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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/18/2012 9:13:47 AM

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tameeks is lucky to have a Master who cares about what she thinks. Too many don't seem to. Wishing you the best, honey.

LOL I don't think I agree, but okay.

Master cares what I think, but that doesn't mean I get what I want. See the difference?

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/18/2012 9:34:51 AM

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I don't consider myself much of a masochist, though there are some types of pain that I'm more than okay with. The level that I can deal with varies dramatically based on a lot of factors: the time of the month, my overall mental outlook, specifically what KIND of pain it is, and what's led up to it. Thankfully, Master isn't a sadist, but as a result I have even less tolerance for pain than I did when I was single and dating.

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/18/2012 5:40:41 PM

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My late Sir was a sadist, and i was a virgin to pain when i met him. Others in the community felt that i had jumped straight into the fire, avoiding the frying pan, and maybe i did - BUT - he took me through the swearing/wriggling/screaming phase to the lying there and knowing that he was giving me as much pain as before , but i wasn't processing it as pain.

He had the experience and the intestinal fortitude to get me there. He really loved the canes, both slim stingy ones and thick thuddy ones - and i definitely came to love the thuddy ones - because they took me to that place where pain didn't hurt.

And there were definitely pains that i didn't care for and only took because he wanted to do things to me. I figure that every relationship is that way - a bit of give, a bit of take. Hopefully, both parties can agree on a balance.

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/19/2012 5:29:05 AM

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I love thuddy but hate stingy. I can take stingy if :

1. I'm in the right headspace (ie, NOT making dinner!)
2. I'm properly warmed up
3. It's alternated with thuddy
4. I know how long it's going to last (for example, he tells me he's going to administer 1, or 20, depending on how evil it is.)

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/19/2012 2:57:48 PM

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I'll also add a few more things here, OP...

You may find some positions much more comfortable...and easier to take. Example...I almost never get paddled/caned etc. face down on the bed with a pillow under my hips. Why? Because it's quite comfortable for me...and it doesn't hurt my bum as much. (hence, why my Sir chooses to place me in a different position) In contrast, if I am bend over 90 degrees over a couch arm, chair, bench etc, the impact of the implement is far more effective and painful. (and psychologically, it makes me feel much more vulnerable, exposed and humiliated than the far more comforting fluffy pillows on the nice soft bed)

Another bit that goes with arousal--not to get too personal here, but I typically masturbate at least once--usually twice a day. I never masturbate on the day when I'm playing. After I cum, I lose almost all ability to tolerate pain, and I've found that as long as I can keep both the little head and the big head into the scene, I can take a lot more.

Forgot to add-- be sure you are well fed but not over-fed and hydrated with water. Avoid alcohol--while it may increase your ability to take pain, you will not be able to discern good pain from bad pain, and you are more prone to injuries or simply going beyond where you should have stopped.

Lastly--give your Master verbal and visual cues if you can. My Dommes and Sir can usually tell when I'm really feeling it by my verbal cues as well as physical ones. I have a number of physical cues if I get non-verbal--one is something resembling a "tap out" in wrestling--he knows that 3 taps on his thigh signals at least a few lighter ones if not a brief respite. I only use it when I truly need it, otherwise he'll think I'm just trying to get off easy.

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/19/2012 8:46:53 PM

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buld up to pain is one another is how excited or focused you are rlaxing helps me to prepare when it all comes together i can float above it all

