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RE: How many of you have been violated? - 11/9/2004 3:50:57 PM

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Please change these words for they are biased in their application
and there are just as many manipulators whom are sub or Switch or
vanilla or slave or Mistress for that matter and in a Lifestyle
board using the word Master with in a sentance to show expertease
is well rather uncooth.

I agree that subs and switches can be manipulative as well. I was not using that particular adjective to show expertease and/or bias. It was just an adjective that I used. I did not recognize the pun in it until you pointed it out to me. I thank you for that.

Thank you for the links as well.

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RE: How many of you have been violated? - 11/27/2004 11:48:45 AM

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Anti-Cyber-Stalking 101

Unless you actually meet the person face to face, there is little they can do. Little but not nothing. This is list of basic common steps that’ll stop 95% of hackers. The other 5%, well, buy a new computer if you want to close the barn door after the horse gets out, this may be of little help.

1 get an anti-virus. Install it, update it, and use it.
2 get a software firewall. Install it, update it, use it.
3 get a hardware firewall. (Most DSL modems are one now.)

Don’t ask me what a firewall is. I don’t know what a 16 valve engine is, but my car has one. (The part about 4 cylinders I understand.)

Just one firewall is like a pickable lock. Both are pickable, but it is annoying. It is like locking your car and using the club. Punk kids will be stopped but that 5% of pro car thieves won’t be.

If microsoft has a patch for a know security issue, install it.

Since I pushed this topic up I’m sure some better computer geeks than me got better ideas.

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RE: How many of you have been violated? - 11/27/2004 12:56:04 PM

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Anti-Cyber-Stalking 101

That's good advice for anti-hacking and anti-virus.

But cyberstalking is a different animal. It's when someone follows you around at various sites where you chat, changes names constantly to spy on you, spreads hurtful lies about you, and makes threats online that could be carried out in real life. Simply blocking them doesn't help because of the name changes. The one who stalked me threatened me if i blocked him in email and on IM.

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RE: How many of you have been violated? - 11/27/2004 2:15:02 PM

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Ive been cyberstalked by a couple of slaves turn Free woman whom have tempted to ruin My life on line reputation by saying that I hack peoples computers for the past three years because I turned them out so to speak when they constantly got in between My tempt at having a on line relationship with a Dom in their jealousy's so I can relate but what I know about any person whom has it in them to be vengeful in their on line is that they desire that which they cannot have or they are taking out that which they perceive is a wrong done them. period. I know thats how I feel most of the time knowing that many whom judge Me do so with the thought in their minds not of who I am but whom they have been told I am percieved to be by others whom do not know Me at all but only take gossip for fact. All tho these Woman have been sucessfull in pulling folks away from Me whom didn't know any better their evil intents what I know in life is that what ever goes around comes around and I'm sure that they will feel the bite of vengefuls wrath. I have no issue stating what I will do from not or what I can do from not I however will state that I know much about a computer and about the site that We all frequent there but it is because Ive worked there for years and from its inception and know the inside outs of things they didn't have access to and thats all just like here the Mods and those whom work the site have inside info We as member don't have access to but its used in trust and it is hoped that those given that trust will use whats given in good faith to do a job. Integrity and Honor are a big thing on the INTERNET for much information can be had by any about any and can be passed alone as public information to just about any. There is NO such thing as a secured server. Just remember this. For every place that states it is secured there are literally thousands of folks from all over the world whom is handling your input and information and it only takes One bad seed to take this information and use it for corrupt purpose. Learn how to protect your most important of information from the world and public eye in public domain areas. (that means online)
Ive never been anyone that worried about My safety for We all are human beings living in Our world and for every action there is a equal and opposite reaction hence any thing thats done negatively to Me always returns to those in like fashion I believe. I'm capable of taking care of My self and others around Me and those whom are not able to care for them selfs as well. I suppose I would need a better definition of all whats included in the who has been violated part to speak on any thing else.

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RE: How many of you have been violated? - 11/28/2004 5:56:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDREAD

Ive never been anyone that worried about My safety for We all are human beings living in Our world and for every action there is a equal and opposite reaction hence any thing thats done negatively to Me always returns to those in like fashion I believe. I'm capable of taking care of My self and others around Me and those whom are not able to care for them selfs as well. I suppose I would need a better definition of all whats included in the who has been violated part to speak on any thing else.

I am sorry that that happened to you Mistress Dread. But it sounds as if you are handling it well. I am glad to hear that.
As far you you wanting a better definition of what is included in being violated? Well...anything. If a person has felt violated in any way, shape, or form. There is no limit. If you felt violated then you felt violated. The group does not judge what are credible violations, it is merely there as support. If a person feels violated and wants to talk about it, then they are more than welcome to share their story in our group. If a person just wants to support those that have been violated they are also more than welcome.

