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age gap between partners

5 year gap in age

23% (12)

8 year gap in age

5% (3)

10 year gap

34% (18)

15 year gap

15% (8)

20 or more

21% (11)

Total Votes : 52

(last vote on : 2/23/2012 10:03:11 AM)
(Poll ended: 3/3/2012 12:00:00 AM)

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age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 6:25:19 PM

realpeoplewanted

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looking for general feed back on partners age grouping

would you date someone 25 years your junior
or for that matter 25 years older then you.

what would you as a peer group thing is best for a relationship to stay strong and sne

5 years?
8 years?
10 yeaars?
20 years?

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 6:34:27 PM

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My sweetie is 3 years older than me. Let's face it, at 53, I'm not looking to partner with someone over 25 years older than me. And 25 years younger is too damn close to my son's age. (Ick.)

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 6:38:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: realpeoplewanted

what would you as a peer group thing is best for a relationship to stay strong and sne

5 years?
8 years?
10 yeaars?
20 years?

Whatever works is best.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 7:15:18 PM

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I was at one time in a realationship with someone 32 years older than I am. My livein is now 10(almost 11) years younger than I am. The perfect age is the one of the person you can best get along with.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 7:16:45 PM

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I voted 10 years. In general. But now that I'm retired, I think that might be too much. I lost a good sub partner 10 years my junior because he still had to strive for career which took him to the opposite coast. As for 10 years older...well, let's just say he would need to be a very fit, active 63 year old with a youthful outlook on life to catch and hold my attention.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 8:27:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BurntKitty

My sweetie is 3 years older than me. Let's face it, at 53, I'm not looking to partner with someone over 25 years older than me. And 25 years younger is too damn close to my son's age. (Ick.)

This.

Master is 5 years older which is perfect for me.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 8:30:58 PM

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I once dated a sub who was 33 years younger than myself. I wear that fact proudly, that she was attracted to me despite the age difference, but the difference made things tough. When I was younger, I dated a woman fifteen years older. At this point, I'd be open to a younger woman but finding a live older one would be hard and necrophilia is a hard limit.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 8:41:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder
This.

Master is 5 years older which is perfect for me.

That, I'm 29, he's 34 and it's just perfect. 3 to 8 years older is almost always the case for me. In relationships where my partner was the same age or younger it always ended due to them being too immature.

We have enough generation overlap that we can relate on most pop culture topics from our youth, and are at similar places professionally and personally.

Bigger than age though is the fact that we're both divorced. Plenty of prospective partners same age as him or older didn't work because they were much younger than me in terms of relationship experience.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 9:07:33 PM

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I have a possible relationship forming with a 25 year old slave
im 49, there is a strong mental bond and we like each other.
and that she can relate to me as well.

im going threw a seperation and she seams to fit.

we both now what our peer groups might say but we dont care.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 9:08:22 PM

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My ex was 10 years older than me.. boy,.. what a mistake that was!.. either he was half dead when i got him or i just plum wore him out.. not sure which it was..

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 9:10:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I once dated a sub who was 33 years younger than myself. I wear that fact proudly, that she was attracted to me despite the age difference, but the difference made things tough. When I was younger, I dated a woman fifteen years older. At this point, I'd be open to a younger woman but finding a live older one would be hard and necrophilia is a hard limit.

Ack, just had a flashback to the Gunny singing "I'm a necrophiliac," while we ran in formation...

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 9:11:22 PM

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veryu good feed back, my Gf is 24 she is exactly 25 years younger then me, we seam to share, I admit she is a slave and a partial daddies girl

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 9:15:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: realpeoplewanted

veryu good feed back, my Gf is 24 she is exactly 25 years younger then me, we seam to share, I admit she is a slave and a partial daddies girl

Not to be too negative, but she's 10 years younger than your lower age limit. Why did you post that limit, then?

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 9:17:28 PM

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My best fit so far was with a guy 7 years older (7's my lucky number after all =p)
I've dated younger, which just didn't work out (lack of maturity on his part), and much older guys have different life goals by that point.

I'm attracted to people of all sorts of ages, and I have a really great friendship with a Top who is 16 years older than me. We get along really well and can relate to each other.

Sometimes age matters, sometimes it doesn't.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 9:22:59 PM

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ecause she's been a local friend for over 6 months, I did not consider her to actually be a slave until she started telling me about her kink, we did not now we where into the same stuff.

it was a shock to both of us, there for she doesnt fall into the posted age group

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 9:29:49 PM

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hmmm... looking back at just the last 10 years the girls were all ages from 18 to 67.

everhope, my current, is about my age 55
the girls before her were 18 & 49
my ex christy is 70 now and we will "date" off and on until the end of time or one of us croaks.

As far as long term goes, I had a 30 run with 3 girls. One my age, one 15 years older and one 10 years younger. I guess age just doesn't matter to me. It's all in the attitude.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 10:06:19 PM

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I won't say that a large age gap never works, because that is just ignorant.

However, for me, I have always felt that an "age appropriate" partner was the best. Even if you throw aside the issue of maturity (we can safely say this isn't always entirely based on age--a 20 year old can have the mental maturity of a 50 year old, or the other way around) there is the issue of generation gap, where the time period in which one was raised they grew up with different things, attitudes...society's influence being incredibly different for someone raised in the 50s and someone raised in the 80s, for instance--thus, it may be hard for two people from very different generations to relate to each other. In addition, with a large enough age gap, the two people can be at different points in their life (for example, as was mentioned earlier, a person who has retired may have difficulty be with someone who is still ambitiously striving for their career.) Plus, this is just a personal thing, but I have always found the prospect of being in a relationship with someone old enough to be my parent to be creepy/uncomfortable.

That being said, my Master is 3 years older than me, and it's perfect for us. At my age, anything more than 5 years older and I would probably run into some of the problems I mentioned above. And guys younger than me are generally quite immature.

In essence though, as long as two people are compatible and comfortable with whatever age gap is present, it's all good. In general though, a big gap CAN cause some issues.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 10:14:26 PM

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Hmm, well no, I wouldn't date someone 25 years younger than me, because they'd still be in diapers, lol.

My rule of thumb is basically "old enough to buy a drink but not old enough to be my parent".

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/13/2012 10:47:02 PM

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My partner is twice my age. Granted, I'm only 19, but still... You never know where love will find you.

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RE: age gap between partners - 2/14/2012 5:45:15 AM

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For me, as close in age as possible is preferable. I'm getting older but still have an interest in a lot of physical activities, so my guy needs to be in good enough shape to do them with me. I'd been in all kinds of relationships where I pursued my activity interests on the side and it was pretty lonely. Now that I have someone who does them with me I'll never go back. Therefore in the past I'd have been open to an older man, but I don't think that's where my interest lies any longer if I were ever to look again.

As far as dating younger....there's a LOT to be said for common interests and being at pretty much the same place in the circle of life. My kids are pretty much grown and out, I'm not looking to go backwards with someone who may have younger ones. I did that and am done with it-nothing against it, I enjoyed it, but am just done with the raising part now.

I can see that as I've aged I've gotten more picky about partner age, and my preferences have narrowed- I pretty much prefer those men close to my own age within 5 years or so. As I've gotten older I've learned how important it is to have a good match with someone that includes things outside of the bedroom and I get my best match personality wise with someone who is close to my age. I'd never cross someone off a list solely for age unless it was maybe 15 years either way, I could never even consider that, but although I'd like to keep it within 5 years I'd still not use more than that as a deal breaker.

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