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TalkDominantToMe -> How to be taken on by a Mistress (2/25/2012 5:34:18 PM)

Please, tell me what I need to do to be taken on by a female dominant on CM.

I'd love to know what you, as a Mistress, look for in a submissive on CollarMe. What is the determining factor?

All I wish to know is what you look for in a sub's profile. (Edit) Not my profile specifically.

Regards,
Chris



DarkSteven -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 5:38:36 PM)

Um, your profile makes it clear you are looking for online ONLY. By "taken in", I had assumed you meant physically moved into her household.

What am I missing here? And what is it you seek here - what qualities do you want from a Mistress?



Baroana -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 5:41:10 PM)

Don't be twelve.



TalkDominantToMe -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 5:43:45 PM)

I made appropriate adjustments to my original post. Happy?



poise -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 6:18:19 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TalkDominantToMe

I made appropriate adjustments to my original post. Happy?

I would have never known you were acting 12 in your profile prior to you adjusting it.
However, this rather snotty response doesn't say "I'm mature enough to take critique",
especially when you are asking the opinions of those you are hoping to attract.

I don't feel that by knowing what Mistresses may find appealing in others' profiles
will benefit you in your search. That's the same as asking what kind of peanut butter
they like on a sandwich, and then hoping you can somehow change who you are and turn
yourself into their preferred peanut butter.

Be authentically you. That way, when you do attract someone, it will be for who you are,
and not for who you are pretending to be.



hangemhigh1953 -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 6:22:49 PM)

Most Dommes who won't ask you for money want a true relationship with someone, not a cam whore or pen pal.



Baroana -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 6:30:21 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: poise

quote:

ORIGINAL: TalkDominantToMe

I made appropriate adjustments to my original post. Happy?

I would have never known you were acting 12 in your profile prior to you adjusting it.
However, this rather snotty response doesn't say "I'm mature enough to take critique",
especially when you are asking the opinions of those you are hoping to attract.

I don't feel that by knowing what Mistresses may find appealing in others' profiles
will benefit you in your search. That's the same as asking what kind of peanut butter
they like on a sandwich, and then hoping you can somehow change who you are and turn
yourself into their preferred peanut butter.

Be authentically you. That way, when you do attract someone, it will be for who you are,
and not for who you are pretending to be.


I have not seen the profile, because this guy is so far outside the range of what I would be interested in that I doubt I could be of any assistance here. (Plus, I'm leery about whether the kid is even of legal age).

What I meant by my prior comment was that the OP both looks and comes across as though he possesses the maturity of a teenager.



myrgth -> RE: How to be taken on by a Mistress (2/25/2012 6:34:36 PM)

Taken on in what way? 

I look for personality and attraction.  To contact another or to continue contact with someone who has messaged me, I must find him in some way attractive and he must present in such a way to show he is a real person with a personality.  From there it is a matter of compatibility.  Mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and openness.  Kink rarely, if ever, determines my interest in another.  It doesn't matter if I'm a square peg and another is a square hole if I don't like them as a person.  Lastly, it will be about the ability to transition from chatting on line to phone and then to in person.

As to a subs profile - I recommend scrolling to the top of the Ask A Mistress forum and clicking on the FAQ.  It will link you to a well prepared and presented "How to attract a Dominant Woman" profile help.





lizi -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 6:46:16 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: TalkDominantToMe

I made appropriate adjustments to my original post. Happy?


Wow, well that little remark is sure to bring in lots of suggestions for you from your target audience here. It also screams of a giving submissiveness. Looks like you shot yourself in the foot there...



DarkSteven -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 7:10:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TalkDominantToMe

I made appropriate adjustments to my original post. Happy?


More like sad. You don't have any clue how badly you just shot yourself in the foot.

Porn videos are nice, but they never show the protocol, the respect in the lifestyle, and the demand that Dommes put on their men to behave in public. You've just shown that you will smart off to a random stranger who was trying to be helpful. And you completely ignored the second part of my post, which asked what kind of Domme you wanted.

I'm sorry.



Killerangel -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 8:18:35 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: TalkDominantToMe

I made appropriate adjustments to my original post. Happy?


I am positive that no Domme in her right mind will want anything to do with you after that remark. It says that submissive is a label you slapped on yourself without any particular personal meaning to you, and that you don't know any manners besides. Why would a Domme want to be represented by an ill-mannered little boy when she could have someone to be proud of?

