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Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 4:11:26 AM

JanahX

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I was wondering the reasons why someone would advise someone who is having issues with the quality of the responses they get, to change/rewrite their profile.

I see things like, "take down the cock shots" or "take down all the negative stuff" or "tell us about you and not how youre such a horndog"...etc.

My question is why?

Is it so they can delude other people into thinking that they have something going on that they obviously dont?

If showing his cock /or/ her tits is the most important thing that that person wants to convey, then shouldnt that be the equivalent to what he/she attracts? And if the person is that confused about the quality of people that respond to it, then how is changing their profile going to help?

If they honestly think that they are going to get someone of any depth responding to pictures of their full erect cock/and or tits at different angles -----> (whispers) they dont get it, and most likely never will!

Also, on the flip side---> if the person takes down their original profile (WHICH IN FACT DOES INDEED REFLECT who that person truly is), and replaces it with things other people suggest, wouldnt that be misleading to someone who reads it and says ... "hey cool, this person is right up my ally" and thinking, "this person is saying all the the right things and posts all the right pics" and then finds out that that person is just a walking hardon, or clueless or whatever?

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 5:57:06 AM

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I know several really awesome guys who are really awesome but come across dreadfully (and I do mean DREADFULLY) in profiles. The sort of profile that you'd look at and run a mile. It's not such a problem for the guys I'm talking about, because they meet people at events who can see that they're as awesome as they really are. But if they were looking solely online, there would be women missing out if nobody gave them a hand....

I'm not saying that anyone should say 'write x and y and z', but a 'maybe write what you think about [vague topic]' rather than letting yourself sound negative' is ust a push in the right direction.

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 6:01:39 AM

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I am all for the "push in the right direction". I am also all for BE YOURSELF. And if yourself is a fully equipped douchecanoe, then that should come shining through no matter what. That's why I encourage honesty--it's utterly fine to be a horndog, just say so up front. Saves everyone time and trouble.

And yeah, frelling SPELLCHECK!! Even a douchecanoe should care enough to do that much.

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 6:54:44 AM

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I agree with Hibbie. I'm willing to help give someone a nudge in the right direction. It's up to them whether they take it or not.

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 7:06:02 AM

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That's why I encourage honesty--it's utterly fine to be a horndog, just say so up front. Saves everyone time and trouble.

Honesty on collarme? NOW THATS AN OXYMORON !!

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 7:11:02 AM

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Let em put up cockshots, poor grammar and spelling. Let them sound like a douchy horny net geek. Let em call all the women bitches and hoes.

I don't want the competition.

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 7:36:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JanahX

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That's why I encourage honesty--it's utterly fine to be a horndog, just say so up front. Saves everyone time and trouble.

Honesty on collarme? NOW THATS AN OXYMORON !!

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 7:39:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

Let em put up cockshots, poor grammar and spelling. Let them sound like a douchy horny net geek. Let em call all the women bitches and hoes.

I don't want the competition.

Says the man with the giant cock pic....

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 7:46:05 AM

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Some people just don't express themselves well in writing and/or don't understand the culture of the site when they first sign up.

My personal experience is that it doesn't seem to matter what I say in the profile. After removing all the information from my profile, I edited a few weeks ago to include some basic info, like my sex and age, and that I had a pulse. I got flooded with email from HNGs, who wanted to know " more about me.". I edited it again to make clear that I am not interested in meeting anyone. Still getting emails. Why bother to waste time writing a decent profile?

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 7:46:34 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

Let em put up cockshots, poor grammar and spelling. Let them sound like a douchy horny net geek. Let em call all the women bitches and hoes.

I don't want the competition.

Says the man with the giant cock pic....

Admit it, y'all love the BWC.

< Message edited by Hillwilliam -- 2/1/2012 7:47:10 AM >

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 7:50:09 AM

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I think many men are clueless to the fact that what attracts them (like pics of T&A) does not translate into women liking cock shots. I see nothing wrong with cluing men in that they need a different approach to attract women.

None of us are willing to spoon feed the people with bad profiles - we just nudge them.

DarkStephen had a good response on the thread that sparked this for you:

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JanahX, think of it as marketing. We never told him what specifically to say about himself, just that it BE about himself. Previously, it defined the circumstances of how a new sub would get transported to Tenn, and who would pay for what when. We told him to describe himself and how the life together would be.

We didn't tell him to make anything up. Based on his profile and his statements here, I doubt that even entered his head.

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 9:23:11 AM

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Just because you have a good product doesn't mean you know how best to package and market it.

A good guy who was faithful to his sub/wife for almost 30 years is still a good guy. The fact that he's been out of the market for all those years means he doesn't know anything about marketing himself.

If he really is an idiot, it will come out in the first few emails. But if he's a good guy, we're just helping him show that to women.

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 9:39:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet

Why bother to waste time writing a decent profile?

Because if you view this site as a waste of time that's all it will ever be.

But if you're looking, and you utilise your profile to its fullest potential, then it really doesn't matter about the 500 HNGs that view your profile. What matters is the 5 genuinely interesting people mixed in amongst them. And a good profile draws those people like moths to a flame.

I know this because I've done terribly depraved things with quite a few of them.

This place is what you make of it.

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 10:01:18 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

Let em put up cockshots, poor grammar and spelling. Let them sound like a douchy horny net geek. Let em call all the women bitches and hoes.

I don't want the competition.

Says the man with the giant cock pic....

Admit it, y'all love the BWC.

<sigh> I hate to admit it....but I do...

quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

I think many men are clueless to the fact that what attracts them (like pics of T&A) does not translate into women liking cock shots. I see nothing wrong with cluing men in that they need a different approach to attract women.

And the flip side: women with T&A photos that can't figure out why treat them like a piece of ass.

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RE: Advice on changing profiles - 2/1/2012 11:23:48 AM

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I think someone who nicely asks for feedback is deserving of it.
It also points to the possibility that they know something might not be right and they're willing to change it for the better.

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