NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Master says do it (2/28/2012 11:18:19 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LoreBook quote:
If I had a sub and s/he started asking other Dominants what to do with my poop, s/he'd be up shit creek without a paddle as far as I'm concerned. Why? What is wrong with a sub seeking input from other people when faced with a decision? To me it smacks of insecurity, like you're afraid that other Dominants might tell your sub something you don't want them to know. I would think, that if I was secure in my opinion or position, I would welcome my submissive asking other people theirs. I can see Lockit's position regarding the chat attempt, but why would asking other Dominants their opinion be such a horrible crime? It's not that I'm insecure, I'm really not. What I meant was I don't appreciate a sub of mine bypassing me and going directly to other Dominants about a personal matter without talking to me first and, yes, one's shit is personal. I have no problems with him talking to other Dom/mes, either in person or on a message board, but at least talk to me first. To me, it's just really bad conduct and bad protocol to go to another Dominant first, rather than your own, with a problem/issue. What would other Dom/mes be able to say except for what they would do, and how would that make any difference in our relationship since they aren't his Dominant? Also, and I admit this, it could just be a sore spot with me because I used to have a sub that decided our dynamic wasn't working for whatever reason(he never said specifically), he went to my also Dom partner and told him he wanted out without even mentioning it to me at all. I found out through my partner when I got home later. Having my own sub bypass me in our dynamic is totally unacceptable and I won't put up with it. It would be cause for being out on his ear. quote:
ORIGINAL: Lockit I don't mind if my submissive contacts other dominants personally or by a thread asking a question if we have already discussed whatever it is and nothing is lacking there. If he were to contact someone saying what was said to me in an email... he would be in the shit house looking for another home. [:D] That wouldn't be a security/insecurity issue... but it sure would be a matter of conduct unbecoming of a faithful submissive. [;)] Exactly!!! You said exactly what I was thinking! NBMG
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