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NakedWimp4Couple -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 5:04:49 PM)

The original poster's second reply on this thread is copied below.....

"public humiliation as in like minded people in the main... but exposure to close friends and family, total account control and chastity, forced to embrace feminism 24/."





OsideGirl -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 5:29:38 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I don't know that the op mentioned family.

Yeah, L, he actually did.

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ORIGINAL: EnforcedFemSlave
but exposure to close friends and family, total account control and chastity, forced to embrace feminism 24/.


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The op sounds like every other forced fem wanna be that has presented on the forum. Addicted to a fantasy with little regard to anyone else. Unless every addicted fantasy seeker is a sociopath and we need an addition to the description of what a sociopath is... this is pretty typical behavior around here. Being self focused and not caring about others isn't the only 'symptom' of a sociopath and the damage done is far more serious than neglecting to be concerned about a public humiliation scene of being dressed like a woman being blackmailed. lol


I agree. Clinically not a sociopath.

One of the keys with a sociopath is that they think they're smarter and better than everyone around them and humiliation just doesn't fit into that mold.



Lockit -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 6:03:03 PM)

Well damn... he did mention family... sociopath.. no, fuck head, yes.



NakedWimp4Couple -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 6:24:47 PM)

I will settle on that.........no sociopath but he is a certified fuck head.
Works for me.......



PrincessDonna11 -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 6:46:28 PM)

I walk my subs in public on collars and leashs to stores,bars, and just through the park.and have seen more people smile then frown! Good luck and if you follow your own heart things will go well. Sometimes I get tired of the judgemental people that get on here. Everyone is in their own level in this life style and I try to respect that in everyone. The little snide comments about what you may be making more important is inmature because they dont know you or your sub. Feel free to ask any more questions you may have,there are sane people here that are willing to give you honest answers. Good Luck



Madame4a -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 6:58:39 PM)

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tooo funny....

op, your post is one of many along the lines of... "I don't reeally care about anyone else, and here is the laundry list fo the things I want, how I want them... and oh, by the way, being made to be a woman is humiliating... "\

there are several of us who don't particularly care for the sentiment...



PrincessDonna11 -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 7:13:45 PM)

Weather the "CLICK" of CM is offended should never stop a person from asking a question. If your offended dont post and maybe they will get the messege. If some one starts talking about children thats what I would do and report it but this is an alternate lifestyle site and everyone should feel ok posting.



LadyGold -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 7:18:34 PM)

Ummmmm.. I always thought that the "consensual" in SSC included anyone who might see or hear or whatever... It's fine to be nekkid in private, it's not OK to force a stranger to view your nekkidness.

Free speech doesn't include yelling "Fire!" in a crowded theatre, either.

~LG



Madame4a -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 7:27:05 PM)

I'm not sure where I said I was offended... don't read into what I wrote.. read what I actually wrote



Lockit -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 7:29:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PrincessDonna11

Weather the "CLICK" of CM is offended should never stop a person from asking a question. If your offended dont post and maybe they will get the messege. If some one starts talking about children thats what I would do and report it but this is an alternate lifestyle site and everyone should feel ok posting.


The click? We as individuals responded the way we each saw fit, I'm sorry that you didn't like it. You gave your opinion which was different than what others posted and that is okay... but to say we are a click.. (what really is that by the way, don't you mean clique?) because we are regulars and posted similar things is... respectful or just a different level than you are? Seems you have no problem dishing it out but you don't like it when others do.

We don't have to agree, doesn't mean we join a club if we do.



GloriousMorning -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 7:40:57 PM)

Happily, I don't have to be part of a clique or crew in order to reasonably differentiate fantasy from reality, sane from ..  insane, consensual from nonconconsual. Ive witnessed people at regular non kinky public events being led on a collar, and I frowned upon it then. I just happen to think it's in poor taste and poor judgement. I thought the reason the OP asked was because they wanted our opinions, not to placate the fantasy, but then again....



lizi -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 7:42:58 PM)


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ORIGINAL: PrincessDonna11

I walk my subs in public on collars and leashs to stores,bars, and just through the park.and have seen more people smile then frown! Good luck and if you follow your own heart things will go well. Sometimes I get tired of the judgemental people that get on here. Everyone is in their own level in this life style and I try to respect that in everyone. The little snide comments about what you may be making more important is inmature because they dont know you or your sub. Feel free to ask any more questions you may have,there are sane people here that are willing to give you honest answers. Good Luck


How nice for everyone that sees you displaying your kink to the public! Did you get their consent btw? How about the kids....get their parent's consent to view an adult expression of sexuality?

If you get tired of the judgmental people here I can understand that, so how about if I line up your family and relatives so I can nonconsensually use them as an audience to get off on while I parade around in front of them doing whatever my little kinky heart desires. Whatever gets my partner and I off into sexual bliss - you wouldn't say no would you? Because that would be so...judgmental. How about if the dirty old man on the bus leers at your sweet younger niece and sprouts a visible hardon, that would be ok right? Because it's so judgmental if he couldn't do that and hey....free expression everyone!! Who cares if your niece didn't consent to be perv fodder for the nice old gent- he needs to follow his own heart where his lifestyle is concerned! Tell niece to not make snide little comments and just suck it up because the man is free to enjoy himself isn't he?

Let me just ask you...do you parade your subs around in front of your family too then? Grandma and her neighbors perhaps? The elementary school nephews? If not then why would you do it to someone else's grandma, nephews, etc?



