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RE: Thoughts on play rape? - 3/15/2012 3:55:23 PM

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I have often wondered about the clothes cutting or ripping (I always feel I would be sort of sad to lose the clothing )

If you do this often do you buy "special" play clothes for this that you don't mourn the loss of (from the least expensive place you know of). Sorry, not trying to derail the thread, but ripping off of clothes can be part of "rape play". Do you know ahead of time that this play might be a possibility, or is whatever you are wearing a possible casualty. I am very attached to my clothes....(!)

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RE: Thoughts on play rape? - 3/15/2012 4:49:31 PM

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Before reading the replies I'll say I engage in forced play sessions, I love acting/role-playing scene's in which I would never find myself in real life, but at the same time I deferentiate between rape and force. Rape is unwanted, and I would never want to risk shattering a relationship by having my partner actually do things that would truely be 'rape' of my boundaries. Sometimes you can't come back from that.

Force situations that remain inside ultimate boundaries though? Bring it on. Maybe this constitutes most peoples play rape scenario's but I distinctly dislike using the word 'rape' which implies an unwanted act. I -want- my partners, and I seek to reach frenzied heights of 'wanting' not the opposite when I play.

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RE: Thoughts on play rape? - 3/15/2012 8:57:05 PM

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My Master and I wrestle each other all the time (though he always quickly overpowers me, so it looks more like him getting a hold on me and me struggling against him; I enjoy it, but it is short-lived) and it often leads to sex where he's pinning me down and being very aggressive, but it is all done in a fun and emotionally intimate context--we are smiling and laughing with each other while we struggle, just being playful. I want him and he wants me, and it's very intimate and personal, and there's no "force" or "non-consent" aspects to it. This is as far as anything constituting "resistance play" goes for us.

We don't do any "play rape" or false resistance type of things. It just doesn't appeal to us on any level. It's very impersonal, pretending to be different people--rapist and victim, rather than our reality of loving Master and pet. Any and all roleplay type things we ever do have to be context-based with us "playing" ourselves in the scenario, or it doesn't work for us. A lack of intimacy is definitely not appealing to me. I love the connection between us, how we do things. Taking the personal aspect out of what we do would ruin it for us.

The idea of pretending I don't want him or don't wish for his advances also seems oddly dishonest to me, because my entire being purposes itself to consenting to everything that he desires of me (willing obedience.) Pretending I am not consenting holds no appeal to either of us--and quite frankly, it would probably hurt his feelings in a way, to see me acting like I desperately don't want him. And he has no interest in seeing me scream, cry, or look fearful of him. It's not a turn on to him and that sort of behavior is not something he ever wants to see me directing at him. We are also not into pain or degradation in any form--he does not want to or like hurting me and I do not want to or like being hurt by him. Emotionally, it would be awful for both of us. That's just how it is for us, and the reasons it would not work. For others, this is not the case, and they might see things very differently, but there you have it from my perspective.

For reference on our experience with "play rape": I have never engaged in any "play rape" type of scenario. However, my Master, before he met me, experienced the "play rape" thing once with a previous girlfriend because she was into it and begged him to try it. He disliked it immensely and quit halfway through the scene. He was rather disgusted with it and vehemently expressed the same standpoint towards it currently.

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RE: Thoughts on play rape? - 3/16/2012 4:49:57 AM

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I've played this out a couple of times in my life. It worked once, disolving into great sex, but did not another time. The time it did not work out was because my partner at the time was too distracted and tired and made an ill fated attempt to 'go along'. It was not pretty and I still get mad that she wasn't honest enough with me or herself to say she was too tired instead of getting in the middle of it and going into hysterics.

So I consider rape play plausable but with a caution sign around it.

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RE: Thoughts on play rape? - 3/16/2012 5:18:27 AM

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I've never participated in it, but the idea of "resistance play" does appeal to me, mainly because I really enjoy that whole loss of power, control thing.

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RE: Thoughts on play rape? - 3/16/2012 9:26:28 AM

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I love play rape.
It's one of my main kink and ties everything together, the consensual non-consensual, the bondage, blindfolds, gags, and the whippings into submitting.Well the slapping on face as well, in a good rape scene to force you submit.
It's just fun to play, but not fun if it's the real thing. The real fun in it, is cuz it's consensual rape.

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RE: Thoughts on play rape? - 3/20/2012 4:17:13 PM

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Personally my partner and I love "play rape" because he and I both love to fight. It's a chance for me to fight back while he still gets the dom position of pinning me and forcing me (he's definitely stronger than me so there's no way I'll ever win lol). And the not knowing what comes next can be really hot. Honestly it's more about how you play it out. But you have to sell it.

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