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NuevaVida -> RE: the name Daddy Dom and the appeal of it (5/14/2012 7:13:14 AM)
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I do want to speak a little more on Daddy Doms/little girls, though, at least from my own perspective, and how I got here.
I've never sought out a Daddy Dom. Years and years ago, I spent a lot of time on line/on the phone with a dominant man who saw himself as a "Daddy." The idea back then squicked me out. I have a Dad, thank you, and he was a rockin father, and I didn't have any "father issues" with him, at all. In fact, in the last days of his life we had some amazing conversations and there were no unresolved issues between us. He was a very good man.
I went from a very long, crappy marriage to a very sadistic master who got off on cruelty. And I got off on his cruelty because I liked the challenge of seeing how much I could take (I found out, heh). After that I dated a couple of dominant guys, neither of whom were "Daddy's" - just cool, strong men who were NOT cruel, and not so sadistic. We wanted different things out of life so we parted ways with no hard feelings. But those experiences taught me that the "cruelty" chapter of my life was pretty much over - I just didn't have an interest in it anymore.
I was rather enjoying being single and was certainly not looking to be owned, as I was enjoying managing my own life and having an awesome time.
When he who is now my Daddy came into my life, it was a long and careful process to establish a trusting relationship, because I didn't really need a relationship, nor was I that interested in being in one. But he's a pretty damn cool man, and kind, and gentle, and our conversations were so enjoyable we just naturally meshed.
When he told me he was a "Daddy" and wanted this type of relationship, I figured "Hmm, well OK, I can try this out" and went forward with it. This dynamic brought out parts of me I hadn't experienced before, and it was fascinating and enjoyable to get to know yet another side of myself. Plus, I find I just relax a whole lot more with less cruelty. What can I say - I'm laughing all the time, brimming with love, and enjoying being fully accepted and loved for just being me. He finds my quirks amusing, and encourages me to get everything I can out of life.
He is gentle and nurturing and patient and loving. This is his "Daddy" nature, and it brings a tenderness and playfulness out in me that suits me. It's pretty damn awesome. Couple that with his amazing way of exercising authority over me, well what more could I ask for?
So when I see thread after thread (because it's a subject that does come up pretty frequently) with people who are *not* in Daddy/girl type dynamics, stating a myriad of opinions about them which don't at all relate to my own relationship, I think, "Well OK, but that's not how it is over here." Because as long-term posters can probably attest, in every Daddy Dom thread, there's someone insisting on some reason why such dynamics exist - whatever the theory of the day is. And those of us in such dynamics either get tired of it, amused by it, or just don't really care about it anymore. I figure, Eh, theorize all ya want, I'll be over here enjoying the hell out of my life. [:D]
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