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MrsT301 -> As you get older (3/10/2012 10:07:10 AM)
Do you think you will maintain a D/s relationship into old age (like past retirement, til death etc)? At some point sex is presumably over for most couples, but I suppose there are other ways to maintain dominance over someone. Do you think you wil continue this type of relationship indefinately or do you think at some point you'll just be too old?

DesFIP -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 10:09:48 AM)
Sex is not just penis into vagina. There are sensual pleasures which don't need to end. And indeed, many people, with the help of modern medicines maintain sexual activity into their eighties. Beyond that, the basic personality does not change. If one person is naturally in charge, and the other naturally follows, then that would continue.

myotherself -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 10:10:08 AM)
For us, M/s isn't just about sex, it's about the whole relationship and who we are. Just because we're not having hot monkey sex it doesn't mean I suddenly want to run the show or he wants stop making decisions for us. It's the way we work as a couple - the sex and other stuff is just the icing on the cake.

Lockit -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 10:15:32 AM)
What does or doesn't go on sexually, has nothing to do with dominance or submission and how alive it is within my relationships. The dominance and submission is there before the sex to start with and will be there long after sex might end. Kinky and d/s type sexual activities are fun and just a part of it all, not the basis of it all.

DarkSteven -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 10:20:21 AM)
I AM older, dammit!!!!

Delilya -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 10:23:39 AM)
Me too DS and I'll be damned if a number is going to stop me.

Higuysitsme -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 10:34:54 AM)
OP, at present you're 33 and you think older people lose interest in sex. Wait until you're 80, and then you can give an opinion on whether you've lost interest in sex. But it doesn't mean the guy drooling in his chair next to you has.........

RumpusParable -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 10:38:35 AM)
Why would I stop being in a D/s relationship if sex ends? The one has nothing to do with the other. Not having sex isn't going to affect my deciding where we're going to live or what we're having for dinner.

MissToYouRedux -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 10:42:08 AM)
Perhaps the idea of whips and chains might lessen, but I don't see what power exchange has to do with age. It worked for my female supremacist grandmother and my grandfather for their 50-plus year marriage.

littlewonder -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 10:48:29 AM)
It's our natural personalities so it won't end for us. He's a dominant personality. I'm a submissive personality. It's not a role for us. It's just who we are and how we interact with each other.

Winterapple -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 11:41:31 AM)
FR Relationships based on sex generally have a short shelf life. Longterm couples have connections beyond sex. That's as true for kinky couples as it is for vanilla ones. My granny was cracking the metaphorical whip to the very end. The inner core is there regardless of age. People don't change that radically. Circumstances change and challenges appear but people remain pretty much who they are and their relationships bare this out.

Winterapple -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 11:42:47 AM)
Relationships built entirely on sex, I meant to say.

BitaTruble -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 11:54:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrsT301 Do you think you will maintain a D/s relationship into old age (like past retirement, til death etc)? At some point sex is presumably over for most couples, but I suppose there are other ways to maintain dominance over someone. Do you think you wil continue this type of relationship indefinately or do you think at some point you'll just be too old? Sex is not a part of our M/s relationship.. it's just part of our sexual relationship which old age and illness has forced us to modify. The M/s is a constant and I don't foresee it changing. I turned 52 on Wednesday and Himself is 60 and I certainly don't feel to old to be happy and M/s brings me the very best chances for maximizing my happy. :) I can't imagine that will change just because we'll, one day, start drawing social security and be on Medicare especially given how close we are to it!

JeffBC -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 12:57:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrsT301 Do you think you will maintain a D/s relationship into old age (like past retirement, til death etc)? At some point sex is presumably over for most couples, but I suppose there are other ways to maintain dominance over someone. Do you think you wil continue this type of relationship indefinately or do you think at some point you'll just be too old? For us, sex has to do with top/bottom. D/s has to do with social organization in the larger scheme of things. So for Carol and I, as we define "D/s", it's really just our basic personalities. I assume we'll be "doing it" until we die or else for some reason change radically. I suppose I might get bored at some point chasing absolutes like "total" though and simply settle down into some comfortable head of house hold-ey sort of arrangement.

peppermint -> RE: As you get older (3/10/2012 1:24:15 PM)
Gary is 72. I am 62. He's still the dominant around here and I'm still the sub. At 7 years into this relationship i can say that he is still sexy as all get out. We have a better sexual relationship than I had at 30 or 40. He just got out of the hospital a week ago. He's on oxygen. A couple of nights ago....well....the bedroom was really steamy. I don't see where age has anything to do with it. People do not lose the desire or ability to have fun and enjoy life as they get older. We are not sitting in wheelchairs waiting to die. We do not lay around dreaming of sexual exploits of the past. We are still making our own exploits now. quote: Do you think you will maintain a D/s relationship into old age (like past retirement, til death etc)? Gary retired 21 years ago. I retired 7 years ago. So yes we can maintain with no problem at all. Who is thinking about dying? We enjoy each and every day.

RaspberryLemon -> RE: As you get older (3/11/2012 11:48:27 AM)
Although we are young (I am only 19 and he is only 22,) I can say with certainty that the structure and dynamic of our relationship will remain constant. Him being my Master and I being his pet and property is just who we are to each other. It's just how we work together and who we are, it's very synergistic. That won't change. Our relationship is not based on the sex we have--even if at some point in time our sex life tapers off or even disappears, our parts in the relationship we have will remain the same. Regardless of old age, retirement, illness or whatever, we are who we are. Oh and, I of course wouldn't know from personal experience but, as others have said I'm sure that sex doesn't necessarily end for everyone--even if penis-in-vagina comes to an end, I'm sure there are other sensual and sexual things that could still happen. Either way, we'll just see how it goes. :)

LoreBook -> RE: As you get older (3/11/2012 12:01:28 PM)
Yes I do see myself having some aspect of D/s in any relationship I have (the MATH may not like to admit that, but its there). Barring dementia, I don't see how one could be too old, perhaps that's because I don't see sex as a way to maintain dominance over someone. The preceding statement represents the views and opinions of the author and the author alone, and should in no way be considered an attempt by the author to define or determine anything for anybody but herself.

LoreBook -> RE: As you get older (3/11/2012 12:07:43 PM)
quote: Perhaps the idea of whips and chains might lessen, but I don't see what power exchange has to do with age. It worked for my female supremacist grandmother and my grandfather for their 50-plus year marriage. That's a good point. It worked for my grandparents as well, for almost 51 years. The preceding statement represents the views and opinions of the author and the author alone, and should in no way be considered an attempt by the author to define or determine anything for anybody but herself.

BurntKitty -> RE: As you get older (3/11/2012 12:35:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrsT301 Do you think you will maintain a D/s relationship into old age (like past retirement, til death etc)? At some point sex is presumably over for most couples, but I suppose there are other ways to maintain dominance over someone. Do you think you wil continue this type of relationship indefinately or do you think at some point you'll just be too old? I'm 53 and prefer the S & M dynamic my honey & I have. I'm not interested in d/s or m/s in the least. I am interested in pain, endorphins and all the sensations associated with that. I'm lucky that I'm involved with a guy who loves to do all sorts of evil things to me.

graceadieu -> RE: As you get older (3/11/2012 12:38:02 PM)
This is just how I am, how I engage in relationships. If there was no more sex, well, of course I'd miss that. But it wouldn't stop me having a submissive personality. That being said, a lot of old people still have sex!

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