Your question here seems like a shortcut as well. You don't want to know how to spiff up your own profile, you just want the generic Cliff's Notes so you can attract a Domme. Sad for you, they'll insist on getting to know what you're like first, and then see it's too much trouble to be embarrassed by someone so quick to be offended, when there are literally 50 others waiting in the wings.



Delilya -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 9:34:12 PM)

I look for Maturity in my subs. Which has nothing to do with age.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: How to be taken on by a Mistress (2/25/2012 9:48:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: TalkDominantToMe

Please, tell me what I need to do to be taken on by a female dominant on CM.

I'd love to know what you, as a Mistress, look for in a submissive on CollarMe. What is the determining factor?

All I wish to know is what you look for in a sub's profile. (Edit) Not my profile specifically.

Regards,
Chris


Cash is always a workable venue.



TheBootyMan -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/25/2012 10:24:19 PM)

Like she said, don't be twelve. [:)]
quote:

ORIGINAL: TalkDominantToMe

I made appropriate adjustments to my original post. Happy?



midmichiganguy -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/26/2012 7:58:06 AM)

What do mistresses on here look for? LOL Look around! They look for people who have at least double their income. So that means you need to make at least 14.80 an hour or double whatever minimum wage is. You should also only have about 3 percent body fat in comparison to their 20 - 30 percent and you should be willing to work long unrewarding hours for them at whatever menial task they are too 'good' to do for themselves. Things like taking out the trash, doing their own laundry, washing their own dishes, etc. etc. Also be ready and willing to provide them with relocation costs, a vehicle of their choice, and a place to move into. If you can provide all these material things for them then you will have found what they are looking for in a submissive. Anything else that is said by them is mere window dressing to make themselves feel better. *Shrugs* I learned a long time ago to no longer listen upfront to what they are saying and to only look behind their words for their true intentions. You should do the same and you will be a better person for it TalkDominantToMe.



lizi -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/26/2012 8:05:36 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: midmichiganguy

What do mistresses on here look for? LOL Look around! They look for people who have at least double their income. So that means you need to make at least 14.80 an hour or double whatever minimum wage is. You should also only have about 3 percent body fat in comparison to their 20 - 30 percent and you should be willing to work long unrewarding hours for them at whatever menial task they are too 'good' to do for themselves. Things like taking out the trash, doing their own laundry, washing their own dishes, etc. etc. Also be ready and willing to provide them with relocation costs, a vehicle of their choice, and a place to move into. If you can provide all these material things for them then you will have found what they are looking for in a submissive. Anything else that is said by them is mere window dressing to make themselves feel better. *Shrugs* I learned a long time ago to no longer listen upfront to what they are saying and to only look behind their words for their true intentions. You should do the same and you will be a better person for it TalkDominantToMe.



Butthurt alert [:-]



midmichiganguy -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/26/2012 11:29:46 AM)

Not butthurt at all. Just providing a reality check. Ask yourself why these alleged dominants can have the time to post thousands of responses if they are so successful with life? Who has time to spend all day posting responses if you have obligations such as family, work, and life? *Shrugs* Then take a look around at the listing for female dominants in your state and see how many of them are scam artists with no positive future. Welcome to the online world. So if that makes me butthurt that I recognize the fact that the vast majority of online female dominants are worthless individuals in life and who have hidden agendas then so be it. Now off to do something actually productive with my day beyond haunting these silly boards like *GASP* finish my college paper on improper performance appraisal systems and adverse impact on protected status citizens. Then after that I am going to meet with the community volunteer HR presenters for sunday dinner while we discuss upcoming spring events.



Madame4a -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/26/2012 2:04:45 PM)

my guess is you're doing as well as the OP in attracting someone...




kalikshama -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/26/2012 2:44:43 PM)

quote:

Then take a look around at the listing for female dominants in your state and see how many of them are scam artists with no positive future.


You sub males have it easy. Fin doms are easy to spot. Married cheating men take much longer to out.



Baroana -> RE: How to be taken in by a Mistress (2/26/2012 2:50:19 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

quote:

Then take a look around at the listing for female dominants in your state and see how many of them are scam artists with no positive future.


You sub males have it easy. Fin doms are easy to spot. Married cheating men take much longer to out.


One tell I've found is use of the word "discreet" in their profile. I tend to steer clear whenever I spot it.



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