specific task like fixing a certain dinner or preparing herself to be sodomized that evening.

Alida -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/30/2012 10:02:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AnimusRex Kim does all the things a normal housewife and mom to an adolescent does, which is to say, spends her day being maid/ tax driver/ cook, housekeeper/ mentor/ nanny/ etc, and then tends to my needs in the evenings and mornings. So after all that, I don't really have any needs for any other tasks. However, on occasion I will text or call her with a specific task like fixing a certain dinner or preparing herself to be sodomized that evening. mmmmmmm....

wandersalone -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/30/2012 1:42:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stldaddy For a sub or slave that likes to be controlled all day everyday; What tasks, chores, and things do you have Your sub or slave do? For this example assume there are no limits and they are not for punishment but feel free to include those, I would suggest that she maybe add a limit to use in the future before submitting to someone - don't submit to someone who accepts this submission without knowing what to do with it You could maybe ask her to read a couple of bdsm books, and then summarise them and send them to you to read. OP yes I am being snippy but the reality is that none of us know what her daily life involves - does she live alone, live with you, live with others? Does she work? any health issues? Everyday type of things can mean something different to different people. what are the things you have already come up with to ask her to do? Has she started doing them? How is she going? answer those things and it may give everyone a bit more information to work with also read past threads or use the search feature at the top of the page

DesFIP -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/30/2012 1:44:41 PM)
My fav is to be asked to find stuff online. He was grousing about a bathroom rehab he's just finished except for an exhaust fan that goes through the wall. All he could find in Lowes were ceiling mount ones. Two minutes after I got online, I showed him exactly what he was looking for and sent him the link. Right size to fit into this massive duct that was put in 40 odd years ago.

NuevaVida -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/30/2012 6:06:09 PM)
I'm "Google Girl" - I research whatever he wants/needs researching. I'm also President of the Entertainment Committee - I look into and plan all the shows we go to. We're currently in separate homes and I clean his house every other weekend, and maintain my own daily. I work full time and work out at least 4 times a week, and I go out with friends once or twice a week, plus I get my down time (like now). I don't need to be controlled all day, every day, as stated in the OP, and my life is very full. But this is what works for us - your mileage may vary.

OsideGirl -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (1/30/2012 6:29:56 PM)
He doesn't give me tasks. He just expects me to do what needs to be done when you're a married couple that owns a home together.

Asherscorp1 -> RE: tasks, chores and things for subs to do (2/1/2012 8:00:54 PM)
If I am at home I wake Master with a vitamin drink every morning. Master's coffee must be ready to be brewed the moment he walks into the kitchen if I am not home to start it myself when he wakes up. Some mornings Master orders breakfast and I will have it hot and waiting for him when he gets out of bed. As long as I do not have prior obligations, such as getting to work, I am expected to be available for sex first thing in the morning if Master desires. Master gives me homework periodically, mostly research on things like cooking or guns since he is avidly interested in both and wants me to expand my knowledge base on those subjects. Homework may or may not be accompanied by an activity such as cooking the recipe I researched. I am never allowed to wear panties and after my son is in bed I am expected to be naked. Some nights Master has me serve as his footstool or preen/massage him while we watch a movie. I am always expected to sleep at the foot of the bed, curled around Master's feet. These are just a few things that are easy, everyday tasks, chores, expectations that keep me in the slave mindset and give Master control and satisfaction.

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