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JanahX -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 6:35:25 PM)
You assume whatever the hell you want to assume - youre obviously going to anyway. Its so funny when you see one person just speaking for the masses and thats how it should be done and no one else has any agenda but what the OP wants and how he wants it. No one cares how you like to session. Why would you think otherwise?

Lockit -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 6:39:00 PM)
What gets me is the little tid bit about... dressing like this gets you the wrong kind of attention bit. As if some don't know what they are doing and need some correction of some sort. As if some need to be told how to dress themselves because some guys want it this or that way. Some of us really don't care what the masses think of how we dress up or down or not at all. Dominant's tend to do what they want to do.

JanahX -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 6:43:25 PM)
Just another man trying to control women - [image]local://upfiles/1059980/E49E8253E113422CA833BAB54E3229BF.jpg[/image]

RedMagic1 -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 6:44:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: menowimp Is there a school of mistresses that says to be one you need to wear a leather or latex outfit, carry a whip and expose half your body? I can't speak for other men so I don't know if that is what guys want, but my guess is that there are many like me who are totally put off by it. And probably you attract a lot more of the men you don't want, or give the wrong impression, because it almost always comes with some kind of warning about what you don't offer, what you're not etc. I would quite like to see some more "vanilla" mistresses, who yes, do session with people in a BDSM manner, but do not feel they need to undress or wear outrageous outfits to do so. I also prefer not to session totally naked, by the way. I don't buy leather, and I don't like the look on women. I also prefer a sexy dress or lingerie to seeing a woman naked, in general. I think it is more beguiling. Are you looking for more "girl next door" femdom porn? Or more confident women who just "dress normally"? If the second, maybe go out of your way to chat up some Suicide Girls. Tats and piercings means greater interest in S&M in my experience -- more likely to have explored the pleasure one can get from pain.

menowimp -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 6:56:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Are you looking for more "girl next door" femdom porn? Or more confident women who just "dress normally"? If the second, maybe go out of your way to chat up some Suicide Girls. Tats and piercings means greater interest in S&M in my experience -- more likely to have explored the pleasure one can get from pain. Both these types appeal to me, which one depends more on my mood.

menowimp -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 7:03:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise Out of curiousity, I just did a search for dominant females, age range between 30 - 50, and living in the UK. Of the 20 images that appeared on page one, only 6 of them were dressed in the style you dislike. The bottom line is, you are only one man in a million here, and what you don't like, others do, and vice versa. Best of luck in finding the woman that appeals to you. Is that on this site that you are referring? Most of the women on this site are looking for a serious BDSM relationship. I cannot offer that. Now yes, I know that I can contact pro-dommes and ask them if they like to also session in ordinary clothing in a domestic setting, and I will sometimes get positive replies. But for me first impressions are also important and the first contact I make is via their website. Now I can understand they may want that website there for those who like that kind of thing, but it would be nice if they offered an "alternative" page for people like me. I can assure you there are lots of people like me. Yes, there are lots who like the other type, who want a well-equipped dungeon and a dominatrix that looks "kinky", but they are well catered for in the femdom world, it would seem.

