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graceadieu -> RE: Update on Master does not want to have sex (2/23/2012 1:14:44 PM)
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
That was kind of my point. She seems to think that because she and her husband have come to an agreement, everything will be fine.
I've been in WIITWD for 20 years in the LA community. I've seen this situation hundreds of times and I've only seen it work once...and that was when the person in question was Dom/me. Being married to the father of your children and being collared to a dominant man outside of that relationship is a recipe for disaster. Sooner or later, either the husband or the "d" will decide to push an issue, and it will explode. The children will pay the price.
I have seen a marriage and an outside-D work, but not like this. Everybody's got to be on the same page, really get along, have clear bounderies about the different relationships, and genuinely want the poly situation.
If Hubby, of his own initiative, will call the Dom and says "hey, let's go get some beers and watch the game. And then we can talk about the monthly budget, now that you're part of our family financial situation and have access to my wife's income. Oh, and can you watch the kids next Friday so we can go to the PTA meeting?", I think there's a chance it'll work out well. But somehow I'm not optimistic.
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