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/20/2012 1:44:14 PM

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I'm a Masochist and newly so as well.
For me, when my Master started it was spankings and hit me with a wooden back scratcher on my butt, it doesn't sound very erotic I know, but it frickin hurt. Then we got a whip and that's when my masochism was really unleashed. I love the sting of a whip, I love how it feels, I love the way it hurts and I always want more. I both fear and love the whip.
Pain is still pain, in my opinion, whether your a masochist or not. Some pain arouses me and twice now I have experienced subspace due to, in my mind, severe whippings. The first time I felt like I was on an adrenaline rush and I could have ran a marathon. The second time I felt like I was stoned. I was so sleepy and relaxed and had that floating through water feeling. If I broke my arm, that would still hurt and it would not be arousing. When Master first starts hurting me I don't enjoy it right off the bat, but then that quickly diminishes leaving the pain to still hurt and make me cry out in pain and on occasion just bawl my eyes out cause it hurts, but it turns me on in the same token.
I haven't felt like I have displeased my Master after our scenes. Shortly after he unchains me he will whisper in my ear things to help bring me back up and reassure me I have done a good job. This is part of him being my Master. He beats me down and then pulls me back up again and I'm stronger for it and I can take harsher whippings the next time. Or spankings or paddling. Whatever my Master desires *grins*
ETA: My Master is a Sadist. Very much so.

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/20/2012 5:21:28 PM

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I see some wonderful suggestions given. For me deep breaths are a real help, being able to verbilize is helpful, screeming doesn't hurt a thing and thinking about the one that is dominate to me and how much I want to please them is really helpful. One major help is having other pain activities going on, such as nipple clamps, etc. The combination of sensations does wonderful things for me. I just sort of just let myself go into the pain and everything is fine. The truth is, I rather love it.

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/20/2012 10:15:31 PM

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Again I want to thank everyone for the suggestions. On Saturday I told Him about this thread and He gave it a good look. He liked the good advice being given and asked my opinion on what I had read and where I thought I needed to go from here. He is being patient with me and knows that he's my first and only experience with pain, he doesn't want to scare me off by pushing me too far too fast. Which only makes me want to be what he wants even more. *sigh* He says I'm his favorite toy, and he can't play with a broken toy. I'll get there in time I'm sure, and I'm doing some major reading on meditation and breathing techniques.

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/21/2012 12:20:59 PM

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Just to add another perspective, I hate pain but I love the experience of being deliberately hurt. I don't get endorphin rushes, I don't slip off into subspace, I don't much care whether the implement being used is "stingy" or "thuddy" (they both hurt!), and I definitely don't get off on the pain itself. I do, however, get off on the fear, the helplessness, the vulnerability, the sense of being victimised within safe boundaries, and the sheer excitement of being at the centre of a sadist's attention. I'm a pain slut but my sluttishness is a bit complicated.

What I'm saying, basically, is that there are different ways to enjoy pain play. If you can't get into the pain, maybe you can get into the experience of being hurt, in the way that I've described. Or maybe you can get into the fact that you're pleasing your Daddy by offering your body to him and enduring whatever he wants to dish out, even if you're suffering in the process.

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/21/2012 1:25:19 PM

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He is being patient with me and knows that he's my first and only experience with pain, he doesn't want to scare me off by pushing me too far too fast. Which only makes me want to be what he wants even more. *sigh* He says I'm his favorite toy, and he can't play with a broken toy. I'll get there in time I'm sure, and I'm doing some major reading on meditation and breathing techniques.

Well, I suppose all I can say after that is, Hi, Tameeks! You are SUCH a cutie!

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/21/2012 1:37:44 PM

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He is being patient with me and knows that he's my first and only experience with pain, he doesn't want to scare me off by pushing me too far too fast. Which only makes me want to be what he wants even more. *sigh* He says I'm his favorite toy, and he can't play with a broken toy. I'll get there in time I'm sure, and I'm doing some major reading on meditation and breathing techniques.

Well, I suppose all I can say after that is, Hi, Tameeks! You are SUCH a cutie!

Well hello yourself ;). Oh and flattery, will get you EVERYWHERE with me! haha

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RE: Oh, the pain... Calling all Masochists - 3/21/2012 5:45:05 PM

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So to my question, for those who like pain, did you always like a very intense level of pain or is this something that you've built up over time?

Some things built up, others I always loved intense - nipple pain and the thuddy pain always geet me going wonderfully - it took me a while to translate stingy pain into pleasure, even now 5 years on I still need a build up for canes and crops, lots of thuddy pain first :)

After a point though I've found the arousal stops and it's just a pure endorphin rush, head flying high and not having a care in the world...

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