Lockit -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 7:07:39 PM)
Why not put it in their suggestion box? Why the reference to the type of attention they are getting? You could have easily said, what you were attracted to without insulting other people by implying dressing as they do, they don't attract the best of people. You were insulting to those dressing in a manner you don't appreciate and those attracted to them.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 7:08:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: menowimp Now yes, I know that I can contact pro-dommes and ask them if they like to also session in ordinary clothing in a domestic setting, and I will sometimes get positive replies. But for me first impressions are also important and the first contact I make is via their website. Now I can understand they may want that website there for those who like that kind of thing, but it would be nice if they offered an "alternative" page for people like me. I can assure you there are lots of people like me. Yes, there are lots who like the other type, who want a well-equipped dungeon and a dominatrix that looks "kinky", but they are well catered for in the femdom world, it would seem. This seems like a non-problem. Search for professional disciplinarians and spankers, not dominatrices. The website marketing is completely different, much more "stern governess" or "bitchy sorority girl" type thing. There is no lack of such providers in the UK.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 7:42:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: menowimp Is there a school of mistresses that says to be one you need to wear a leather or latex outfit, carry a whip and expose half your body? I haven't a clue really. All I know is I wear what I want to wear and I look good in all of it. [;)] When I'm at home, more often than not, I wear jeans and some kind of tee shirt or a cotton blouse, tennis shoes, and my hair in a pony tail. Face scrubbed clean and no make-up. Boring probably, but comfortable. When I go to munches and the parties afterward, I will dress up comfortably or sometimes wear a corset and a skirt. I do wear make-up, but just a little. But I never ever wear heels. I'd fall over and hurt myself in them, plus a 6'1" woman in heels would be pretty imposing. I wear flats NBMG

LadyPact -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 8:29:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 This seems like a non-problem. Search for professional disciplinarians and spankers, not dominatrices. The website marketing is completely different, much more "stern governess" or "bitchy sorority girl" type thing. There is no lack of such providers in the UK. Agreed. When I see a Domino's Pizza ad on tv, I don't say that I don't want pizza because pepperoni (being it's one of the most popular toppings) is what is displayed on the commercial. I know when I call, if I tell them I want mushroom, that's what they are going to give Me. Does that mean that My favorite, as well as everyone's personal favorite are going to be shown on tv spots? No. It's about mass appeal. Not that the other things aren't available.

TNDommeK -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/15/2012 11:32:24 PM)
I absolutely have to agree with Glorious Morning. I tend to show cleavage because I think as big as My breasts are, it is very nice to see them in a low cut number. I have however, been dressed in a regular button up shirt. I think it would depend on how I felt that day. sometimes I may not feel like getting all "leathered" up,lol. but then again I may want to go all out with My attire. in which case Alecta would be right in say..the rest of youll just have to deal.

menowimp -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/18/2012 7:55:19 AM)
I have found some "wrestling" sites where effectively you take part in wrestling combat with well-trained females (mixed wrestling). They come with various rules and perhaps is more down my street. I have booked such a session and will see how it goes.

Baroana -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/19/2012 7:47:15 PM)
He's a true sub, not some wanker who wants to pay to be fake dominated. He wants a woman to take him over and act like she owns him. She wears what she feels comfortable in, not what he fantasizes about. She does to him what she likes, not what arouses him. She is dominant. She puts him in his place...

Baroana -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/19/2012 7:48:22 PM)
...and then gets the hell out before the game starts.

subbyinlosangele -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/19/2012 10:19:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: menowimp Is there a school of mistresses that says to be one you need to wear a leather or latex outfit, carry a whip and expose half your body? I can't speak for other men so I don't know if that is what guys want, but my guess is that there are many like me who are totally put off by it. And probably you attract a lot more of the men you don't want, or give the wrong impression, because it almost always comes with some kind of warning about what you don't offer, what you're not etc. I would quite like to see some more "vanilla" mistresses, who yes, do session with people in a BDSM manner, but do not feel they need to undress or wear outrageous outfits to do so. I also prefer not to session totally naked, by the way. There are lots of mistresses like that. I took a glance at your profile, and it looks like you have a very narrow idea of what you want and you're not adverse to a pro, so I'd suggest you find one and simply order the services you desire. If you are paying for it, you can get exactly what you want pretty easily.

VanessaChaland -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (3/20/2012 12:15:04 AM)
The so called 'Mom-Domme" fetish revolves around domestic discipline spanking (teacher, governess etc) and the attire is mostly business suit/skirt with sensible heels.

DominaCeleste -> RE: Vanilla mistresses (4/12/2012 8:40:19 AM)
I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS dress as I please. If the boy doesn't like it...guess what! I don't care! The boy is (when playing) ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS naked. If the boy doesn't like it... guess what! Yea, you got it. I don't care.

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