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ORIGINAL: LADYASTER

Hello. I'm not sure how to start so I'll just begin and hope I don't make too many mistakes before I end.....

I do my best daily and do most everything just fine, all alone, but I would like more. I am of above average intelligence, I own my home, I make a decent living, I have a 401K and pension plan, I do not have children and I am, at least, reasonably attractive. I do not have difficulty meeting men. I have great difficulty meeting men that are what I consider to be a "real" man. I truly do believe that a man should lead and a woman should follow. (Short of following him over the edge of a cliff.)

The last man I dated thought it was his responsibility to clean the table after a meal. I asked him, more than once, to leave MY dishes alone. (Yes, if it is in the kitchen, it is mine.) He was in my home and when in my home, your only responsibilities are to be my guest and to eat. (This rule is without exception in my home, friend, family or family friend, cross my threshold and you become a guest and are subject to guest rules.) He refused, it was almost like a game to him, beating me to cleaning off part of the table. (I was given two hands, they can only pick up so much, in a single trip.) The man before that, I asked to please, at least occasionally, pull my hair or smack my ass, he said that he respected me too much to do that. (What? I just asked you to. How is that disrespectful?).....he had the same problem with leaving my dishes alone.

I can't express how much I hope to find someone different. A man that will not only will allow me to be a woman but wants me to be the lady of our home. I hope to find a man that enjoys the fact that my career keeps me in business casual clothing. I hope to find a man that appreciates the fact that rather than choosing slacks and flats, I wear a skirt and heels. (If it is too cold, I will opt for a long skirt, not often, but at 10 degrees or less, I may have to wear something that hides my knees.) I hope to find a man that can stand toe to toe with me in the beginning and stand with his toes to my knees in the end. I hope to find a man that knows I don't kneel to anyone, only to him, and only after he has worked to earn that level of trust and respect. I hope to meet a man that knows I am a woman and in this world, that means I have limitless options in men, until the moment that I meet him. From that moment, he will make himself my only option. Cock pics and "hey baby" lines are less than a dime per dozen. I have had more than a few day dreams about the sexual aspect of the Dom/sub relationship in explicit submissive scenarios but if sex was all that I sought, I could go to a bar and find that in 15 minutes flat. I will wait, hoping for the man that can fulfill me mentally and emotionally, as well as sexually. I will wait for the man that can challenge me mentally, emotionally and sexually.

I don't know that I will have all of my hopes met here but I still dare to hope.

So there is my hello. I am new to this, as in brand new, but I know what I like, I know what I want and I know what I hope for.

~Cheers