Lockit -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 7:48:57 PM)

Come on now... everyone knows children do not go to stores or parks! [8|]

We should all be so wonderfully objective and open minded that we care little for those peoples children to get our kink on. [8|] Or how about adults... they should be subjected to our lifestyle choices because of what?





lizi -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/23/2012 7:55:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: EnforcedFemSlave

public humiliation as in like minded people in the main... but exposure to close friends and family, total account control and chastity, forced to embrace feminism 24/.


Honestly I think you should be ashamed of yourself, and not in any good tingly way. Consent is a cornerstone of BDSM, anyone who fucks with nonconsent (as in true nonconsent, not rape 'play' etc) is lower than dirt.

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i hear you, but respectfully dont agree... its there faces of despair that drive the passion


If you tried this with me as the family member you'd find yourself pretty disappointed as I'd just cut off contact with you for as long as it took for you to get your head screwed on straight again. If that was forever...ok.
I won't be used by another, I happen to take consent very seriously for myself and anyone else.
Sad to see that you're so morally challenged that you don't understand that basic concept.



SadisticMs2 -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/24/2012 5:19:10 AM)

So not unlike snuff, this is a one-shot scene, because I doubt very much that your family will want to see you again after you've non-consensually used them for your own jollies. Nice to know you hold them in so little regard.

I've been kinky since I hit puberty, so you'd think I'd be understanding of someone who wants to just get out there and be himself, right? Wrong. I'm also very protective of my own rights - I won't allow you to use me non-consensually for your own jollies - and I'm even more protective of my family. If a family member thought he was going to use my grandmother or my kid or my dad in such a way, he better think again....there would be severe consequences that would not be in the least erotic to such actions. Being cut off from all family contact would be the LEAST of his issues.

Is it really worth it for 5 minutes of fun on your part?

Honestly, I couldn't care less what people what to do in the privacy of their own homes, as long as it's SSC...and I don't worry much about safe and sane because there will always be idiots out there, but consensual is non-negotiable under any circumstances.

As a Domme, I personally would not consider taking on a "submissive" who was so entirely self centered and focused. Exactly what would he be submitting to other than his own unrealistic fantasies? Self destruction is not an attractive trait in anyone.



thishereboi -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/24/2012 6:00:36 AM)


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ORIGINAL: PrincessDonna11

I walk my subs in public on collars and leashs to stores,bars, and just through the park.and have seen more people smile then frown! Good luck and if you follow your own heart things will go well. Sometimes I get tired of the judgemental people that get on here. Everyone is in their own level in this life style and I try to respect that in everyone. The little snide comments about what you may be making more important is inmature because they dont know you or your sub. Feel free to ask any more questions you may have,there are sane people here that are willing to give you honest answers. Good Luck


No they don't know him or his sub. And I have to assume you don't either based on that comment. But a quick look at his profile will tell you he isn't the top. He is a sub looking for a domme to feminize and humiliate him. My guess is this thread is his way of killing time chatting with the ladies about all the delicious things they could do to him until he actually finds one of his own. And comments like this one..."public humiliation as in like minded people in the main... but exposure to close friends and family, total account control and chastity, forced to embrace feminism 24/. " lead me to believe he really doesn't give a shit about others. Now you may think it's just fine to parade your subs around on a leash, but there are going to be a lot of others who disagree. I have managed to do a lot of playing in the 12 odd years I have been aware of this lifestyle and so have my friends. I have never felt the need to involve the public in it.



OsideGirl -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/24/2012 7:26:01 AM)


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ORIGINAL: PrincessDonna11
The little snide comments about what you may be making more important is inmature because they dont know you or your sub.
He is the sub and he says he wants to see "the look of despair" on the faces of his friends and family. And you think it's okay to deliberately cause distress to innocent friends and family and likely kill his relationships with them.

If that makes me part of a clique, I'm proud to be part of it.



DaddySatyr -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/24/2012 7:28:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyGold
Free speech doesn't include yelling "Fire!" in a crowded theatre, either.

~LG



Well, there goes the bulk of my plans for Saturday night!



Peace and comfort,



Michael



MissImmortalPain -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/24/2012 10:02:03 AM)

Wow, this thread is a train wreck far beyond what I would have thought it could be. From the OP wanting to shock family to someone compairing dressing in drag to yelling fire in a crowed theatre. And now we are down to the "clique" arguement again. We all have opinions, we should all be able to share them.

Having said that.....

To the Op, there are ways you can go about your "kink" even with family that will not shock anyone into a heart attack. We often forget that while we think all eyes are on us they are really often in other places. Like wearing pink panties under your jeans, or a piece of jewlery that only you and your owner know the meaning of. You know it's there, you feel the pressue, they don't. Or, if you are lucky enough to have open minded family memebers, try sitting down and actually having a real conversation with them. If you don't feel humiliation from telling the family you like drag than it is likely nothing will make you feel it. The humiliation factor you are looking for. It really isn't that hard to find. The reaction your thread got should have told you that much.



OsideGirl -> RE: Public humiliation/Blackmail Games (2/24/2012 10:59:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain
someone compairing dressing in drag to yelling fire in a crowed theatre.
I don't think she was saying that dressing in drag in particular is like "yelling fire in a crowed theatre". She was referring to the fact that there's a point where expressing kink should no longer be thought of as a free speech item, just like how yelling fire in a crowed theatre wouldn't be.



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