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RE: Married Dom Lied to Me advice plz - 5/25/2012 12:40:22 PM   
kalthus


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Thanks everyone for your advice I take the blame for not making sure he was clean.

Well - no. The bastard lied to you. There's a world of difference between 'my wife is OK with this and I don't have anything nasty' and 'my wife has no idea and I'm infected with an STD'

I would agree that you shouldn't have unprotected sex with anyone until you have a good degree of trust established AND they can show you the results of a blood test - because this is you're life we are talking about.

As for the rest of it - you really do just have to judge peoples trustfulness and act accordingly. It's not up to you to make sure he's single or his wife IS ok, it's up to him to be honest about it. If he's not - don't beat yourself up about it too much -he's still the guilty one.

The question is - what do you do now? Because ifm you DID continue to see him, thats a whole other story...



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RE: Married Dom Lied to Me advice plz - 5/25/2012 7:22:57 PM   
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Actually, I am glad you share this situation on here for newbies to read. When I first got into it, I also met a man I clicked with, who told me, he and his wife are sleeping in separate bedrooms, and are only "staying together for the kids". They both gone their separate ways, and are both dating other people. I asked him when are his and wife getting a divorce, and he said, when his children are adults.
I do have a bad dose of child-like naivety in me. I believed him, but later found out from third party who knew him and his family that it was not true. Third party helped me wake up by telling him his gonna tell his wife, he completely freaked out and panic was all out to prevent third party from telling his wife about it, so third party told him he gotta come clean with me. It was just one of those men who loves his vanilla wife but trying to still get their kinks outside their marriage. But..., that was the last I am having anything to do with married men. Another one was so young, I didn't even bother to ask if he was married. You generally don't even expect a man in his early 20's to be married. Learnt another lesson, never take it for granted. His wife found out and gave me hell, and I was shock he even had a wife plus kids, cuz he didn't even seem mature enough to handle all that. I never picked up his calls ever again after that.

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RE: Married Dom Lied to Me advice plz - 5/25/2012 8:18:24 PM   
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Have you ever heard of a wife befriending a woman who's been going down on her husband?

Get away from both of them.

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RE: Married Dom Lied to Me advice plz - 5/26/2012 1:57:51 AM   
kalthus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Zensualista

Have you ever heard of a wife befriending a woman who's been going down on her husband?

Get away from both of them.


It does sound a bit like 'keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer...'


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RE: Married Dom Lied to Me advice plz - 5/28/2012 6:15:19 PM   
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Live and learn.

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RE: Married Dom Lied to Me advice plz - 6/15/2012 5:43:28 AM   
mons


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There are so many married men who come here!
I do not believe some women realy think their man is not cheating!
I have a great deal of trust, in people! But married men of anyone could be
cheating it is hell out there for wives and so sad!

They come on late and will email from another state first sign for some
but it is still sad!

I told friends do not have email accounts that are different too much can happen
no trust!

I wish all of the married women out there the best of luck and I hope your husbands
are not cheating, if you cheated on someone somewhere along the road it comes back to
haunt you!
Mons

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RE: Married Dom Lied to Me advice plz - 6/15/2012 10:21:50 AM   
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There are married cheating men on vanilla sites such as OKCupid too, but my experience on CM is that they are more up front about it here, which I appreciate.

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RE: Married Dom Lied to Me advice plz - 6/15/2012 10:34:58 AM   
kalthus


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In the words of Eddie Murphy:

"You can have the greatest pussy in the world, and your man will still try and cheat. Your pussy can have a cape with an S on it and your man will still try and cheat. We are low and cheat by nature. Its a dick thing. Do not try to understand it if you don't have a dick. Some of yoiu women sitting there are saying 'not my man'. Yes, YOUR man. And if he aint here tonight, he's fucking someone else."

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RE: Married Dom Lied to Me advice plz - 6/18/2012 12:47:05 PM   
sub4hire


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Get yourself checked out. Terminate whatever relationship you have with him. Also consider she could be telling you that just so you get angry and leave her husband alone.

Regardless of what the reason, get checked out.

Learn to communicate when you meet the next dude.
Set up standards for yourself and keep to them. Have the required amount of self esteem so you do stick to them.

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