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Testing Boundries - 3/26/2012 4:58:07 PM   
ShyLuci


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Status: offline 		Hey all, just another deviant here kinda lurking around checking things out. I've been reading message boards for a few days trying to get a feel for the folks who are active and wow, I must say...tough crowd LOL
I've edited my profile probably 13 times in the last 2 days trying to get across just what I want it to say. The first day all it said was <I'll get back to this later> but then I started typing and had to backspace all that out...guess I'm a little more wordy than I thought I was going to be.

My husband and I have been in the BDSM lifestyle for almost as long as we've been together. We have a pretty interesting relationship in that we don't really follow traditional roles. I guess Top and Bottom would probably be the best description for us though I do get a little subby sometimes. Outside the bedroom we are mostly on equal ground (with me usually in charge due to the fact that I'm such a pushy bitch LOL) no that doesn't make sense, maybe people who have been together (married or not) for extremely long periods of time might understand it but whatever, it works for us, I'm not trying to justify and I'm probably doing a bad job of explaining either. Inside the bedroom (or wherever we happen to be when the mindset strikes) I like for him to have the upper hand (maybe thats laziness I don't know LOL) I have a low pain threshhold and a short temper but he knows where my limits are after 20 years and always manages to get me to push past them just a little bit haha.

I'm very camera shy for more reasons than I need to lose 15 more pounds. So please don't get on me about that, I probably won't share what I look like until we meet someone in person. No I don't have 3 noses.
Speaking of meeting people, we live in the central Florida area and are pretty interested in finding ut if there is a local active "scene". We have checked one place out online, but due to a bad work schedule conflicting with the hours they're open we haven't been able to go yet.

I don't suppose anyone would be interested in giving my profile a read and <gently> critiquing it? I will admit I am not particularly good at articulating what I'm trying to get across all the time, and I probably can't spell to save my life...but my husband can't draw a straight line either, so no one's perfect :P

Oh, and does anyone know of a way to change your nickname on the site short of deleting and starting over? I noticed there's another luci here but not until after I had created mine.

< Message edited by ShyLuci -- 3/26/2012 5:56:29 PM >
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RE: Testing - 3/26/2012 5:08:48 PM   
DarkSteven


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As far as your profile goes, it's not bad, but I got confused with what you're looking for. It sounds like you want:

An experienced sub woman for a third
A male sub for her to beat and to do housework
Other couples for socialization

I'd suggest being more direct and specific.

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RE: Testing - 3/26/2012 5:13:24 PM   
ShyLuci


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Status: offline 		OH Thanks for the links!

No, you're not confused, those are what we're looking for (I am the her btw)
Female switch is closer though than sub.
So maybe I did explain it well enough..almost LOL

thanks for the welcome :)

(I need to figure out how to make a signature work)

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RE: Testing - 3/26/2012 5:20:35 PM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: ShyLuci

(I need to figure out how to make a signature work)


Look up at the top, where it says "Collarchat.com - BDSM Forum"

In the next line are a bunch of links. Click on My Profile.

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RE: Testing - 3/26/2012 5:23:53 PM   
ShyLuci


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Status: offline 		I think I found it :)



< Message edited by ShyLuci -- 3/26/2012 5:25:55 PM >

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RE: Testing - 3/27/2012 3:42:42 AM   
ashjor911


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RE: Testing Boundries - 3/27/2012 5:26:12 AM   
kalikshama


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quote:

I guess Top and Bottom would probably be the best description for us though I do get a little subby sometimes. Outside the bedroom we are mostly on equal ground (with me usually in charge due to the fact that I'm such a pushy bitch LOL) no that doesn't make sense, maybe people who have been together (married or not) for extremely long periods of time might understand it but whatever, it works for us, I'm not trying to justify and I'm probably doing a bad job of explaining either. Inside the bedroom (or wherever we happen to be when the mindset strikes) I like for him to have the upper hand


You've described my relationship with my (now ex) husband :)

Welcome!

ps - I liked your profile!




< Message edited by kalikshama -- 3/27/2012 5:28:16 AM >

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RE: Testing Boundries - 3/27/2012 5:39:11 AM   
OohAahMrs


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RE: Testing Boundries - 3/27/2012 6:01:35 AM   
ShyLuci


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Status: offline 		Thanks and thanks! ;)
I am really enjoying reading the posts and peeking people's profiles (cuz I'm nosey LOL)

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RE: Testing Boundries - 3/27/2012 7:23:06 AM   
DomMeinCT


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RE: Testing Boundries - 3/27/2012 8:58:47 AM   
Delilya


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RE: Testing Boundries - 3/27/2012 11:08:04 AM   
TNDommeK


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RE: Testing Boundries - 3/27/2012 1:19:22 PM   
MastersPetgirl


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RE: Testing Boundries - 3/27/2012 5:45:47 PM   
LanceHughes


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Status: offline 		Seems you'll fit right in to the "tough crowd."  We respect each other, but do NOT suffer fools, gladly or otherwise. 

Good approach, so: WELCOME ! ! !  and remember to have FUN!


ETA (edited to add)  Steven gave you the answer to your "sig" question.  The user name question: only way... start over.  You can make a new one, cut and paste your profile, then hide the old profile.

If you're going to do that, do it NOW - before you user name gets linked in folks' minds.

< Message edited by LanceHughes -- 3/27/2012 5:49:57 PM >

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RE: Testing Boundries - 3/27/2012 6:51:03 PM   
ShyLuci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

Seems you'll fit right in to the "tough crowd."  We respect each other, but do NOT suffer fools, gladly or otherwise. 


*chuckle* you read into that did you? :) I respectfully decline to devulge my pushiness further as it may incriminate me :P

quote:

Good approach, so: WELCOME ! ! !  and remember to have FUN!


Thankye :)

quote:

ETA (edited to add)  Steven gave you the answer to your "sig" question.  The user name question: only way... start over.  You can make a new one, cut and paste your profile, then hide the old profile.

If you're going to do that, do it NOW - before you user name gets linked in folks' minds.


blah this makes me unhappy...alrighty then I guess I'll jusr have to get right on that...I'll post my "new" name in this thread afterward I suppose

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RE: Testing Boundries - 3/27/2012 7:41:06 PM   
Lucifyre


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Status: offline 		Alright then, all fixed now.

Also edited my profile a little bit while I was at it (work in progress lol)

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I do this because it fucking feels good.
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The thing about standards is: There are SO many to choose from.

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