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orimotis69 -> Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 10:37:09 AM)
So I'm currently talking to a sub I meet from CM and things started off fairly good. I asked her questions like what she does, what kind of experiences she had, and what kind of fantasies she has. I of course also told her about myself. Most of the time I was asking her questions and she never really asked me anything even though I told that she should. But now she telling me that she doesn't have time for this and that I'm not a real Master. Is there something I'm missing here? I didn't try to rush anything so I took it slow and wanted to get to know her more. I've communicated with her through IM but we haven't talked to each other through web cam yet. Should I respond to this or should I just move on?

Hillwilliam -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 10:41:36 AM)
I don't think you did anything wrong. I think you 2 are just incompatible. It's a hell of a lot better to find out now than 2 years from now. Keep it up. You'll find someone. Just be yourself and don't compromise your values.

OsideGirl -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 10:43:38 AM)
She's looking for something other than what you're offering. Don't be offended, after all it could be that she's looking for something that is not realistic.

DomMeinCT -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 10:45:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: orimotis69 Most of the time I was asking her questions and she never really asked me anything even though I told that she should. But now she telling me that she doesn't have time for this and that I'm not a real Master. I think she's given you the answer: She wants to move on. No matter what her reasoning, or whether you agree with it or not, she's saying she's not interested, so why respond? Expend your positive energy on more compatible women.

LaTigresse -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 10:48:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT quote: ORIGINAL: orimotis69 Most of the time I was asking her questions and she never really asked me anything even though I told that she should. But now she telling me that she doesn't have time for this and that I'm not a real Master. I think she's given you the answer: She wants to move on. No matter what her reasoning, or whether you agree with it or not, she's saying she's not interested, so why respond? Expend your positive energy on more compatible women. This.

SoftBonds -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 10:49:35 AM)
There is a supply and demand issue on the site too. Lots of guys, especially Dom guys, not so many Sub women. So any given sub woman will probably have lots of guys talking to her. She might have thought you were cool until someone even better showed up. She might have chatted with you as a "backup," and then her prefered Dom wanted to claim her. You might have been one of 5 "in the running," until someone pulled out something that really caught her eye. In other words, there is a good chance it wasn't you, it was just her. That said, there are a lot of women on earth (3 billion plus), so don't worry, you will find the right one.

LaTigresse -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 10:51:27 AM)
Until someone actually makes an effort beyond the land of computers and phones......they are ALL backups!

JeffBC -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 11:02:04 AM)
You should move on. What does it matter what her reasons are. As an aside, if I were you I'd be happy this all happened. The moment she came out with the "real master" thing I'd know that if nothing else, she was too parochial and too judgemental to be life partner with me. I'm good with "you're not what I'm looking for". But declaring someone else "unreal" is just plain insulting.

OsideGirl -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 11:57:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC The moment she came out with the "real master" thing I'd know that if nothing else, she was too parochial and too judgemental to be life partner with me. I'm good with "you're not what I'm looking for". But declaring someone else "unreal" is just plain insulting. Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. These words usually come from people that haven't had a long term D/s relationship (or even any real time D/s relationship) and have unrealistic expectations of what a "master" should be.

orimotis69 -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 12:21:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC The moment she came out with the "real master" thing I'd know that if nothing else, she was too parochial and too judgemental to be life partner with me. I'm good with "you're not what I'm looking for". But declaring someone else "unreal" is just plain insulting. Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. These words usually come from people that haven't had a long term D/s relationship (or even any real time D/s relationship) and have unrealistic expectations of what a "master" should be. Perhaps, but she did say she had a Master for 3 years. After sending out so many messages on CM, it's kinda sad that my first encounter ended this way. But moving on is the only thing I can really do.

LaTigresse -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 1:05:52 PM)
Dude, quit being such a wussie. If that described situation on your one and only bit of communication is going to get you down, you better high tail your ass off the internet. Seriously.

kalikshama -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 1:45:46 PM)
quote: it's kinda sad that my first encounter ended this way. I sure had to kiss a lot of CM frogs before I found my prince; be patient. Thought - perhaps you are starting with the sex talk too quickly?

