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How do I? - 6/4/2006 2:30:52 AM

Devilsdaughter

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I'm sorry I asked.. Thank you for your responses..

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RE: How do I? - 6/4/2006 2:37:04 AM

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How does a submissive female express her own needs?

In the exact same way that a slave, Master, or Dominant would express their needs. COMMUNICATION.

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If you controlled in a manner where your uncomfortable speaking your mind, because its not allowed.

You are not allowed to express your needs to your own Master, yet you are allowed the freedom to express them here?

/scratches head in confusion

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RE: How do I? - 6/4/2006 2:43:08 AM

Devilsdaughter

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Unfortunalty yes. There is no one stopping me now. I'm alone in front of my computer..

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RE: How do I? - 6/4/2006 2:49:32 AM

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I can understand a rule of "no asking for sex," depending on the relationship. However, if you feel you can not live with it - well, need I finish?

Yours,

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RE: How do I? - 6/4/2006 2:49:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: Devilsdaughter

Unfortunalty yes. There is no one stopping me now. I'm alone in front of my computer..

There is no one stopping you now. Hmmm.

I will stop before I say something that is totally rude and unacceptable.

I wish you the best of luck.

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RE: How do I? - 6/4/2006 3:08:22 AM

MsBlackheart

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In WIITWD, it's harder to define abuse, but this checklist is pretty good:

http://www.beth-young.com/echeck.html

You're the only one who can answer this. Msg me privately if you want to learn more or need to talk to someone who understands all too well.

Hugs,
B

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RE: How do I? - 6/4/2006 3:24:08 AM

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While communication is important, I'm kinda left wondering if you get anything at all out of this relationship.

Part of knowing how best to control my girl is knowing what her needs are. While I'm quite observant, I'm still not a mindreader so there needs to be feedback and channels of communication. And unlike your dom, my girl will get almost anything she asks for as long as it's convenient, reasonable and esp that she asks *properly*. But how I go about "giving" it to her is my concern.

Only the clueless are that strict or unapproachable; how is he ever gonna reward, tease and torment you with your own needs if he doesn't allow you to express them in the first place?

Self esteem is a common issue for many subs and yours isn't gonna improve in that environment. He sounds highly anal retentive; why are you even there?

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