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I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/26/2012 4:50:07 PM   
MasterKink13


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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/26/2012 4:53:58 PM   
DarkSteven


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1. Fill out your profile and look online.
2. Go to local events and look there.
3. Date vanillas and tell 'em you like to be in control, especially in the bedroom. If they run away screaming, let 'em. If they stick around, go for it.

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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/26/2012 4:55:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Several ways.

1. Fill out your profile and look online.
2. Go to local events and look there.
3. Date vanillas and tell 'em you like to be in control, especially in the bedroom. If they run away screaming, let 'em. If they stick around, go for it.


And also understand that men outnumber women by about 10:1. That means that you'll need to bring your "A" game.

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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/26/2012 5:11:51 PM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Several ways.

1. Fill out your profile and look online.
2. Go to local events and look there.
3. Date vanillas and tell 'em you like to be in control, especially in the bedroom. If they run away screaming, let 'em. If they stick around, go for it.


And also understand that men outnumber women by about 10:1. That means that you'll need to bring your "A" game.


I agree with that regarding looking for sub women on collarme. The ratio of unattached Dom men to unattached sub women at Denver events is slightly favorable to men (Yay!). I don't know what the ratios are for unattached vanilla women.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/26/2012 5:31:00 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Several ways.

1. Fill out your profile and look online.
2. Go to local events and look there.
3. Date vanillas and tell 'em you like to be in control, especially in the bedroom. If they run away screaming, let 'em. If they stick around, go for it.


And also understand that men outnumber women by about 10:1. That means that you'll need to bring your "A" game.


I agree with that regarding looking for sub women on collarme. The ratio of unattached Dom men to unattached sub women at Denver events is slightly favorable to men (Yay!). I don't know what the ratios are for unattached vanilla women.


Out here in LA/OC/SD it's at least 10:1. When I was single, I had close to 500 messages within a week.


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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/26/2012 5:48:36 PM   
littlewonder


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ORIGINAL: MasterKink13

How you find one? or make one?


Go to Subway. You'll have a choice of all kinds.

Or go to the grocery store and buy rolls, lettuce, meat, onions, tomatoes and whatever else you'd like on it.

If you want it for long term, wrap it up and throw it in your freezer.



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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/26/2012 6:09:30 PM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		Go to Subway. You'll have a choice of all kinds.

Or go to the grocery store and buy rolls, lettuce, meat, onions, tomatoes and whatever else you'd like on it.

If you want it for long term, wrap it up and throw it in your freezer



^^^This is great!

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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/26/2012 7:15:22 PM   
JeffBC


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Status: offline 		I assume by "sub" what you mean is a woman who'll do what you want sexually.

There are lots and lots of ways to find such a woman. Frankly, I'm not convinced that it's all that uncommon. All you need to do is be the kind of guy that makes a woman think, "Yeah, I really, really want to please him."

So... why should some woman really, really want to please you?

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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/26/2012 8:53:08 PM   
LoreBook


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Several ways.

1. Fill out your profile and look online.
2. Go to local events and look there.
3. Date vanillas and tell 'em you like to be in control, especially in the bedroom. If they run away screaming, let 'em. If they stick around, go for it.
You left out an important one.
4. Pick a language, any language will do, and write coherently in that language.


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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/26/2012 10:02:11 PM   
LafayetteLady


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ORIGINAL: LoreBook

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Several ways.

1. Fill out your profile and look online.
2. Go to local events and look there.
3. Date vanillas and tell 'em you like to be in control, especially in the bedroom. If they run away screaming, let 'em. If they stick around, go for it.
You left out an important one.
4. Pick a language, any language will do, and write coherently in that language.




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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/27/2012 4:55:01 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		I left Broward County last year. South Florida has an active kink scene. Here's a calendar: http://www.sfmunch.com/SFmunch_Calendar.html

Your profile is blank so I have no idea how much experience you have or what sort of BDSM relationship you seek. I suggest you go to some classes and demos, especially if you are new to the scene.

The Fetish Factory used to have classes during its Memorial Day weekend extravaganza. I don't see any at the moment, but that may be as we are several months off.
http://www.fetish-factory.com/_cf/alterego/17year/index2.html

Many of the classes were given by LAC members - here's their calendar: http://www.lifestylealternatives.org/clubportal/Calendar.cfm?clubID=275

I didn't care for the monthly Fetish Factory/Alter Ego parties but do give them a shot if you like the club scene.

A note about your screenname - if you are new yet calling yourself Master, experienced subs will spot this quickly and be turned off. Best to not give yourself that title until you have earned it.

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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/27/2012 9:18:47 AM   
pghays04


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Several ways.

1. Fill out your profile and look online.
2. Go to local events and look there.
3. Date vanillas and tell 'em you like to be in control, especially in the bedroom. If they run away screaming, let 'em. If they stick around, go for it.


And also understand that men outnumber women by about 10:1. That means that you'll need to bring your "A" game.


I agree with that regarding looking for sub women on collarme. The ratio of unattached Dom men to unattached sub women at Denver events is slightly favorable to men (Yay!). I don't know what the ratios are for unattached vanilla women.


Out here in LA/OC/SD it's at least 10:1. When I was single, I had close to 500 messages within a week.


Just curious, but what do you think the ratio would be if you deleted the fakes etc from both sides of the equation?

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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/27/2012 9:25:40 AM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: pghays04


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Several ways.

1. Fill out your profile and look online.
2. Go to local events and look there.
3. Date vanillas and tell 'em you like to be in control, especially in the bedroom. If they run away screaming, let 'em. If they stick around, go for it.


And also understand that men outnumber women by about 10:1. That means that you'll need to bring your "A" game.


I agree with that regarding looking for sub women on collarme. The ratio of unattached Dom men to unattached sub women at Denver events is slightly favorable to men (Yay!). I don't know what the ratios are for unattached vanilla women.


Out here in LA/OC/SD it's at least 10:1. When I was single, I had close to 500 messages within a week.


Just curious, but what do you think the ratio would be if you deleted the fakes etc from both sides of the equation?



My estimate of 10:1 is being out participating in the communities of LA/OC/SD.....it literally is at least 10:1 when you go out to the events. Pretty much if someone is attending, I'm assuming they aren't fake.

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 3/27/2012 9:26:27 AM >

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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/27/2012 9:34:30 AM   
Killerangel


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ORIGINAL: pghays04

Just curious, but what do you think the ratio would be if you deleted the fakes etc from both sides of the equation?


It gets difficult to talk about fakes here, so many people use that word to describe someone that isn't what they are looking for. Unless we're speaking of scammers or bots there really aren't fakes- there are people behind the profiles who want something different than what others may want, but they're alive and they are real people.

I'll answer and assume that you meant scammers/bots, as in people that either have multiple profiles for a non-social purpose, or something that is not actually human having a profile.

The men to women ratio has been generally acknowledged site wide at least 4:1- my experience would say that's a bit low. My experience on this site has been about 5 or 6:1. You've seen by DS's answer that the online ratio is different at real life events.

< Message edited by Killerangel -- 3/27/2012 9:35:08 AM >

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RE: I'm looking for Sub 4 a LTR - 3/27/2012 6:03:24 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		OP, why should a woman submit to you? Why should she trust you? Do you have a history of good decision making? Of being someone dependable? Of someone who doesn't fly off the handle but instead is patient? Do you have good leadership skills, good communication skills, good relationship skills? And if you are interested in kink, have you educated yourself so that you're a safe person to play with?

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