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DesFIP -> RE: Best way to intro someone to the lifestyle? (3/6/2012 10:07:10 AM)
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OP, you're profile says you are in a dom/sub relationship, and also says you're looking for cyber. Yet, now you claim he isn't into it.
I'd try something novel, like being honest with him. I wouldn't suggest cheating on him online or with a phone only dom.
Do you just want kinky sex? Then ask him if he would spank you, because you read about it and it sounds like fun. Or tie your wrists to the bedpost with some scarves and tease you until you're incoherent with desire. And tell him the rest of it is all about him, he should do whatever he wants and not think about your pleasure.
Or do you want him to take control which is something else entirely. If so, tell him you have had more than enough stress for the week and don't want to have to make a single decision that night. That you want him to decide what he wants for dinner, that you are going to ask him for everything, should you have water or soda with dinner, etc. When you should wash the dishes. If he wants a massage, he just tells you to give him one. That he decides where you should sit, with him or on a pillow by his feet. That if he wants a blow job, he should just tell you when. If he wants sex, he decides where and what position.
Most important, whatever he does, you need to be grateful. You need to make it a positive experience for him. Then over the next couple of weeks you need to tell him, text him, leave him notes telling him how wonderful it was. How you can't stop thinking about it, and could he please do it again only this time more intense. Harder, longer, and as soon as possible because you're dripping wet just thinking about it. Beg to give him a blowjob, ask him to use your mouth harder, that you want to choke on him etc.
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