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submissivejas22 -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/26/2012 4:44:58 PM)
I'm only trying to get a better understanding so do not take what I ask offensive that was the whole point again I thank every one for replies and time. I expect answers not that. That's why I said I am new to bdsm

JeffBC -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/26/2012 4:47:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bitchdog4master I think she may be referring to Men on here who are very young and claim to have been Masters all there life. Perhaps... then again maybe she means something else? Your answer, though, is why I prefer the word "liar" to "fake". I have no idea what a "true master" is. But I do know that "I'm not married" is a lie if the person really is married. I know that "I've been a master all my life" may or may not be a lie depending on how they meant it. For instance, there are lots of unowned slaves who still assert they are a slave and so might well say "I've been a slave all my life". What they mean by that is "... in their hearts." This question would've been a lot simpler to answer if the OP had asked, "How can I tell if someone is lying over the internet?" The short answer... "generally you can't"

DarkSteven -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/26/2012 4:49:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bitchdog4master Have not posted in a long time. Why the bleep does it say VANILLA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh God no please. Because you're below some threshold of posts, 20 or 40 or something. quote: ORIGINAL: submissivejas22 I'm only trying to get a better understanding so do not take what I ask offensive that was the whole point again I thank every one for replies and time. I expect answers not that. That's why I said I am new to bdsm I haven't seen anyone take anything you said as being offensive. We're normally all friendly folk here, outside of Politics and Religion.

ProlificNeeds -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/26/2012 4:50:11 PM)
FR~ The same way you would tell if a vanilla boyfriend was just using you for sex and didn't actually give a fuck about you. A BDSM relationship has no rules, it is what you want it to be. So decide what you want yours to be, then accept nothing less than that.

TNDommeK -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/26/2012 5:50:41 PM)
I think the best info depends on you. If you feel your relationship is real (according to what you feel real is) and going how the two of you are wanting it to go, then live your life and love it. Don't let others dictate what they feel BDSM should be. But ProlificNeeds is right, even in a vanilla relationship, one knows when it's not right. Have fun and explore!!

LafayetteLady -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/26/2012 5:52:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ProlificNeeds FR~ The same way you would tell if a vanilla boyfriend was just using you for sex and didn't actually give a fuck about you. A BDSM relationship has no rules, it is what you want it to be. So decide what you want yours to be, then accept nothing less than that. This ^^^^^ and nothing but this. Everything else people are saying are what it means to THEM, which may or may not have anything to do with you. The only cautionary statement I have (and others have made as well) is that it is always wise to get to know someone for a while before becoming "owned." This would also stand true in a vanilla relationship. Don't commit yourself to someone you haven't taken the time to get to know.

kalikshama -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/27/2012 4:27:06 AM)
Yes, just as you shouldn't rush into marriage, don't rush into being owned.

poise -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/27/2012 1:43:48 PM)
The only one who can authenticate a master is the person who is freely inspired to give him that authority over themselves. Otherwise, you're only submitting to a label. It's never going to be as easy as "He says he is a master and I am a submissive, therefore I shall do everything he tells me to do because that's what submissives do." Look to find a man that you are comfortable with in areas outside of the kink. If it's meant to be, the rest will fall into place.

JeffBC -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/27/2012 3:37:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise It's never going to be as easy as "He says he is a master and I am a submissive. Well actually... it did kind of work out that way for me. (if we gloss over the 15 years of loving her first part)

Killerangel -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/27/2012 5:45:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: submissivejas22 i am merely new to bdsm as a submissive first time in real life. how do i know my master isnt a fake Well, as it was mentioned please take your time. Things don't have to go as fast as the Dominant wants, you have input into how fast you want them to go too. In fact, until you accept someone as your Dominant you are equals. See if someone makes you feel comfortable and is what you are looking for. The best thing you can do is take all of the BDSM out of the equation and see if it's something that you enjoy and think is good.

Hillwilliam -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/28/2012 10:13:51 AM)
A TWUE Dom needs a really cool chair like this one. [image]local://upfiles/664494/B8F0A7E9902B4D0685DD2059E150BFE4.jpg[/image]

TNDommeK -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/28/2012 3:29:53 PM)
Don't forget the hat. The hat adds to the bad ass chair!

GotSteel -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/28/2012 3:43:05 PM)
Don't make snarky comment about how true masters glow....don't make snarky comment about how true masters glow...must resist.... DAMN IT! [image]local://upfiles/566126/C221B0B9F1314C1E84376494EC4C4A4D.jpg[/image]

GotSteel -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/28/2012 3:46:59 PM)
Seriously though kinky dating isn't really any different from the normal kind. Figure out what you're looking for and use your common sense. You probably want to do some research on the stuff you think you're into and take things a little slow to start off but mostly have fun and don't stop using your common sense.

Endivius -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/28/2012 4:20:08 PM)
OMG i've not seen that movie in forever!! thanks for the luls GS!

TNDommeK -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/28/2012 5:26:54 PM)
Sho Nuff!!

Hillwilliam -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/28/2012 5:46:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Don't forget the hat. The hat adds to the bad ass chair! Mea Maxima culpa Ma'am [8D]

temujin11 -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/29/2012 5:48:22 AM)
Define "fake"

FrankAr -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/29/2012 3:28:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: submissivejas22 i am merely new to bdsm as a submissive first time in real life. how do i know my master isnt a fake Greetings, Am going on the front foot here. What makes you a real submissive ? You are asking for the master not to be a fake. What makes you not a fake as well ? Be well. Frank Ar

Kirata -> RE: how to know a true master and a fake (3/30/2012 4:12:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Don't forget the hat. Absolutely. The importance of hats cannot be overestimated. [:)] K.

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