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Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/26/2004 12:16:22 PM   
rolestud


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Status: offline 		I'm just throwing this post out there, as my search for a sub to match my perhaps "unusual" interest has been long and fruitless...

Over several years, I've been searching online for a willing, eager female sub who enjoys having her feet admired, touched, played with, etc... I've found that most female subs are more interested in being forced and can't imagine a gentle Dom who wants to explore her feet (among other parts)... Some might say I'm a switch, but after experience and personal analysis, it's clear to me I enjoy being in control, exploring fantasies, roleplays, etc with a focus on a female sub's feet.

Does it seem as impossible a search as I've experienced? Getting discouraged and wondering if I am, after all, a bit too different (or is the proper term "creative?" hehehe) to find what I seek.
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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/26/2004 12:29:14 PM   
sweetpleaser


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Status: offline 		First of all, welcome to the boards!! You will find some great people here.
Now, speaking as a sub, we are not used to being pampered like that. We are the usual pamperers (is that a word?). We kind of feel weird letting someone take care of us. I'm sure if you can get a sub to relax enough she will enjoy it very much. Maybe what you need to look for is a sensualist. Someone who gets into all the feelings without necessarily being submissive. And definitely stay away from slaves because (Please don't flame me for my assumptions slaves) they would really have a hard time with being pampered. I believe this is not an impossible mission, just a challenging one.

< Message edited by sweetpleaser -- 10/26/2004 12:32:39 PM >

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/26/2004 12:30:27 PM   
BeachMystress


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Status: offline 		I find no problem with a Dominant who has a foot fetish. I do see your dilemma though. . . most subs are not in this to be worshiped. I'm not sure how you approach it.. Shut up slut and give me your feet? Hmm. I do know there are subs out there who are interested in a more gentle type of Dominant. And, (don't stone me here) Dominance is actually give and take. You may have to learn to provide what the sub needs in order to get your needs met. I do not mean you should compromise anything you believe in. I mean if she needs to have her hair tugged on playfully and you could care less one way or the other.. go ahead and tug her hair.

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/26/2004 12:50:15 PM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		Well, I know from my point of view I wouldn't seek out a relationship like this, -not- because of your interest in feet, but because I am made very uncomfortable by being the focus of too much attention/admired.

It isn't that I need to be forced (though it can be fun) rather that my attraction to power exchange relationships is the chance to serve the other party. It sets me on edge to be admired, heck, I even have trouble "performing" for my partner, or being given orgasms because I feel like that's too much focus on me.

I don't know how many submissive people are like me, but from my perspective, it feels too selfish to be the focus of attention, in that way. I come in from a need to serve and be useful, and while having attention focused on me is arguably useful and service to you, it'd be very hard for me to internalize that.

Still. This is just me, there are enough people out there that I have no doubt there are those with the same interests.

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/26/2004 1:14:23 PM   
subbiejenn


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Status: offline 		i am submissive -- i love being forced, controlled, serving etc... but i also like my feet played with.... i like a sensitive Dom who is touchy feely.

So no i don’t think Impossible -- just a smaller pond Your fishing in *smiles* for every desire W/we have the pond gets smaller...

Think that is why i have had such a hard time finding a Dom who is perfect for me -- i want a Strong Dominate Man, controlling but yet gentle and loving. Someone who can be in charge but also be that big teddy bear when i need Him to be.

Don't give up rolestud -- all things come to those who wait

~Jenn~


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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/26/2004 4:09:52 PM   
newflowers


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Status: offline 		Subbiejean -

The delimma of the smaller pond.

I do not like being forced, I see no particular need for it, but I think that being pleasing is to do that which is required and/or desired without force. I like being given attention when I am very good and sometimes just because, it does not at all offend my delicate submissive sensibilities. A strong, authoritative, Dominant with a nurturing and gentle Daddy side balanced with slightly wicked inclinations. - a small pond indeed.

Rolestud -

Perhaps your pool is smaller, but there are fish in it - not all submissives are the same and there are any number who may fit your needs.

newflowers

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/26/2004 6:25:55 PM   
subbiejenn


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Status: offline 		Newflowers --

i like pleasing also, love serving and doing what is told but even so i submit and do them willingly i like it kind of rough. Hard to explain but even so i submit i like forceful as in pulling my hair to lead me. Being pushed up against the wall and taken...

i don't think i explained it right the first time and not sure i explained it good this time, but hope you understand what i mean.