OsideGirl -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 1:49:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: orimotis69 quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC The moment she came out with the "real master" thing I'd know that if nothing else, she was too parochial and too judgemental to be life partner with me. I'm good with "you're not what I'm looking for". But declaring someone else "unreal" is just plain insulting. Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. These words usually come from people that haven't had a long term D/s relationship (or even any real time D/s relationship) and have unrealistic expectations of what a "master" should be. Perhaps, but she did say she had a Master for 3 years. That doesn't mean anything. Did ya read the thread where a woman showed up at his house, gave him money, blew him, cleaned his house and then left....for two years? She called him a Master. To some people, having a play session every Saturday night gets them to say they had a Master, when in reality, they just had a kinky sex date. In other words.....still hasn't had a D/s relationship....

DommesLesEnigma -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/1/2012 3:43:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: orimotis69 quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: JeffBC The moment she came out with the "real master" thing I'd know that if nothing else, she was too parochial and too judgemental to be life partner with me. I'm good with "you're not what I'm looking for". But declaring someone else "unreal" is just plain insulting. Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. These words usually come from people that haven't had a long term D/s relationship (or even any real time D/s relationship) and have unrealistic expectations of what a "master" should be. Perhaps, but she did say she had a Master for 3 years. After sending out so many messages on CM, it's kinda sad that my first encounter ended this way. But moving on is the only thing I can really do. Dude...I got news for you. More than likely you got many more encounters to come. That is before you find a good one. Just be patient. A lot of them are saying they want this and that when all they really want to do is do the online thing and not the real life thing.

Alecta -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/2/2012 7:02:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: orimotis69 So I'm currently talking to a sub I meet from CM and things started off fairly good. I asked her questions like what she does, what kind of experiences she had, and what kind of fantasies she has. I of course also told her about myself. Most of the time I was asking her questions and she never really asked me anything even though I told that she should. But now she telling me that she doesn't have time for this and that I'm not a real Master. Is there something I'm missing here? I didn't try to rush anything so I took it slow and wanted to get to know her more. I've communicated with her through IM but we haven't talked to each other through web cam yet. Should I respond to this or should I just move on? Yes. Chances are she gets off on the "email fantasy" that on the other side of the screen is a man whose deepest desire is to do all manners of sordid unspeakable things to her that you send email after email expounding on. Which in being a human being interested in getting to know her, you have failed to portray yourself as. Chances are also that you have failed to show your willingness and ability to take her in and make her a kept woman. In my experience, that's mostly where the two accusations stem from.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/2/2012 7:25:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: orimotis69 So I'm currently talking to a sub I meet from CM and things started off fairly good. I asked her questions like what she does, what kind of experiences she had, and what kind of fantasies she has. I of course also told her about myself. Most of the time I was asking her questions and she never really asked me anything even though I told that she should. But now she telling me that she doesn't have time for this and that I'm not a real Master. Is there something I'm missing here? I didn't try to rush anything so I took it slow and wanted to get to know her more. I've communicated with her through IM but we haven't talked to each other through web cam yet. Should I respond to this or should I just move on? Comma's and apostrophe's. (But it's only a guess).

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/2/2012 7:31:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie Comma's and apostrophe's. Commas and apostrophes. There, fixed it for ya, Nook. [:D]

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/2/2012 7:53:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie Comma's and apostrophe's. Commas and apostrophes. There, fixed it for ya, Nook. [:D] (SHIT!!!!)

kalikshama -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/3/2012 4:58:13 AM)
Now now, plural, not possessive.

fucktoyprincess -> RE: Did I do something wrong? (3/3/2012 6:12:23 AM)
FR The internet search can take time. And people, if they are real, are prone to making snap judgments at times. Not much that one can do about that, except to move on and continue searching. As others have said, one is searching for compatibility. So at the end of the day, it's either there or it isn't, and because any relationship is a two-way street, one person's interest is insufficient. It takes two. And if one is bowing out, there is nothing the other can do but let her make her choice. Here is another thing to remember. If she changes her mind, she knows where to reach you. But continuing to try to convince her will only convince her more of the incompatibility.

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