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Im here to see if this is something that could be a par... - 2/21/2012 3:01:18 PM

Mindinjector

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Hello everyone,

I was kinda led here by intution,I woke up this morning with BDSM on my mind.So, I watched a few videos.I had watched a few videos awhile ago and was intrigued.So,I was familiar somewhat of at least what it was.But I never had the inspiration to really find out what it is all about until now.Im gonna study and learn as much as I can about the lifestyle before I make my choice

I believe myself to be a natural Dominant male.But with that said,what am I supposed to do now? How do I really explore the lifestyle to see if I am what I think I am? I would like some help to point me in the right direction.

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/21/2012 3:10:26 PM

DaddySatyr

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mindinjector

Hello everyone,

I was kinda led here by intution,I woke up this morning with BDSM on my mind.So, I watched a few videos.I had watched a few videos awhile ago and was intrigued.So,I was familiar somewhat of at least what it was.But I never had the inspiration to really find out what it is all about until now.Im gonna study and learn as much as I can about the lifestyle before I make my choice

I believe myself to be a natural Dominant male.But with that said,what am I supposed to do now? How do I really explore the lifestyle to see if I am what I think I am? I would like some help to point me in the right direction.

What an incredibly broad question but, I can give you a fairly simple answer: Be who you are. You say you consider yourself to be naturally dominant. Be that. Start noticing ladies that tend to acquiesce to your way of doing things. Start getting as honest as you can with ladies that you meet. Let them know that for you, the only way a relationship will work is if, at the end of the day, if you two really can't get together on an issue, you need to be the ultimate authority (I like to use the term: "Someone has to drive the bus. Just call me 'Ralph Kramden'.").

A lot of ladies won't take to that. That's fine. They're, obviously, not for you. Get used to the idea of spending quite a bit of time alone until you find the lady(ies) that agree with you on enough to actually want to have a relationship with you.

Lastly (and this will be controversial); there are lots of people that get into BDSM as a kink. That's fine but, you mentioned "lifestyle" so, I'm guessing you're talking more about D/s. Having said that, there are sadists that label themselves "dominant" that will acquiesce and cave on what they believe just so they can get their kink.

I want to stress: If it's about kink for you, that's fine. If it's about D/s, stand your ground and don't settle for anything that doesn't meet your vision of how your life and relationships should unfold.

Peace and comfort,

Michael

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/21/2012 3:11:34 PM

mnottertail

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Get thee to a munch.

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/21/2012 3:20:20 PM

DarkSteven

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You live in Arlington. Gotta be stuff there.

That said, the videos just show a bunch of fucking and playing. When you get to a munch, you will discover a whole different world - how you conduct yourself and how you treat others. The fucking and playing is there too, but that's not the focus, especially initially.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/21/2012 3:30:36 PM

Mindinjector

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mindinjector

Hello everyone,

I was kinda led here by intution,I woke up this morning with BDSM on my mind.So, I watched a few videos.I had watched a few videos awhile ago and was intrigued.So,I was familiar somewhat of at least what it was.But I never had the inspiration to really find out what it is all about until now.Im gonna study and learn as much as I can about the lifestyle before I make my choice

I believe myself to be a natural Dominant male.But with that said,what am I supposed to do now? How do I really explore the lifestyle to see if I am what I think I am? I would like some help to point me in the right direction.

What an incredibly broad question but, I can give you a fairly simple answer: Be who you are. You say you consider yourself to be naturally dominant. Be that. Start noticing ladies that tend to acquiesce to your way of doing things. Start getting as honest as you can with ladies that you meet. Let them know that for you, the only way a relationship will work is if, at the end of the day, if you two really can't get together on an issue, you need to be the ultimate authority (I like to use the term: "Someone has to drive the bus. Just call me 'Ralph Kramden'.").

A lot of ladies won't take to that. That's fine. They're, obviously, not for you. Get used to the idea of spending quite a bit of time alone until you find the lady(ies) that agree with you on enough to actually want to have a relationship with you.

Michael

Its good to know that there is a market out there at least

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/21/2012 3:31:38 PM

Mindinjector

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Get thee to a munch.

Yep...Im gonna check one out

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/21/2012 3:34:21 PM

Mindinjector

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

You live in Arlington. Gotta be stuff there.

That said, the videos just show a bunch of fucking and playing. When you get to a munch, you will discover a whole different world - how you conduct yourself and how you treat others. The fucking and playing is there too, but that's not the focus, especially initially.

Yea Im 15 minutes from DC...Ive already read some stuff about the scene...now I think I'll go to a function

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/21/2012 4:02:58 PM

Fornica

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Welcome to CM. May you find what you seek :-)

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/21/2012 4:24:12 PM

Mindinjector

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Someone recommended that I get a mentor....anyone know anything about that? any mentors willing to teach a young dude like me?

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/21/2012 4:31:59 PM

sebastien31

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From a newbie to another, welcome and good luck!

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/21/2012 4:42:05 PM

Mindinjector

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sebastien31

From a newbie to another, welcome and good luck!

Thanks man...same to you

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/22/2012 5:36:45 AM

kalikshama

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I found several of these books useful when I was new: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm

Welcome!

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/22/2012 6:13:33 AM

ashjor911

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Welcome

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/22/2012 7:37:14 AM

Yin2Yang

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Welcome to CM.
You'll get a thousand different descriptions of what a D should be and how they should act. Just make notes, decide what feels comfortable and go with it.
Word of advice, If you are trying to discover who you are in all of this, don't jump into a 24/7 out of the gate. Try a few different hats on and see how they feel.

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/22/2012 12:49:50 PM

Mindinjector

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Thanks for the advice

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/22/2012 1:21:44 PM

garry1893

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Im here also anew to this site. seeking submissive bitches for my pleasure.

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/22/2012 2:09:45 PM

DarkSteven

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quote:

ORIGINAL: garry1893

Im here also anew to this site. seeking submissive bitches for my pleasure.

Um, garry, a few finer points of etiquette.

1. Someone else started an intro thread. It's frowned upon to hijack someone else's thread. Start your own.
2. If you wish to call your own submissive your bitch, feel free. That's between you and her. But it's impolite to use terms like that publicly.
3. Conversation. Women here generally like that before you proposition them.

With that, welcome to collarme.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/22/2012 4:22:25 PM

BurntKitty

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Welcome to CM.

(Psst- he's polite, has an intelligently worded intro & profile, and his pic is clothed! Can we keep him??? Oh, and he's a cutie pie, too..)

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/22/2012 5:06:52 PM

OsideGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: garry1893

Im here also anew to this site. seeking submissive bitches for my pleasure.

Um, garry, a few finer points of etiquette.

1. Someone else started an intro thread. It's frowned upon to hijack someone else's thread. Start your own.
2. If you wish to call your own submissive your bitch, feel free. That's between you and her. But it's impolite to use terms like that publicly.
3. Conversation. Women here generally like that before you proposition them.

With that, welcome to collarme.

DS is correct.

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RE: Im here to see if this is something that could be a... - 2/22/2012 6:16:28 PM

DomMeinCT

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BurntKitty

Welcome to CM.

(Psst- he's polite, has an intelligently worded intro & profile, and his pic is clothed! Can we keep him??? Oh, and he's a cutie pie, too..)

Bonus points that the background of the shot isn't a skeevy bathroom and it looks neat.

Welcome to CM, OP

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The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances:
if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
~ Carl Jung

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