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Gay strangleplay... - 3/7/2012 6:04:46 PM   
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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/7/2012 6:32:18 PM   
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Tell me how you get into strangleplay...


I find someone really (incredibly) strange....and then I ask them to play.

(I usually request cash up front).

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/7/2012 7:58:59 PM   
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OP, this is normally referred to as breathplay and it's very dangerous. You might do it safely a dozen times but drop dead the time after. How you get into it is the same as how you get a partner for anything else. Make friends, find someone compatible, discuss what you both are looking for, and so on.


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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/7/2012 8:00:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: chokestud

Tell me how you get into strangleplay...


When someone starts choking you.

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/7/2012 8:04:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why "gay" strangleplay in particular?  I'm trying to think of a difference..... nope.

Try "breathplay" in google.  Sure, you can add "gasmask," maybe even "poppers."  That might make it "gayer."

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/7/2012 8:21:46 PM   
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Tell me how you get into strangleplay...


You first!


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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/8/2012 5:25:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


quote:

ORIGINAL: chokestud

Tell me how you get into strangleplay...


When someone starts choking you.


duh I read it as strange play and was wondering why you would choke them

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/8/2012 6:13:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was wondering this.

I'd love to know what made gay strangle play gay.

<See how I've resisted the temptation to posit some silly/humourous possible explanations - I am proud of myself>

To the OP...

As for how you get into it, here are some pointers

1) Get into it carefully and with someone you really trust
2) If they ask you to stand on plastic sheeting then regard this as, at the very least, an "amber flag"
3) Any bottles of two stroke engine oil might hint at the presence of a chainsaw (that'll be a "red flag").



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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/8/2012 6:29:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am going to point you to a well-respected source on this topic - and he is in the camp of feeling it is actually extremely dangerous. Read what he has to say. And if you still want to pursue, obviously it is your choice. But be sure anyone you are playing with, especially if they will be the recipient, has read the following, too. The risks are very real, the risks are cumulative, and the risks can involve severe impairment or death. And experts agree that there is no way to actually remove all the risks. I think when a well-respected BDSM expert like Jay Wiseman has these things to say about breath play, it warrants more than just a cursory glance at his position before you accept the risks involved. For your own safety and that of others, please take the time to read these.

http://www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_Breath_Closing_Argument.php

http://jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_BreathPlayMain.php

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/8/2012 1:48:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Some examples of wrong play
inxs
he died in a hotelroom
Kill Bill
David Carradine ended on a rope as well.

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/8/2012 4:03:47 PM   
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Some examples of wrong play
inxs
he died in a hotelroom
Kill Bill
David Carradine ended on a rope as well.


I would have to say, as a kink, we hear about more deaths related to breath play than any other single kink I can think of (off the top of my head). If anyone has any stats on that I would be curious. But it does seem like a disproportionate number of kink-related deaths are breath play related. The only other one I can think of is rope play/bondage gone bad (i.e., inadvertent strangulation).

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/9/2012 6:00:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Very, very carefully. It's dangerous as all hell even if you know what you are doing.

I enjoy it, from time to time, but it's still riskier than visiting every brothel in Ghana without condoms.

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/13/2012 3:49:32 PM   
JollySadist


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Status: offline 		Read up on it. A lot. And talk with others, real time, who know what they're doing. CM is not the place for it(My opinion, your mileage may vary; relying on an internet messaging board like this as a source of expert knowledge just doesnt jive with me). Many kink education venues don't cover breath play that well either; its you or your partner's ass, so it's your responsibility to be cynical.

Particularly, read up on how safe or not it ACTUALLY is. There have been a number of deaths with certain types of breathplay.

There ARE numbers out there; you've got a fairly good population sample with martial artists. Whether or not that's applicable to your particular play is up for debate still.

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/14/2012 1:46:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		my background is martial arts and we practice chokes and strangles really carefully, friends way more expert than I would do no more than 4 holds a night and that's to tap out not knock out, just incase damage to veins etc, dam risky... oh that's once a week..

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/14/2012 11:23:15 AM   
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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/14/2012 11:36:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

Why "gay" strangleplay in particular?  I'm trying to think of a difference..... nope.



In gay strangleplay it's always done from the rear....


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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/14/2012 9:55:35 PM   
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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/14/2012 10:16:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
Sure, you can add "gasmask," maybe even "poppers."  That might make it "gayer."

Oh man... this may be some of the most useful advice I've ever read on these forums. So if I want to make something "gayer" I can add poppers? Oh man I just KNOW I can find uses for that pretty much all the damned time. I need to put together a list of things to make something "gayer".

Sheez, and here I thought it had something to do with sexuality.

edited to inquire
OK, about the gas mask. I'm a bit confused on that. Does that also make something "gayer" or is that mostly just for dramatic effect?

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/15/2012 11:56:45 AM   
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Umm… what does whether or not you can breath have to do with your sexual orientation?


It is said that deprivation of oxygen heightens the intensity of orgasm. Don't know if that is just an urban tale. Had a high school classmate whose parents found hanging from a tree limb dressed in woman's clothing. Dead, he was.

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RE: Gay strangleplay... - 3/15/2012 12:36:23 PM   
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It is said that deprivation of oxygen heightens the intensity of orgasm.


I can't imagine being unable to breathe being a pleasant physical experience.
Perhaps the wondering "What comes first, orgasm or death?" adds to the thrill?


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