Soyokaze
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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim You know...it's not a widely held kink. And that is what makes it both complicated and frankly risky - taking something that is really an issue of self-identity and authenticity and turning it, associating it, using it, as part of a fetish turn on. Most responsible people won't even touch it. Someone who would, will likely be looking to you to see where you have gone of your own volition before even engaging - at least I would hope they would. There are so many landmines and hurdles - mental, emotional, physical and legal. Unless you are really really into that sort of thing, most will see it as taking away from a D/s or M/s relationship where the focus is primarily on the Dominant partner. And because indulging that kink likely comes with a high monetary price tag, it is likely that they are going to be looking at you to contribute most if not all of the costs associated - Someone "in to it" combined with as much as $30 - 50K of disposable income...now you are talking rare. Not to say that there isn't a transformation unicorn out there somewhere...but really, life change on that scale is best done by oneself to oneself under the power and authority of the individual making their own conscious choice rather than by someone else. As LafayetteLady was more or less talking about, it's hopefully not about fetish or money, but having someone that is supportive mentally and emotionally is pretty critical to have a working relationship in my opinion. Something I tried to make sure of from my second relationship onward although subsequent ones still didn't work out : (
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