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MistrixMsE -> RE: Why is Respect Lacking? (3/4/2012 8:14:48 PM)
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It happens both ways.. but in reality... its usually not disrespect, but instead the conversation dies.. the subject that was being discussed dies.. the last email didnt really need reply... etc. I have exchanges with subs who contact me and then we exchange a few emails.. conversationally... and at a point there isnt anything to respond to. If said sub were to pop up a few days later with a new email, of substance I'd reply. But short emails with little substance are something i detest. Too many on this site think a 3 sentence email begets a conversation. It doesnt.. irks me to no end actually.
Worse yet are those who after a few emails it is clear have not read my journal/profile/website etc... and make repeated errors in addressing me... calling me mistress for example. If i have to correct you more than twice... thats the last time you'll get a reply... I find THAT very disrespectful, especially when i specifically address that issue in my profile, on my website, twitter, and journal! What about when the sub in question goes from friendly conversation to "will you own me 24/7 and let me be your house slave".. without really getting to know me or meeting me... which is a big red flag. Or pushes too hard to play on a personal level without ever having met yet. Its not how i work... want to demand play on your schedule, tribute and be a pro client.. want to play personally... you need to get to know me for a while as a person... then meet me in public for brunch or whatever to see if we are compatible as PEOPLE personality wise... then maybe a play party.. or play session.
You see 'disrespect' goes both ways.
Generally, if you dont think you crossed a line in the conversation... coming back a week later and STRIKING UP ANOTHER CONVERSATION (politely) is a good way to feel it out... not "why didnt you write me back" or "what did i do wrong". A simple "Havent noticed you online this week... was really enjoying talking to you about "XYZ"... hope all is well & we can continue it sometime :)" is not going to be likely to offend, or come off as needy. It also gives the dominant a chance to continue to communicate with you... or decline you for whatever reason. If *I* got that email and i wasnt interested for whatever reason.. I wouldnt feel uncomfortable saying "it's been a busy week... sorry I couldnt get back to you sooner.. but I dont really feel you'd be a good fit... and I dont want to waste our time". Why not? Because in that example, you are coming off as a polite, normal person, trying to communicate like an adult.
*edit for premature post*
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