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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 2/8/2012 4:45:12 PM

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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 2/28/2012 8:58:45 PM

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First of all, I would identify whether you are looking for a submissive or slave. There is a difference with different measures. Second, as mentioned , lose the cock shots, if and when you find your willing, then as a Dom you will introduce those to her, not before. Treat a prospective sub/slave as a woman first and foremost with the ideal that submission and domination is a journey you both are going to adventure through. A woman is a woman regardless of her submissive tendancies. If you keep this in mind you will do well. Cheers and best of luck.

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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 2/29/2012 10:18:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: HerrHolmes
Whats the best way to find a sub?

You want a serious answer to that question?

Be dominant... in whatever way you mean that but in a way which matches what you mean when you say sub/slave.
Be honorable... in more than just words.
Be willing (and demand) to give as much or more than you want to get.
Be dashingly good looking... hey, it always helps, right?
Be rich... or failing that at least gainfully employed. Salary matters. It's an unpopular but obviously true statement.
Be good. OK, that's going to rule you out of all the girls who want a bad boy, but there's lots who want a good man instead.
Care about the other person, not the other role.
Care more about the relationship as a whole than about your authority in the relationship.
Don't be an asshat.
Be confident that all of that stuff will make you HIGHLY attractive in just about any dating market. Women are attracted to confidence.

In short, I think the general view of a male who's comfortable with authority (both wielding and submitting to it), and generally comfortable with himself and who is otherwise "the salt of the earth" sort of guy is highly attractive to a wide variety of women -- kinky and otherwise.

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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 2/29/2012 7:49:34 PM

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Don't be an asshat.

Be confident that all of that stuff will make you HIGHLY attractive in just about any dating market. Women are attracted to confidence.

The top two pieces of advice I give any guy. I think women as a whole are much more forgiving than us guys. I don't know how else the species would continue otherwise because we all have our asshat moments. Need an asshat smiley.

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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 2/29/2012 11:32:16 PM

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Ok so I have been in the lifestyle for a few years but I feel like Im still some what of a novice. Now with that said I have this question. Whats the best way to find a sub? I've looked and looked and only found fakes or someone that isnt as serious as their profile says they are. So now I am looking for some friendly/helpful advice to see what I am doing wrong. Feel free to check out my page and critique it.

On the soles of their feet ..look for a stamp Dom APPROVED or sub tested words to that effect. Seriously guy I get that your new but... the secret is trial and lots of error.

I would suspect that they are saying the same thing about you finding fakes and such ...when its prolly more a matter of incompatibly.

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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 3/1/2012 12:54:12 AM

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On the soles of their feet ..look for a stamp Dom APPROVED or sub tested words to that effect.

*checks feet*

DAMNIT!!!!!!!!!!!! I am stampless!!!

And i was so ready to show your sexy ass just how submissive i can be.

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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 3/11/2012 8:51:02 AM

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It is a small point, but sort out the grammar in your profile. You haven't used any apostrophes where you have contracted words (eg not Im it should be I'm.) Us more compelling and direct language Don't use 'I am wanting' say instead 'I want' it is more immediate and direct. Try C&P your text into a word processing package and allow it to suggest the changes you need. A lot of people probably won't notice the mistakes as it stands, but those that do, often equate poorly written profiles (in terms of accuracy etc) with carelessness and sloppiness. Never a good look! You have to sell yourself.

Apart from that, I wish you luck in your search, the only other thing you need is patience, oh and persistence!

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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 3/11/2012 1:48:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: astartefinch

It is a small point, but sort out the grammar in your profile. You haven't used any apostrophes where you have contracted words (eg not Im it should be I'm.) Use more compelling and direct language Don't use 'I am wanting' say instead, 'I want' it is more immediate and direct. Try C&P'ing your text into a word processing package and allow it to suggest the changes you need. A lot of people probably won't notice the mistakes as it stands, but those that do, often equate poorly written profiles (in terms of accuracy etc) with carelessness and sloppiness. Never a good look! You have to sell yourself.

Apart from that, I wish you luck in your search, the only other thing you need is patience, oh and persistence!

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< Message edited by Endivius -- 3/11/2012 1:49:12 PM >

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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 3/11/2012 4:05:20 PM

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I see you've worked on your profile and removed the cock shots - damn, I was looking for those.........lol. So good on you. Now just be patient and keep at it. It is a game of patience and good luck, in my opinion. Do take advantage of the offer to get your initial email critiqued, because that is also crucial. And get out there to the munches and clubs if you can, daunting tho it might seem. Keep contributing to the boards too; it can help get you noticed and checked out, and people can also see that you take the scene seriously by what you write. It all helps. Good luck to you.

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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 4/10/2012 10:38:12 PM

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best way I have heard is get to know people local to you. That are the scene. I have been my local scene for the last three years and still looking for my sub. So these things take time. You may want to pray. It just may help.

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RE: The best way to find a sub/slave - 4/15/2012 1:00:01 PM

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To attract quality you must be quality.

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