LadyPact
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Just so you know, I am trying to give you the information that you are asking to receive. Take the reply in the spirit that it was given.
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ORIGINAL: lostnlooking9
I have a question for the Dommes out there. To preface I am not resentful or upset or angry or whatnot about this unlike some of the subs posting that I see. I'm just merely curious.
Not a problem. I'm the curious sort, Myself.
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Basically why is so little respect given to subs?(in general not individuals you may know)
I understand the fact that there are so many of us and many don't deserve respect and that many of you dommes get "hundreds of messages a day"(which I find laughable. A lot of messages yes, that many? sounds inflated.)
So I don't mean about the lack of replies to messages sent to you.
This is the main part of the topic about why I am here. It may sound inflated to you, but I can promise you that is the truth. In fact, we have a thread from about a year and a half ago where I specifically set out to prove it. I was successful in doing so and would be more than happy to look up that thread for you so that you can see that I and another member of the forums (it happened to be a male Dom) verified just how much mail I could generate just by setting up a profile. One picture (clothed), a short text, and no forum participation. Another two members ran the same experiment (a female Dominant and a male sub) who were able to do the same thing. I could also direct you to threads on this forum where certain male subs have tried putting up a female profile to see just exactly what happens.
I'll be happy to find those threads for you if you would like to see the evidence. Either that, or you can just take My word for it. We get the amount of mail that we say we do.
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What I mean is from messages that YOU send us. Or exchanges that you have with us.
Far too often, heck almost always, if I e-mail with a Domme back and forth, should the communication ends, it does just that, end.
No "sorry not interested" no "oh we're not compatible afterall" no "your not attractive to me" nothing. Just an end and and no reply ever returned.
Here is why. We're going to talk about three kind of mail. First contact mail, (when a person you do not know mails you for the first time), repeat contact mail (what you are describing above), and friend mail (those emails that are from people that you talk to on occasion over a long period of time).
Allow Me to make My position very clear. I am a priorities person. What that means is that I prioritize even My time on the net. I enjoy the forums. It's basically what I am here for. Along with this, My email comes in after I am done commenting on those discussions in which I am participating. There are some people that I never ignore their email. If I have twenty "new" messages, I return mail to those I consider friends first. People I recognize from the forums after that. Third might be those where I'm actually engaged in conversation. Fourth are first contacts.
Keep some factors in mind. There are only so many hours in a day. First contact emails add to the pile each and every day. I may spend less time on the net on any particular day due to working on another project. At one point, I actually started to take the laptop with Me to multiple day events because if I didn't, the email was so bad by the time I got home, I couldn't accomplish anything else.
An exchange of three of four emails might just not be all that important on My end. I may have said all that is really necessary. There may not be any real two way communication going on for Me to address. If there was nothing engaging (to Me) in the last email I received, why should I continue to talk?
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I do my best to be respectful, and I have never sent any mean or nasty e-mails. Just normal conversational ones. I am always respectful and answer any questions they ask me and be myself and be honest.
And to be fair on occasion I do get a respectful end. But they come just as often as a disrespectful end "your a loser fake slave not worth my time". But most of the time I get nothing.
To be fair, Hib is right. You have the word "respect" confused with the word courtesy. The difference between the two is in the definition. Respect means a particular esteem for a person, etc. There's been no respect earned from two or three emails. Common courtesy would be a way you would treat any other person, regardless of whether you had esteem for them or not. You are referring to the latter.
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I know I won't be compatible with everyone I talk to. Either they would have issues or I do. But why Do Dommes give subs so little respect as soon as they find out things won't work or they see things not being perfect for them?
OP, it has everything to do with sheer volume. Even if I got as little as twenty emails a day, (which there are a couple of people on this thread can tell you that is not anywhere near what really happens) someone who is not good material for potential (for them) just isn't that high up on the totem pole.
Imagine it like this. You are the only person of your gender in a room filled with people who are the opposite of you. Say it's even thirty to one. You go into the room and you are the belle of the ball. Everyone wants your attention. In the room, you have varying degrees of familiarity with the other people who are in attendance. Some are old friends and some you have never met. You are there with your own ideas in mind. You may be in the mood to laugh, to have fun, to flirt, or to engage in deep conversation. If someone isn't that interesting to you, do you continue to talk to them or do you choose to spend your time with the other twenty-nine?
[quote}Saying those dommes are not real or fakes isn't true, as that isn't always the case.
Good choice.
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I'm just curious.
I thank you and appreciate any and all answers given. Respectful or non. :)
Whether it was respectful or not, rather than just courteous, is your call. It may, however, explain how some of us manage our affairs.
PS. South Park is funny, will always be funny, or if nothing else, is still the old friend who used to be funny.
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