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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Fella, your profile sucks. By paragraph:

I am a young man who desires to serve a woman. I am looking to worship a woman and listen to her every command. I am very submissive and listen very well. If there is a woman who is looking to for a slave who will listen to her every command than I am your man. I wish to bow down to a woman. I am open to all kinds of punishment if necessary. Many say that young men are immature...I will prove you wrong. I can cook and clean very well.

This says that you want to worship, when women want a relationship. Lots of men want 24/7 playtime, and they're all unrealistic. You also say you listen well when you're offering a woman what she doesn't want to have offered, and you say "I will prove you wrong" instead of "I will prove the stereotype wrong," thus sounding argumentative.

Nobody seems willing to give me a try...its a shame.

This says that when you don't get your way, you will whine.

It seems as though the women on this site dont take this lifestyle seriously. I am submissive towards women and want to be able to do this as a lifestyle but no one takes me seriously. Is there anyone who is willing to give me a chance to be at thier feet and show them how obiedient I am?

You're 21 years old. Yet you think you know so much that you know what the lifestyle is like better than every single woman on this site. So any woman who takes you on could expect you to regularly correct her about how she should be doing it.

So what SHOULD you be doing?

1. Ignore the D/s aspects in your first message. If she says she's Dominant in her profile, assume that if you develop a relationship, you'll be sub and she'll be Domme.
2. READ her profile. Ask yourself if this is someone you could envision having a relationship with. Do her vanilla interests mesh with yours? How about the personality you see in her profile?
3. If you think the two of you might match, message her. Make sure to mention what interested you about her profile, and your experiences with that. If she mentioned mountain climbing, tell her about the time you found a couple of bear cubs and were playing with them when the mama bear came by. Your goal is to start a conversation.
4. If the messaging goes well, after a dozen or so messages see if you can step up to talk on the phone. After a week or so of phoning, see if she'd like to meet at some public place.

Note that during this entire interchange, you should do NOTHING that you are currently doing on your profile. Do NOT tell her your fetishes. Do NOT say you want to serve her. Do NOT say that other people don't understand the lifestyle. Do NOT tell her how obedient you are. Do NOT tell her how hard it is to find someone.

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ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic

Dear Runningman12,

This is a Fast Reply...

take a look at my profile.

Taking a look at yours it seems very one dimensional when in fact if you were to interject your own personality into it (as everyone has a complex persona) it forms a character that a Mistress/Owner will want to possess as her own.

In a world full of pawns the Queen tends to congregate with the Knight, good sir.

Another issue that I have personally run into is developing yourself as a person.

Youth does have a factor in development but you hold the reigns to that. You can be very active about your own development or be passive and let the environment shape you.

I-too-wish to be taken, ravished, trained, used as a slut, be an excited pet, servant, and indoctrinated within the confines of an Owner's/Mistress'/Master's wishes but my desires are very complex and it seems that I am off putting or intimidating in ways.

Definition is a double-edged sword.

The more you define yourself the less of a chance you have of meeting that one very special partner (or partners) that chooses you out of all of the other possible DNA combinations and behavioral traits that best suits them.

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ORIGINAL: r1a2y3m4o5n6d7

If the op whats a demanding woman then he should mary a spoiled bitch. Problem solved. You people give out way to much information. Keep it simple.

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ORIGINAL: SingleServant

I offer insight to the real dynamic that has evolved between males and females, the males absolute frame of reference for his sense of happiness and a woman's relative frame of reference for her sense of happiness, her comparison of herself to her immediate girl friends.

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ORIGINAL: r1a2y3m4o5n6d7

If the op whats a demanding woman then he should mary a spoiled bitch. Problem solved. You people give out way to much information. Keep it simple.

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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes
As for a direct reply to Peon - I agree with Hib, quit being welcoming, I'd like for him and his negativity to disappear.