A violation is a violation. We are not there to judge the violator, we are there to support the violated. It could range from online violation only or online violation leading to physical violation, as in my case. The point you made about our information being available no matter what precautions we take is a very good point and has lead to some people feeling as if they have lost control of their whole lives to their stalker/violator.

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RE: How many of you have been violated? - 11/28/2004 7:20:25 PM

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Yanno... (stop laughing at my yannos damnit LOL)

I've been stalked online. Sometimes for years.

My latest little clone has been pretending to be me for nearly a year now.

And yeah they all followed me around, said hateful things and pretended to be me and tried to smear me this is the thing ...

... it only bugs you if you LET it.

I've had them try to hack me, threaten to out me, threaten to kill my animals, threaten to harm me, my job, my family, my friends.

There is ONE response each jerk got from me.

GO FOR IT.

Do it. Shut up and DO it.

Can the threats, can the bs, and fucking DO something.

They only have the power you ALLOW them to have. Period. Once they use it up, its gone, so they wont use it. It's a bluff.

Anyone that believes them you don't want and really can they damage any of your REAL friends or your REAL rep by their bs? All you have to say is its just some guy that I rejected who got bent out of shape and he's extreme and a real asshole. As long as YOUR behavior and conduct doesn't feed into whatever silly accusations or claims they are making, people will side with YOU - not them.

I've run into these guys in real life, as well as online, they expect if they push hard enough you'll crumble - crumble a little and they think they got you (like kids do lol). In the end, it's just online. I've walked away from rooms not because it beat me or because it won but because when I looked at it objectively, I gained little if anything by staying and making a point, and my time I decided was best spent elsewhere.

My clone pretends he is me, sends them to my site, makes ridiculous claims, and they change constantly. I find it very amusing. Anyone that falls for his bs needs the lesson.

I dunno. I've had guns pointed at my head, had a hot iron held near my face, I've had knives drawn on me and stabbed into me all meant to make me scared and to get me to comply, and every time I told the assholes to fucking stop fucking playing around and if they are gonna do it shut up stop talking about and do it already they backed down. Bullies are bullies, period.

So I guess I see it going on online and feel it's not remotely as hard to do as when I had three guys pinning me in a corner high on drugs with a clothes iron plugged in and going into great deal about how they were gonna ruin my pretty face cuz I said I wouldn't suck them or fuck them, and having that iron damn close to my face too. I had no problem looking them in the eyes and calling their bluff and then upping the ante (granted I was scared it was gonna go that way, but I refused to let them scare me into doing what they wanted). So this online stuff is nothing. Those hoods knew where I lived, everything, and they were actual hoods, real scary types - a couple ended up in not so happy places. As a kid I hung out with some nasty humanoids, most these dudes online are just laughable puffs of hot air to me, but yanno all bullies are usually just hiding their own powerlessness. Knowing THAT ... is power.

As I have said before, I'm the WORST person to stalk. I don't do the victim thing. I had some criminal hop my backyard fence to hide out from the cops, and he wound up running TO them to get the hell away from me. Guess a screaming two sword wielding chick hurtling at you while cursing at the top of her lungs in the dark can be a scary thing, who knew? lol

They live off fear and having an effect. So dont give them any is my opinion.

I guess I feel don't be a victim and don't play into the I'm a victim mindset, but I know not everyone agrees with that.

JMO

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RE: How many of you have been violated? - 12/1/2004 12:33:09 AM

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True Diva but not everyone whom has been violated feels a victim.
In Your words I seen the violations and the pain of such even if
You feel You didn't become the victim You were and violated as well
but like Me didn't let any of it get in Your way of life living for You
were past it all regardless if it was in real life or online. I think many
here online fall into the faulse guise that because they are online
they cannot become violated but this is not the case and many find
out the hard way that it is actually easier to be such here. Everyone
reacts differently to experiances in life and We can either take the
experiance of violation as being the victim of it or the survivor and
thriver of it.
We have both here in this thread.

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RE: How many of you have been violated? - 12/2/2004 1:03:50 PM

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I dunno. I've had guns pointed at my head, had a hot iron held near my face, I've had knives drawn on me and stabbed into me all meant to make me scared and to get me to comply, and every time I told the assholes to fucking stop fucking playing around and if they are gonna do it shut up stop talking about and do it already they backed down. Bullies are bullies, period.

Where do you hang out? Maybe you should reconsider the area's you frequent?
I've been stalked by many as well. I feel the same way you do. The worst one ever was about 5 years ago. LIved in Texas and was the son of a diplomat. He had diplomatic immunity. He had a habit of finding me online. Telling me how he was going to come out, kidnap me, etc, etc. Nothing stood in his way. Until a few of my buddies in the FBI paid him a visit.
Never heard from him again. I do as well tell them to get it over with. All back down.
One even had the nerve to tell me I stole her name online. A name I held for well over 10 years at that time.
If you allow them to get away with it they flourish. If you stand up, they run away never to be heard from again.

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