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/27/2004 3:23:42 PM   
newflowers


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Status: offline 		jenn,

I do understand and I have to agree - it is about being able to feel a physical manifestation of HIS authority and power and control.

Ahh, i understand indeed.

newflowers

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/27/2004 4:50:15 PM   
siamsa24


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Status: offline 		rolestud,
Don't give up, I know for a fact that there are people in the world like the one you are looking for. I know this because one of them is me
My Dom has a very big foot fetish and well still manage to have a semi-average D/s relationship.

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/27/2004 7:31:34 PM   
SentForu


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From: Middle Tennessee
Status: offline 		Hello, and welcome to collarme. I am in a similar situation myself. Having thought long and hard about it, I don't think I'm a switch. I have a certain fetish, that could cause some others to think I am a switch. Just because, it doesn't really go with some of the ideas of submission. The thing is, that's it with me. Other than that, I want no control. It really confused me for a while. Thoughts like that, can draw a person right back into classifying. I've well learned, to stay away from that...lol.

Anyways, I've taken your question, and turned it into a new topic all together. Sorry about that. Are you too different? Absolutely not. Besides, isn't kink the whole idea? I wish you well in your search. All that means is, finding someone who is compatible with your sexual desires. Which, is what we all have to do anyways.

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 10/28/2004 9:15:07 AM   
Elektra


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Status: offline 		i personally wouldn't have a problem with that...if that's what he wants, who am i to rebell?

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 11/5/2004 1:45:10 PM   
dally


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Status: offline 		hello
personally i don't think you are less of a dom because you like to worship your slaves feet, can't you be a dom with a foot fetish?

i am a submissive yet the one and only relationship i've had with a Master was the most sensual and loving one i've ever experienced in my life. He would worship me as much as i worshipped him. He would adore everything about me and would just spend hours and hours embracing and caressing me yet he was a very dominant Master and i was completely submissive to him. Not only did i love his affection i also felt i was pleasing him so much by being so pleasing to him.

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 11/6/2004 12:09:23 AM   
othiym


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Status: offline 		It's seems to me that the only problem to be had is that subs tend to be a little uncomfortable receiving the attention. In my case, it's not true at all, my submissive side is definitely in it for the attention I receive. On the other hand, there are those who probably like having their feet worshipped, who simply cannot feel comfortable--and pardon if this barely makes sense--giving up their lack of control, they need to be dominated to enjoy the session. If that's the case, could a simple case of mental bondage not solve it? Or could it not be proposed as "Master's fun time". You could even impose punishments if she tried to distract You. It's all about the packaging.
Best of luck!

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 11/6/2004 7:59:08 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		I think you have the right to obtain whatever you want in life. What you are seeking will just take you a bit longer to find.
I would absolutely adore a Dominant who took care of my feet. Having bone spurs in both for many years. There are days when I get out of bed and almost fall. Just too much pain. It takes me about 5 minutes to adjust and ignore it for the day or moment.

My Dom adores having his feet massaged. If he then in turn took my foot at some point and started massaging it. I think I'd probably fall over. That just isn't in him.
Yet, at the same time I have a very dear friend who is a Dom. When we do our jacuzzi gatherings he almost always gives me an excellent foot massage.

So, I guess what I am saying is you are searching for a needle in a haystack. That needle actually exists it will just take you some time to find it.

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 11/6/2004 3:14:50 PM   
blushes4u


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Status: offline 		The way i look at it, and i could be wrong because i am new to this, if a Dom/Master wants to do things with my feet , then its a way of pleasing Him and pleasing Him pleases me...or whomever...am I wrong in thinking that way? On my feet all day, i wish someone was here right now giving them a massage Welcome btw and good luck in your search!

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 12/5/2004 1:31:16 AM   
Wolfsbabygirlz


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Status: offline 		Greetings ....I wanted to say that I am a sub who doesnt respond to being forced into doing something. A gentle Dom, such as yourself is much more effective and wonderful then the other. You sound wonderful, I'd hope you'd continue the search to find the perfect sub to fit your needs/desires, and visa versa. I found the most wonderful, caring, kind Dom on the planet, feels so good he's interested in getting to know me on every level and not just that which suits his own desires/wants. Doms like you are what makes a sub reach her highest potential. Keep up the search, you'll find what you seek.
Wolfsbabygirlz =)

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RE: Mission: Impossible = The Pefect Sub (for me) - 12/5/2004 9:53:26 AM   
proudsub


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quote:

A gentle Dom, such as yourself is much more effective and wonderful then the other.


That may be true for you and many others, but not for everyone.

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