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LadyPact -> RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding (3/5/2012 5:52:38 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
I'm actually confused about your current status. I read a comment in another thread in which you mentioned being in Alaska. When did that happen? You move around too much. You're confusing me. I seem to remember that you lived in Georgia (or somewhere in the Southeast), but I also connect you to somewhere in California (Sacramento maybe?), but then I also seem to remember you being somewhere like Kansas or Idaho.
Would you mind terribly if I send you a private email to explain the above? It's not that I don't want to answer this, it's that I would feel better about not *publicly* posting the answer. Thank you.
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Also, why isn't your relationship a cuck relationship anymore? Don't you still have a poly household? Where's Chip (or was it Clip?)? What did I miss?
Being poly and cuckholding are *not* the same thing. Again, I would be very interested in discussing the finer details through private message.
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That's what I was trying to express. So much of cuckolding (when done properly) is mental. It's not an activity. It's a mental state. The cuckold is a cuckold not because of any activity you do. Rather, he's a cuckold because of the control that you exercise, and the mental state that it places him in.
Yes! You get it! The whole point is that it is NOT about the fucking. I could do that being single. However, I would not say that it is all mental. Part of it is emotional and there is a technical difference.
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The guys who beg to be cucked don't seem to realize that by begging for it, they've taken away key elements of your power and control.
Precisely! Remember what I said about the ones who feel like it has to be connected to BBC? Same thing.
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I guess that non-forced cuckolding can be enjoyable for some guys (why else would they be begging for it?). However, that type of cuckolding seems more like a low-end substitute version of cuckolding. Kind of like what Taco Bell is to Mexican food.
Some are just made for it, dear. It's just the right set up. The right ones aren't those who beg for it.
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Interesting concept about fear being the driver versus jealousy. I hadn't thought of it that way before.
Jealousy is really not a primary emotion. You learned that, but it's not primal. Fear is primal. It is what we use to keep ourselves safe. It is a defense mechanism.
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I haven't evolved to the point where I can actually watch her orgasm. But knowing that she is incredibly happy and fulfilled, and that my acceptance of a cuckold role help her to achieve her happiness is very satisfying.
Side stepping this because I'm not trying to write porn!!!
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And that's exactly the female perspective that I was curious about, and hoped to gain a greater understanding of. Thanks for sharing. I hope other Dommes who enjoy cuckolding their male subs will chime in.
Yes.
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Can I watch? [;)]
No, but if you are a really, really good boy, I'll let you shampoo My hair.
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