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sinandhoney -> RE: Squirting (2/6/2012 7:57:00 PM)

I've been able to squirt with out penetration and with. I've found for me it helps to empty my bladder before hand so I'm not worried when I get that pressure feeling. I've found it easier for me to achieve if the man is on the small side of average or using his fingers in a come here type motion, doesn't have to be fast, in fact a slow full stroke I find for me works best. If I'm being stimulated by the clit and just teased with the head at the opening I will usually squirt from the tease of it. But for me squirting and orgasm have nothing in common, one doesn't walk hand in hand with the other. Though I do achieve a harder orgasm if I squirt first. I have one boy toy who is my fave who has piano fingers and knows exactly what position to use with them to make me squirt over and over. If they are hitting that spot I've been known to have to flip the mattress when I'm done regardless of how many towels went down. It's not an every time thing with me, with the exception of the men skilled with the hands, but it's not a hard thing for me to do either.



MariaB -> RE: Squirting (2/7/2012 4:21:55 AM)

This is something I wrote on FL some time ago

You do not need direct physical stimuli to squirt. Sexual stimulation can develop from dopamine in the brain and this in itself can be enough to engorge the Skene ducts with fluid. The milky ejaculate is not dependent on orgasm either. It can appear at any time.
The Skene ducts/glands (which make up the urethral sponge) although numerous, are very small, the largest 2 growing to no more than the size of a walnut shell when full of fluid. These two larger glands release this fluid into the urethra, some of the smaller Skene glands feed the vagina directly, lubricating it ready for penetration.
During sexual arousal things get fairly heated and compressed in this area, as all the organs are engorging with blood our uterus raises up in our body cavity. There is not a lot of room the urethral sponge to grow in size.
Copious amounts of fluid (300-500ml) come directly from the bladder but it is not necessarily pee. Even when we drain our bladder before sex, post kidney output continues and as we start to become aroused, this fluid which under normal circumstances would become urine, is chemically changed. It is far more dilute than urine, is clear in color and often contains prostate fluid (which has been collected on its journey down the urethra and past the Skene ducts).

The 'urethral sponge/ Skene ducts/G-spot etc is made from the same materiel as the male prostate. Just like the male prostate, it manufactures phosphatase and PSA. This sponge is not connected to anything that can directly feed it fluid but like the male prostate, it can produce its own fluid. Keep in mind that our bodies don't contain any organ that can produce large volumes of fluid quickly, it can only deliver already manufactured fluid. Examples of this are blood and urine. Therefore, female ejaculate is made during sexual arousal and then stored for release.

Not all women have a well produced urethral sponge and some women don't have the bigger Skene ducts that produce fluid directly into the bladder. This means that not all women will be able to ejaculate from the urethral sponge.

On a side note, porn is mainly made up of smoke and mirrors. I know exactly how women squirt in porn but to give away trade secrets would be kind of mean and disappointing to so many men, don't ya think [;)]







Missokyst -> RE: Squirting (2/7/2012 8:24:24 AM)

Interesting.
It would explain why I can squirt when giving a BJ while on my knees. And also why for me at least, squirting is more of a nuisance than something magical. Give me an orgasm any day, hell give it to me 5 times *smirk*, I would rather orgasm than shoot out something that might make him feel more of a man. It used to be good enough.



marsman -> RE: Squirting (2/7/2012 5:26:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MariaB
You do not need direct physical stimuli to squirt.


I was surprised to discover this.

The first submissive to squirt for me did so just from being spanked with a riding crop.

But a more reliable way to make someone squirt is bondage plus a Hitachi magic wand with the G-spot attachment...





TheDarkSaint -> RE: Squirting (2/18/2012 11:18:33 PM)

Yes.. Most women can squirt.

No. It is not piss.

Yes, it can be taught or learned. And the expression on her face after. When she is thinking OMG! nobody has ever made me do THAT before. Is a pretty good feeling.

For a basic starter. I would recommend reading this online Ebook

http://www.texaspartypages.com/femaleejaculationebook2.pdf



SLRN158782985 -> RE: Squirting (2/18/2012 11:28:52 PM)

"Female ejaculation". Indeed. There is heaps of research out there. Just need the propper term. Thankyou TheDarkSaint



pyroaquatic -> RE: Squirting (2/18/2012 11:42:07 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Interesting.
It would explain why I can squirt when giving a BJ while on my knees. And also why for me at least, squirting is more of a nuisance than something magical. Give me an orgasm any day, hell give it to me 5 times *smirk*, I would rather orgasm than shoot out something that might make him feel more of a man. It used to be good enough.


I never understood what the big deal was either.

Someone is cleaning it up by a fistful of hair and tongue and it is not Me.

To seize someone by little death is like killing the phoenix out of zealous blood-lust.



myrgth -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 12:35:30 AM)

A lot depends on your body, but in general I do think it can be learned.

I got interested in it about 12 yrs ago when I read a how to.  My partner and I tried for months!  Different positions, different types of stimulation, and a lot of fun frustration.  Fortunately we did have fun with it and while it would have been great if it had happened right away, the journey and discovery was something that I'll always treasure.  It was very intimate and we laughed when it didn't happen instead of making it this goal of 'must have'.  We were both completely content if it never happened but it sure was fun to try!   Then one day on an air mattress, after much mental and physical tease and build up - everything clicked.  Of course, once we figured it out it was like.. well duh!  LOL

For me it is different than a regular orgasm and I can't NOT squirt now.  It's often tied to my orgasms in that my orgasms are stronger after I have squirted and I'll often go back and forth in a continuous loop of sensation, one right after the other when there is sufficient stimulation.  For me there has to be a certain amount of mental stimulation along with the physical, and the fastest way to get it going is with both external and shallow internal stimulation, fingers in the come hither motion along with clit stim and pop!  Although, now I can pretty much do it on demand with just a thought.  While it would be nice to be able to not do it sometimes, I like the sensation overload enough that I just roll with it.

