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Lockit -> RE: Opinion on situation (3/7/2012 6:31:54 PM)
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
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Met talked all day and night whenever we could for a couple weeks one day I was busy and didnt respond much to conversation. So she struck up a convo with another man, long distance. She admitted as much, but claimed it was a all benign conversation. When I pressed she admitted it was more than that. We stopped talking for a week, then started up again. It got serious fast again with the all day and night talking. She is inexperienced in D/s, I am not. So we talk about wants and desires and needs along with everyday things. She wants and needs lots of control. She has always been a slut, been with lots of men with very little monogamy.
So she has a "friend" who is more local, I am 2.5 hours away, he is in the same town. They also talk a lot and hang out a lot. They take each other food and things like this. She admits he is hot and has a crush on him but they are just friends. I do not demand she stop talking to him, although I suggest it. It isn't a friendship I have ever been a part of or heard of. It was more like dating then friends. She says they never slept together and kissed one time. They work similar hours, overnights, and sometimes together. So she is totally doting over Me, says all the right things etc. Coming along well in learning who she is etc. Has even hinted I should move closer, if not in with her. Meanwhile her "friendship" continues. I do not ask it to end. My opinion is I can control everything but that, she HAS to decide it isn't right and WANT it to end, at least on that heavy of a level. I even asked if she wanted to date us both, as long as I take precedent, which I always have. Her answer is "I don't think you would allow it." This tells Me she wants to but is afraid to admit it. If she can't admit it then she can't. Even though she is basically dating him already right? So she ends up fucking him on Friday and then lies about it, until Monday morning when I got it out of her. On Sunday we again talked about me moving she says she wants Me to insist she top talking to Men, she needs this. While I can do that, I still believe she has to want to.
I have read some Doms punish their slaves or girls for this kind of behavior, I never have, I have always got rid of. My dilemma is; Do I punish it or just ditch her? Is it even my place to care? If so can she change?
My issue is the honesty part and her telling Me all along she wants no one else yadda yadda. I am the best Daddy ever etc. etc. And of course I can use the fact she did this in humiliating her :) which is really why I am debating and of course that I like her a lot.
Thanks for commenting.
Okay, how many times have you met face to face? Do you have a committed relationship? Why do you think this would change if you moved closer?
Since the op continues to change his posts, I must quote this one.
So now... you want to go the kink angle... where in all the things I bolded, etc. you sure sound bothered by the fact that she can't be trusted and you did care about her lying and fucking someone else when you asked if she could change. Also when you talked about how you normally ditch someone and she has to decide it isn't right and want to change.
You keep changing the story or what you want out of this thread and flip flopping.
So now its really a kink issue and you can use her actions to humiliate her? Okay... but it looks to me like you are a cuck and are being humiliated by her actions and topping your ass.
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