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how You get over... - 6/2/2006 10:22:10 AM

wouldlike2

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... these days when You feel lonely and You realize the desire of the One so intense inside You??

what does work for You? so that You get not caught in the moment of desperation - smile -

the days when You just realize how deep Your longing, Your arche is, the need to belong to...??

thanks a lot

pet

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 10:32:44 AM

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Get offline.

Go to a movie. Go exercising. Go masturbate. Go remind yourself of the other good things.

Whatever you do, don't ACT on it for a day.

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 11:03:54 AM

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I agree. I opt to go and spend the time with my family. Hang out with my niece, warp my nephew a bit. Or just pamper myself a bit.

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 11:28:42 AM

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Truthfully, I get in an airplane, with a parachute. I then jump from said airplane,with said parachute, determined to test my 'walk the edge' philosophy.
I am a bit of a reckless thrill seeker, so testing the fear that comes from witholding the pulling of the chute reaffirms the fact that I am still alive

Afterwards, you come to the realization that life is only what you make of it.

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 12:27:41 PM

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Sometimes tears release inner frustration.. go have yourself a good cathartic cry. Acknowledge your feelings and do not hide from them. Realize these feelings pass, and that having feelings is a part of being human. It also means you are alive

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 12:33:49 PM

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Get out of the house, excercise, enjoy a hobby that is a passion of yours. Focus on things you enjoy that are not tied into relationships. Stay away from triggers or situations that are dangerous when you are vulnerable. For me when I get that feeling I avoid alcohol and bars and try to do things with friends.

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 1:13:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wouldlike2

... these days when You feel lonely and You realize the desire of the One so intense inside You??

what does work for You? so that You get not caught in the moment of desperation - smile -

the days when You just realize how deep Your longing, Your arche is, the need to belong to...??

thanks a lot

pet

i don't feel desparation; i feel hope.

i have a good life; if my One never appears, i'll still have a good life.

i will never settle for less than all i want in a Dom or a relationship.

i have learnt some protective measures against HNGs and f**ktards.

Hope this helps.

pinkee

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 1:37:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pinkee

i don't feel desparation; i feel hope.

i have a good life; if my One never appears, i'll still have a good life.

i will never settle for less than all i want in a Dom or a relationship.

i have learnt some protective measures against HNGs and f**ktards.

Hope this helps.

pinkee

pinkee - thanks a lot for Your words.
it is not that i am not satisfied with my life, neither i am unhappy..
i do have a wonderful son, i am healthy, have friends and family, a good job and have the luck too that i am able to do an education....
but there are moments in my life - like juliaoceania said - i am crying....
in this moments i feel a certain space deep inside my core is empty and wanna be filled...
it may sound greedy... selfish.... but i am still human and sometimes it seems like a burden...
when getting out from this feeling.. this desire...
i know i was just getting stronger... but i do have to admitt anyway.. some days/ nights - moments - it is just hard to do so... and it seems like it conquer me than....
if the touch, the voice , the gesture of the beloved One be the same as the touch of my family friends... i would not miss... i would not have the desire.. the passion for...

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 1:45:22 PM

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Im a mom too, about the same age, and there have been some frustrating moments in the years I have been a single mom, I would not be human if I didnt feel lonely... it is the human in you that feels these things. You are lucky! But even the lucky have things they desire/need. I try to focus on the joy or even the pain of every moment, because even the pain has its own beauty. Every moment is precious in this life... treasure the ones that are unpleasant because we learn so much from them....smiles. Know you are not alone, and that your One could be just a moment away.

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 1:53:37 PM

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I just live my life and enjoy everyday, being with my friends and family. Everyone get fustrated, and sad and lonley, its in those times that I call up one of my girlfriends and tell her how I feel, and that helps. Then we go shopping..lol

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 4:07:07 PM

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When I lived alone, there were days when I just felt so lonely it hurt. Those were the days I'd put some loud music on and dance around the room, or go to the shops (even if I didn't buy anything, it kept my mind busy). I kept a stack of books and would lose myself in one, or watch a video (I kept a stack of them too just for maudlin days). I would call a friend and if she had time we would get together at either her house or mine for coffee or a wine (or 2

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Those times do pass.......but it is not easy sometimes!

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 4:18:23 PM

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I go to the gym and work myself to exhaustion. Or go out and do something fun with my daughter.

*waves as she heads off to the gym*

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 4:19:24 PM

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No, it's not easy, but what's the alternative? Bitter? Depressed? Yes, sometimes tears are cathartic and at those times, cry. But also know that sometimes, good things are often just around the corner. Open yourself to possibilities. I did and I couldn't be happier.

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 4:29:38 PM

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I go out and live life....i do all the other things that are equally as important to me. After all, this is a part of my life, not it's entirety. It's never good to focus 100% of your attention to any one thing 100% of the time.

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 4:31:40 PM

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i dive deep into the DVD vault and don't come out until most all of them are watched...which is where i have been lately

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 4:38:54 PM

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Before i found my Master the best thing for me was to get out my portable CD player clip it on my belt put on some upbeat music put my headphones and go for a long walk.

Physical acativity seems to help well it helped me in the past.

Matt's littleone

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 5:15:07 PM

slaveladyj

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Write. I find writing relives a lot of my stress, shall we say.

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 7:56:51 PM

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I echo the masses...Find SOMETHING that makes you feel like you are receiving TLC - whether it's pampering yourself, speaking to a good friend, exercising...posting here and reaching out.

You know these moments pass...

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RE: how You get over... - 6/2/2006 8:17:59 PM

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I relish in the moment. That longing, that ache, that inner drive...all cause me to feel him. When I ache like that, I feel gratitude for his ownership, for touching me so intensely that i would long for him so madly. In times like those, I wallow in the sweet torture of knowing just a voice in my ear, a breath on my skin, a hand on my flesh, will catapult me into exctasy once again.

During those times, I tend to write to him, pouring out my heart in an effort to splay open my very soul and invite him in. Some of my best writing is done during those times.

Or, I might set up my camera and take pictures for him, of me in my neediness.

Or I might write him a story - a fantasy of slutty, nasty, passionate and/or tender ways in which I yearn to please him.

Difficult as they may be, enjoy these moments. Cherish them. Reach into yourself and feel him within you.

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