I know people have mentioned fisting and whatnot.  I've never done that and honestly, bigger is not better for trying to make this happen...at least not for me.  A finger, a thumb, shallow thrusts, or just someone hitting the right spot on the down or up swing work just fine.  I could see how fisting would work though, as the space is filled and it would be difficult to not hit the right spot.

I would suggest researching it together with your partner and then play, play, play.  If it happens, great.  If it doesn't, just have fun with it and enjoy the intimacy.



MariaB -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 4:14:24 AM)

Thanks for the link TheDarkSaint, some of it is good but she keeps going on about her research without any scientific data. Basically her research is her personal experience and snippets she has collected from scientific data. She has by no means used all of this scientific data but taken from it what she wants. That is all good and well but without the scientific controversy its just her picture of things and not the entire picture.

She says for instance; 'Research has clearly shown that this ejaculatory liquid is NOT urine'. When what she should of said is, 'ejaculate directly from the 'urethral sponge' is not urine but copious amounts of ejaculate are mixed with 'chemically changed' urine. Research has clearly shown this to be the case.
She also suggests that the ejaculate fluid that is fed directly into the vagina during arousal is different from the ejaculate fluid that comes out of the urethra. Science has shown that both substances are one of the same but can be somewhat watered down when leaving the urethra.
I think she makes some good and positive points but I found myself shaking my head at the little twists and turns she has made with her scientific sauces.



Buzzzz -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 6:59:54 AM)

From my experience , most women that squirted with were having their g spot stimulated. Except one that squirted all the time, from any kind of sensual stimulation , and I assume that she is kinda unique.



TheDarkSaint -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 9:52:37 AM)

I agree with your opinion on the article MariaB..

This was one of the first I was pointed too when I first started researching the subject.. And the only one I could quickly recall off the top of my head.

There is a LOT of good information and a lot of BS on female ejaculation out there. Just take your time, and keep things in perspective.




TakenLady -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 11:04:34 AM)

The orgasm is different for me when I do it as well, and like other posters, I am not a fan of sleeping in a wet spot. It is not an every time event, but when it does, it is a treat. :)



TheDarkSaint -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 1:06:39 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TakenLady

The orgasm is different for me when I do it as well, and like other posters, I am not a fan of sleeping in a wet spot. It is not an every time event, but when it does, it is a treat. :)


That is why you invest in a waterproof comfort throw... Yes there are good quality blankets out there that won't let the liquid through.. Romp in the puddle, pick it up and hang it up to dry. Sleep in dry comfort.. Best of both worlds.. *grins*

OR... You can install a drain in the middle of the mattress.. *winks*



TakenLady -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 1:20:56 PM)

A dran in the middle of the bed... sounds like alotta work to me, LOL :) However, just the waterproof throw sounds just about perfect...



ResidentSadist -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 4:58:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Duskypearls
quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Somehow the thought of you making yourself squirt warms my . . .  heart.




What? And here I thought you would've said the cockles of your heart! Seriously, how could you pass that one up?!

I've always had a crush on her.  If I started talking about my cockles, it would just get outta' hand. 



Canard -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 11:22:14 PM)

The times I've made a woman squirt it was through G-spot stimulation.



GloriousMorning -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 11:47:54 PM)

Seems to be alot of responses here, not all of which I have read, but I tend to disagree with those who say it either happens or it doesn't, and all biological blabla... it's nonsense. The first time I encountered a woman who squirted, I instantly knew I wanted to learn how to do that! I asked alot of women who did squirt, what it felt like etc, asked men who had been with squirters what their experiences were like, and I began experimentation on my own. Each time I felt I was soooo close to it, but no cigar... until one time, after about 7months of trying nearly every time I orgasmed, I finally did it! yay! Personal victory for me, I even did a little dance..

Now, I still do with frequency, sometimes with very little cognizance, sometimes with more determination. I find I cannot when I have something inside me, as this prevents the muscle control I require in order for it to happen. For me, I do have some control over it, and while I don't do it every time, I find I do have more fulfilling and powerful orgasms when it does happen.



tazzygirl -> RE: Squirting (2/19/2012 11:54:33 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TheDarkSaint


quote:

ORIGINAL: TakenLady

The orgasm is different for me when I do it as well, and like other posters, I am not a fan of sleeping in a wet spot. It is not an every time event, but when it does, it is a treat. :)


That is why you invest in a waterproof comfort throw... Yes there are good quality blankets out there that won't let the liquid through.. Romp in the puddle, pick it up and hang it up to dry. Sleep in dry comfort.. Best of both worlds.. *grins*

OR... You can install a drain in the middle of the mattress.. *winks*


Blue cloth chux, found at medical supply stores, are cheaper and easier to machine wash.



xssve -> RE: Squirting (2/20/2012 6:48:31 AM)

It probably is possible for all, or most women, just a lot harder for some - but not all have the dedication you have. [:D]



xssve -> RE: Squirting (2/20/2012 6:50:06 AM)

Puppy pads are cheaper and easier to find, but surgical pads are bigger. You do have to get used to the crinkling. [:-]



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