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tddom -> Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 1:01:04 AM)

Maybe some of you will find this strange. I am a Dom, and I realize the value of posting a pic AND filling out a profile to a degree, but I can't completely bring myself to do it. I notice several sub/slaves will not do this as well. I know that doesn't do me any good finding someone, but I just don't want everything public to 1000s of people, and I somewhat have problems with someone else who does. I'm interesting and decent looking so that is not the problem. The problem is I just don't want my details, interests, bdsm tastes etc. known to "everyone". Maybe in person munches really are the only safe and serious places to see people for real. I've come to think that the only thing that truly works online is 1 on 1 cam sessions (cam room), and munches offline....



kengibson1983 -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 1:26:21 AM)

Well I live in New York, I've lost any sort of shame of what people think or say about me. I understand your dillema though. I wonder what sort of problems my parents would cause me, if they found my profile on here. My response like always to them is as follows. I'm 28 and no longer a child, I only get to live just this once. Carpe Diem.



DarkSteven -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 5:23:29 AM)

Fella, either you're ashamed of what you are, or else you're married.

Remember back in high school, when you were one raging hormone and you discovered that women actually liked sex and it was all okay? Well, you're a male Dom and in our world, it's okay to be one. Enjoy that, exult in it!

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ORIGINAL: tddom

I notice several sub/slaves will not do this as well.



So *&!^@ing what? You're a Dom! Are you modeling your behavior by what subs do?!?! Stand on your own two feet, determine what YOU think is right, and do it!
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I know that doesn't do me any good finding someone, but I just don't want everything public to 1000s of people, and I somewhat have problems with someone else who does.


I doubt there's a single woman reading that who thinks that your need for privacy for anyone you meet, indicates anything other than you being married.
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I'm interesting and decent looking so that is not the problem. The problem is I just don't want my details, interests, bdsm tastes etc. known to "everyone". Maybe in person munches really are the only safe and serious places to see people for real. I've come to think that the only thing that truly works online is 1 on 1 cam sessions (cam room), and munches offline....


In these forums, we've read lots of posts from male Doms complaining about how hard it is to find sub women. Doms with good, fully filled out profiles. If you choose to fish without a hook, go right ahead, but don't expect results.

That said, welcome to collarme.



JanahX -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 5:29:19 AM)

OP Welcome -

and with that said .... Umm D.S. - Im glad he's a DOM to you ... but I'm failing to see that point -



DarkSteven -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 5:35:24 AM)


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ORIGINAL: JanahX

OP Welcome -

and with that said .... Umm D.S. - Im glad he's a DOM to you ... but I'm failing to see that point -


He said so. But, yeah, the fact that I had to give him a pep talk regarding his role could be seen as less than 100% confidence.



Kaliko -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 5:43:54 AM)

Steven, I'm going to slightly disagree with you. It seems to me that more the issue is the OP's inability to post private details about himself online, not whether he is comfortable with himself as a Dominant.

And as far as women automatically assuming he's married, I would not - IF he were willing to meet straight away. If he were to string me along in a cloak of secrecy, then yes. But he could counter that by being willing and able to meet when both parties are ready.



kalikshama -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 5:49:16 AM)

But why would you WANT to meet someone with no picture or profile?



kalikshama -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 5:58:37 AM)

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The problem is I just don't want my details, interests, bdsm tastes etc. known to "everyone".


What "everyone" thinks about "tddom's" interests is not relevant to [your real name.]

You can easily anonymize your picture by placing a square over part of your face.

But do try munches, and since you are 24, also look for TNG groups.



Kaliko -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 6:01:26 AM)


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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

But why would you WANT to meet someone with no picture or profile?



If he messaged me seperately, with enough about himself or an interesting enough message, I could see overlooking a sparse profile. And, I would assume he would email me a picture.

I get the impresssion that it's just having his information on the internet for public to see, even if anonymous, that is the issue There are people who are just uncomfortable with that.




kalikshama -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 6:06:10 AM)

I can see people in their 40s and up who have not dated for decades being uncomfortable having info online, but he's 24.

If he emailed me a pic and detailed message but had no info on his profile, I'd assume he's married/involved or a player tailoring his response to his prey.



ashjor911 -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 6:15:39 AM)

Welcome



TNDommeK -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 2:50:54 PM)

I can understand certain aspects of wanting to keep somethings in your life behind closed doors. however I do agree with Kaliko also. maybe his messages might contain more info than the profile. I think the trolls and garbage on the other side has made so many real ppl very cautious when they see a barely written profile or a blank one. With so much info being able to be fished out with just the click of a mouse, it is something to consider. and as far as the no picture...I feel that there are tons of profiles with fake pics and pics of porn stars etc out there. sometimes the profile with no pic might have something in there like" I have pics to share just dont want to post here" or "I have cam to prove who I am" whatever the case may be. everyone's situation is different



Higuysitsme -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/11/2012 5:29:47 PM)

OP - anonymise your pic and don't put up info that lets people identify you. You can still write an interesting and useful profile. Its reasonable to be sensible, but you have to give yourself a chance!

Oh, and welcome and good luck.



OohAahMrs -> RE: Don't WANT to introduce (3/12/2012 9:02:56 AM)

Welcome t, you need to open your mind and let yourself flow.



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