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Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 4:35:19 AM   
Tine11


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Status: offline 		I am torn honestly, i would like to know what a man feels like inside of me and yet i want to keep for the one i choose to my life with. Is this commen for other virgins? If so have you had to deal with it?

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 6:44:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was a virgin until my wedding night.  I was 24.  I suppose what it boils down to is what you desire more: to experience sex now, or to wait and experience it for the first time with the one you want to live your life out with.  Personally, I found the choice to wait worth it.
 
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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 6:49:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		 I was a virgin until I was 21.  The man eventually became my husband (mistake on my part).  It is a personal choice for everyone. You just have to decide what is best for you.

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 6:51:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		i personally waited until my wedding day (which ended in divorce) If i was to do it again though i am not sure which choices i would have made honestly.  Its a decision only you can make.

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 7:04:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		Very common.  And having spent time as an unrepentant slut, I would tell you not to be in a hurry about it, wait until you KNOW it's a person and a situation you truly feel is right, and should you find your experience does not include bluebirds, bunnies and rainbows, try to be realistic enough in your expectations that it doesn't come as a shattering disappointment.
Oh yeah. And if I where you, I'd never even mention that you where unexperienced, until you have developed a feel for who you are talking with and it seems like things may get to that point. If you do, you will attract every guy who feels he has something to prove, and you will be passed right over by many who you might find attractive, but who seeing a mention of virginity would consider it a troll and become the last word they read.

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 7:11:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		Just a question.......if a woman has had dildos and other objects inserted - does that still qualify her for virgin status?

just wondering.....

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 7:15:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Technically, I guess she is.  I mean, if a girl has a gynecological exam before she's lost her virginity, then the doctor breaks her hymen, but she's still considered a virgin.  So why not toys?

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 8:02:58 AM   
zumala


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Status: offline 		Yes, I think she'd still be considered a virgin.  Heck, a tampon can rupture the hymen. 
 
vir·gin    ( P )  Pronunciation Key  (vûrjn)
n.
  1. A person who has not experienced sexual intercourse.
  2. A chaste or unmarried woman; a maiden.

I think what makes a virgin is simply inexperience with sex.  If you haven't slept with anyone, you're a virgin.
 
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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 8:14:23 AM   
murmur


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Status: offline 		I'm still a virgin yup and i have to deal with it each day cause i have a great libido...but i do everything in order to not regret anything. Such as not getting too much drunk and too much alone with some stranger guy in a bar, know what i mean? ;)
the key words are to *take your time* for that precise matter, i think. But dont be too much torn about it...even if it is important, it's just another one of those things about life that have to happens one way or another.
Until it happens...enjoy life ;)

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 8:23:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Tine11
I am torn honestly, i would like to know what a man feels like inside of me and yet i want to keep for the one i choose to my life with. Is this commen for other virgins? If so have you had to deal with it?

There's a lot of pressure for virgins to lose their virginity in the scene.  In fact I'd say you'd be hard pressed to find something that doesn't rile the "newbie sharks" more than the taste of a virgin.

But you have to know why you chose to stay a virgin and decide if those reasons still apply to you.  As always, you make the best choice for yourself.  If you decide to remain a virgin until you die, as long as it's the right choice for you, others should respect that and you should be fulfilled with that.

If you decide tomorrow to go to a gang bang every week for fun, as long as it's the right choice for you, others should respect that and you should be fulfilled with that.

You have to decide what is the right choice for you.

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 9:45:17 AM   
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I recently started talking to a virgin and she isn't sure if she really wants to wait for marriage but she knows she does want to wait for a serious relationship and frankly I have no problem with that.

It is something I can respect and understand since I'm not one to rush into sex or sleep around either.  Some men might have a problem with it, I personally don't.

But as a side note if you are so interested to feel what a man is like inside you I have heard anal doesn't count against your virginity

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 9:52:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was a virgin until 30..then I "just had to" know what it felt like to have a man inside me.  At the time.. I was ok with my choice to do it.. to get it over with, so to speak.  I have been with a few men now..and for the most part at the time.. I didn't regret it... but now.. I have met the love of my life..and so wish I could have waited..to make Him the only one.  I realize now..yeah.. it was ok..and it felt about like I thought it would..but wow.. how wonderful it would have been.. if He was the first for me. 
 
Just examine how you will feel after... or how you will feel if you have it now.. and meet your One 8mths later.. like me..and you had waited instead.   Only you will have to deal with the "after" nobody else.. so make sure you are making the right choice for YOU.

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 9:57:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Tine11,
I'm sorry, but I just found this first line:
quote:

I am torn honestly...

Combined with the thread title; "Giving up my Virginity" to be hilariously ironic; and I wonder if I was the only one?

REAL sorry to interrupt your thread.

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 10:15:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		nah merc you aren't the only one but I didn't wanna say anything lol

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 1:58:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		 tine,
I waited until I was 24, and the girl in question was someone I thought I wanted to spend My life with (Thank God that did not happen, but it's where I was at the time) I have never regretted waiting, nor have I ever spoken to anyone who waited who wished they had lost their virginity sooner than they did. your virginity is a uniquely precious gift, there is only one  in the entire world, and when it is given to someone, there will never, ever be another.
Before you give that gift to someone, I personally would advise making sure that that someone will be one whom you will look fondly on (at least) for the rest of your life, and that you trust and care about enough to really want them to have this, as oppossed to just being blinded by lust at the moment. I wish you well, and hope you make good choices.

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 3:38:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well dear- what does a man feel like inside [you]. He feels better then you do. You are 21, I think you have done a cool job by waiting this long.  Men will lie to get sex. If someone buys you dinner- you dont have to have sex with them.

The most important thing in the world to a man is his penis, and how it feel to him..

So if you are tensed up, and dont relax- it will be harder on you.

Another thing...dont be fooled by fancy clothes or cars. Ask the dude about his STD history.  again- men will lie for sex.

I was ramming at 17, with a 31 year old biker. egads. My father told me- he had put a contract out on him. [yikes] [man that was hard to explain to the bf!]

I dont think 21 is too young....but I do think there are numerous cons out there.

I hope this helps-

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 3:55:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well in most cases you can only give it once. Make sure that the person receiving it is well worth it and that they will cherish that first moment forever.

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 6:41:22 PM   
Tine11


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Status: offline 		Thanks everyone, i know that i have really think about, and can only hope that find a master who will make me consider is for a while, even after i might offer it. Its nice to know that i am nto the only one that has has waited.

Tine

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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 7:41:17 PM   
mgdartist


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Status: offline 		unbelievable thread.
you've waited long enough honey, go have some fun.
being a man, you may qualify what i say by that fact, however...
i've only had one virgin i know of...and the sex did get better after a while....lol.
but ever since, i never gave a rats ass if any girl i was with or wanted to be with was a virgin, always thought any man who got nitpicky about it was a moron, and since my first one, actually preferred it that she wasnt.
ok, let the flames begin...lol
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RE: Giving up my Virginity? - 6/4/2006 9:46:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't need a virgin but I do prefer a girl who has at least been selective

Not that there is anything wrong with having fun, just not who I prefer to have for my partner

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