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larry195673135 -> woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 10:56:22 AM)

I am woundering why is so hard to find a slave, when i do get a reply an email them i am told hey babe i need you too go to this site too talk too me..does anyone ever talk thru email here an just have 1 id name ..not 4 or 5 of them.



hlen5 -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 10:58:38 AM)

Try filling out your profile. Welcome to the forums!!



Baroana -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 11:02:05 AM)

I've woundered the same thing myself.



SoftBonds -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 11:02:26 AM)

There are folks who are paid to come here and drive site traffic to other sites, often pay sites. I fell for that when I first got on here.
That said, you also have to realize that there is a supply/demand issue. There are a lot more male doms than female subs on line. I think you get better odds going to a munch, but that is just from one experience (so far! Hope to go to another one soonest). Don't give up hope though, just realize that the subs you contact that are real get hundreds of e-mails in as little as a day, especially if they are new. You need to read the profile, look for the most compatible, then send them a reasonable length letter (not one sentence, not 5 pages) that shows you read their profile, you are compatible, you are a human being that they'd like to get to know.
Then be ready for rejection, or just do that with your top 5, or even 10 picks. Some gals won't even answer. Why? Cause there are pricks on here that will rant and scream at them for saying "no thank you." Just accept that you are going to have to work at it.



DarkSteven -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 11:10:40 AM)

Hi, Larry. Welcome to collarme. Let me expand a bit on what my girlfriend hlen just said.

There are in fact scammers and fake websites here. They'll respond to anyone. To get legit sub responses, you need to know that the real ones are outnumbered by the Doms seeking to contact them. So you need several things to stand out.

First is a well written profile. Give an idea of what you're like, what kind of sub you want, and what kind of relationship you envision.
Second, make your initial email worth reading. Be specific about what in her profile prompted your message. If it sounds generic, it'll get trashed.
Third, on the Internet, spelling and writing style matters.

Welcome again.



lizi -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 11:11:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: larry195673135

I am woundering why is so hard to find a slave,

This site is just like any other place in the world where people interact. They come to meet, mingle, and do whatever it is that fulfills them. Meeting someone here takes just as much effort as it takes in real life at a party or event. If you thought it was an instant gratification type thing where you sign up and receive your prize...well, we're dealing with human beings. Nothing is ever instant fulfillment with people, it takes time and work.

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when i do get a reply an email them i am told hey babe i need you too go to this site too talk too me.

Obviously there are people working the money angle here just like in real life. If this isn't what you want, you have to find someone who is here for different reasons. To be honest, there are a lot more men on any adult site, women are harder to find.

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does anyone ever talk thru email here an just have 1 id name ..not 4 or 5 of them.


I met my Dominant through here by talking through email. It can happen. If you'd like to attract a better quality attention from women who would consider you as a partner and not just the scammers, I'd suggest filling out your profile so the lifestyle women will be able to see what you are like. A completely blank profile is not doing you any favors.




risktaker9 -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 11:26:14 AM)

Why it's hard for you to find a slave:
1. You are older.
2. If you are targeting lovely young women then they are either going to be scammers or uninterested in what you have to offer.
3. It seems like you have unrealistic expectations. We're talking human beings here, not a product.
4. There are far more men searching than women.
5. Your profile is completely blank, scammers will contact you but not a woman who has her choice of 5 other guys.
6. If you are contacting women with sexual or kinky messages they may be uninterested.



hlen5 -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 11:53:40 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

............ Let me expand a bit on what my girlfriend hlen just said.....


Welcome again.


Thanks for the back-up!! [sm=flowers.gif] [sm=dancer.gif][sm=thanks.gif][sm=flowers.gif]



peppermint -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 11:54:28 AM)

When I was looking and would get mail from someone I didn't know the first thing I would do is look at his profile. A blank profile means that the person was too lazy or couldn't be bothered. This would mean lack of real interest in finding a partner here. His lack of real interest would mean I am not interested either.



GreedyTop -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 11:57:24 AM)

*twitch*


*ahem*


(since this is NOT intros: SPELLCHECK IS YOUR FRIEND!!!)
Just saying. It DOES make a diference

*agreeing with Hlen and Steven.*



hlen5 -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 12:00:07 PM)

Hey Greedy!![sm=waves.gif]



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 12:17:19 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: larry195673135

I am woundering why is so hard to find a slave, when i do get a reply an email them i am told hey babe i need you too go to this site too talk too me..does anyone ever talk thru email here an just have 1 id name ..not 4 or 5 of them.

Larry,

Before I even read a lettter, I check out the sender's profile. Yours is blank. To me, that means either your boring, have nothing to say, or you're too lazy to fill it out. At any rate, an empty profile would give me no idea of who you really are, what you're looking for, and/or what you have to offer.

Otherwise, yes, I've wondered why people always want my IM address immediately. I realize that IM makes feedback more immediate and that's a nice thing, but I also realize I'm not giving my IM out to just anyone right away. And if you have an empty profile, you're "just anyone," an anyone that I know nothing about.

NBMG



Baroana -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 12:22:37 PM)

I get so turned off when someone asks me to IM right off the bat, before they've even shown they can compose a simple email about themselves.



Killerangel -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 3:02:30 PM)

There are plenty of women here who talk through email without asking for money, I do.

I see you're still around on this thread, let me ask you....are you writing women emails or are you talking about the ones who write to you? Who are you writing as far as general age range and stuff? Are you looking for an instant agreement somewhere as in here is a slave profile near to me, I'll email her and let her know she can move in next week. If you write women, are you addressing sex immediately or asking what she likes to do in her kinky fantasies?

I see you filled out your profile some, great! You might want to spell check it, it's a first impression right? Should be top notch so people get a good impression of you. Capitalization is good to have too.




mystictryst -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 3:20:22 PM)

The other thing I'd add is make sure you read her profile - fully and completely and if your wants, desires, and goals are 100% opposite of hers, don't waste your time (or hers). I recall back in my single days) getting lots of email where it was clear no one had taken the time to read my profile.

That and "sex-messages" right off the bat. Yuck. Don't tell me about your giant member and how many places you want to poke me with it. Or order me to my knees. I may be submissive but I'm not your submissive so please don't think you can order me around.



DesFIP -> RE: woundering if this is real (3/3/2012 6:33:09 PM)

And if you're writing emails from your phone, don't. Things will be spelled incorrectly, the phone will substitute words for what you meant to write. You might make someone laugh, but not be interested in you.



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