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Endivius -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/27/2012 5:03:24 PM)
the average male submissives on this site i have noticed are slaves to thier penis and thier fetishes.

Duskypearls -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/27/2012 5:41:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arienos quote: Quiet confidence, honesty, transparency, forthright, integrity, honor, humility, modesty, compassionate, passionate, protective, patient, humorous, sexual/sensual, resourceful, respectful, open/generous mind and heart, flexibiity, happy, playful, loving, intelligent (academic or street smarts), mature, assertive, sincere, tenacious, self-assured, hard-working, responsible, principled, accountable, reliable, sensitive, faithful, polite, respectful, well-mannered, courteous, courageous, considerate, ambitious, spiritual (whatever that means to them), spontaneous, forgiving, mentally/emotional present, gentle, strong, willing to take correction and direction when appropriate, can exercise self-restraint, loves to touch and be touched, and with good "backbone!" [/quote Duskypearls: You have just described the average male submissive. You may like to think so, my friend, but I have had the good fortune to find these all of these qualities in one of the most remarkable, masculine leaders I have ever met.

peppermint -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/27/2012 11:45:14 PM)
great sense of humor, kind to others, helpful, trustworthy, honest

daddysgirl8230 -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/28/2012 7:39:33 AM)
first and formost Honest, Trusting,caring, nutriting (sorry about my spelling) someone who isn't pushy, someone who has Years of experince..(i will not go with novices) I love older men so he would have to be over 40.....sense of humor, appericate the gift that he is being given (a submissive her mind body and soul to him) I want someone who works hard, drives, tall, blue eyes, clean cut (all around) accepts me as i am but also wants me to achive all that i can....and so so much more! kitten

Aynne88 -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/28/2012 8:02:54 AM)
Financially stable, successful, but self made. Compassionate but ruthless when it's needed. Willing to stand up to anyone, and the ability to protect his home and me, with whatever means are necessary. Must love animals, be liberal, at least socially, enjoy going to art galleries, plays, events, is a man's man. Clean cut, masculine, knows how to dress, not afraid to get dirty, the kind of man people look at when he walks into a room.

LunaM -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/28/2012 12:42:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Endivius the average male submissives on this site i have noticed are slaves to thier penis and thier fetishes. Bwahahahahahahaha!

VioletViolence -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/29/2012 11:24:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arienos Duskypearls: You have just described the average male submissive. I agree with Endivius. The "average" male submissive is nothing like that.....the spectacular ones, they are the ones who embody the listed qualities.

Soyokaze -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/29/2012 2:08:25 PM)
Being intelligent, being understanding, having the same interests as me, having good foresight and hindsight, being able to appreciate a dry sense of humor, knowing when to push and when to back off, Being able to be comfortable outside of my shell around them. There's a bunch more I could list, but I'll stick with the ones that came off the top of my head.

joshspet1980 -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/29/2012 2:30:57 PM)
As a person I would like him to have honesty, integrity, love, caring, gentleness, protectiveness, and a desire to please as much as be pleased. I have discovered I'm more of a Dom's Little Girl Sub. I like for him to sit me in front of him and brush my hair. And I like for him to tell me what he wants me to wear to look pretty for him. I also like being told to take care of myself. I like it when he gets demanding. I want him to have a take charge attitude. I want to be able to put full trust in him that no matter what he will protect, love, and take care of me. Now in the bedroom, I want him to push my limits. That's why I like the idea of being blindfolded and tied, so that I can't stop him. It's something he thinks I will like because he knows me so well, but I'm hesitant because I'm afraid I won't like it. I want him to help me push beyond that and try new things and discover more things that I love and maybe I won't like everything we try. But at least we tried them. And with that said, I also want him to push my limits in daily life. If he thinks I'm giving up on something too easily I want him to tell me. Then I want him to point out what I could be doing to improve. If I fight, I would want him to insist and maybe use his command over me to demand obedience on it. That helps me push past my shyness and my hesitations. I am not the most confident person in the world. I want him to push my limits in every way.

Wheldrake -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/30/2012 3:16:31 PM)
Some of the qualities that appeal to me in a dominant woman are the same ones that I would look for in a friend or a vanilla lover - intelligence, imagination, integrity, a thoughtful and sceptical cast of mind, emotional maturity. Beyond that, my ideal dominant would be controlling, highly sadistic and assertive, but also reasonably patient, understanding and aware of her own limitations. I would want her to be doing something interesting and worthwhile with her life, so that I could feel I was contributing to something interesting and worthwhile by serving her. She could also be confident, even a bit arrogant, to a degree that I would find off-putting in anyone but a dominant. Experience in handling submissives would be very desirable, as would adventurousness and an urge to keep experimenting with new toys, techniques and situations. I would actually find it erotic and fulfilling if she had some interests, preferences and sensibilities that didn't appeal to me at all, but imposed them on me anyway. Servitude feels more like servitude when it isn't entirely pleasant or comfortable. It certainly wouldn't hurt for her to have fantastic topping skills, to be at least a little older than me and from a different ethnicity, and to have some physical size and strength. She would be intimidating in any case, because of her dominant personality, but an imposing physique would add another dimension. I should mention that I'm with someone who has many of these qualities, although not all of them - but then, the question was about an "ideal" dominant, and it would be unfair to expect any real human being to measure up.

crazyml -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (3/31/2012 2:57:58 AM)
[ED to fix quotage balls-up] quote: ORIGINAL: Duskypearls quote: ORIGINAL: Arienos quote: Quiet confidence, honesty, transparency, forthright, integrity, honor, humility, modesty, compassionate, passionate, protective, patient, humorous, sexual/sensual, resourceful, respectful, open/generous mind and heart, flexibiity, happy, playful, loving, intelligent (academic or street smarts), mature, assertive, sincere, tenacious, self-assured, hard-working, responsible, principled, accountable, reliable, sensitive, faithful, polite, respectful, well-mannered, courteous, courageous, considerate, ambitious, spiritual (whatever that means to them), spontaneous, forgiving, mentally/emotional present, gentle, strong, willing to take correction and direction when appropriate, can exercise self-restraint, loves to touch and be touched, and with good "backbone!" [/quote Duskypearls: You have just described the average male submissive. You may like to think so, my friend, but I have had the good fortune to find these all of these qualities in one of the most remarkable, masculine leaders I have ever met. Arienos: I'm not sure that's a description of the "average" sub. A sub with all of those traits would be pretty exceptional, just as a dominant with those traits would be pretty exceptional. I'm curious though - which of those traits would you regard as unnecessary in an ideal dominant? Duskypearls: I liked the list, although I'd say that you've described an ideal "person" of either side of the kneel. I say this because you've listed every one of the traits I look for in an ideal sub partner... To the board in general : Fuck me with a stick! No wonder we have to be patient when looking for our ideal - we've all got pretty high standards! (Not a bad thing mind you..)

JeffBC -> RE: Qualities which intrigue you with ideal dominants (4/1/2012 10:43:57 AM)
Neither Carol or I would ever look for a "master" or a "slave". So we'd be looking for the usual set of stuff... a decent human with whom we have good chemistry. Carol would probably give bonus points to someone who was [socially] dominant. I might be adding some bonus points for someone who i thought might become property. For me, I don't think I'd care at all about either sexually or socially submissive. In my experience, the magic part is that word "chemistry". In all my life I have found it to be entirely, totally, and 100% unpredictable. So lists of traits are, in my experience, at best a waste of energy and at worst a filter on reality that prevents someone from seeing the truth. I had such a list when I met Carol. I'm very, very glad I tossed the list in the garbage can in favor of the actual reality of her.

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