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what did you do? - 2/29/2012 3:59:28 PM

tinyxdresser

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k, facts are i was domme and he was sub for a year and a half, we live 3 hours apart, and were averaging 2 x's a month. I would consider us extreme. i'm a crossdresser, but bottom only when comes to sex ... in our relationship, sex and bsdm were equal ... 2 months ago, he in middle of session, says "don't want to do it anymore ... " and no reason why and no more sex, period.

anyways, last time i saw him ... yet he keeps chatting with me ... every day .... I'd finally had enough yesterday (yeh, i know, i'm too nice), and told him ... we're done, you want me, you know where to find me ... anyways, we chatted and i finally pinned him down to the reason and it is ... "i am only seeing us in a bsdm relationship" .... honestly, i can accept this, it's been bsdm from the first moment, but i want the sex ... am i wrong here ... i guess my question is ... has anyone had this situation before and what did you do bout it ... just curious and guess i just want some opinions before i make my final decision here ... i dont' know where else to go ... thanks

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RE: what did you do? - 2/29/2012 4:05:58 PM

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.... oh, and he says ... " I only see us in a bsdm relationship, and my desire for that has tapered off at the moment, and i dont know why" .... he's 65

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RE: what did you do? - 2/29/2012 4:11:02 PM

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It sounds like he wants more than just BDSM from the relationship and doesn't feel you can offer that to him.

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RE: what did you do? - 2/29/2012 7:19:41 PM

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Doesn't sound like there's any reading between the lines to be done. He said how he's viewed the relationship and that it isn't doing it for him now. If you want to try and make it work, ask him what he needs to be happy with the relationship, then decide if you'll do it, or not.

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RE: what did you do? - 3/1/2012 4:36:56 AM

SadisticMs2

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He's just not that into you.

Move along.

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RE: what did you do? - 3/1/2012 4:24:31 PM

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.... oh, and he says ... " I only see us in a bsdm relationship, and my desire for that has tapered off at the moment, and i dont know why" .... he's 65