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red flag - 6/4/2006 7:24:00 AM   
slavelooking2006


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Status: offline 		When a Dominant lives in one state but  changes His profile on here to another state and takes His pic off should that indicate a red flag about Him?
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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 7:25:14 AM   
Tikkiee


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When a Dominant lives in one state but  changes His profile on here to another state and takes His pic off should that indicate a red flag about Him?

A good rule of thumb is 'if you have to ask the question, chances are you already know the answer'

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 7:32:37 AM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		Who knows, it depends on why he did it.  I mean he could be afraid his wife would find out, or perhaps he is a paster and doesn't want his flock to find out.

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 7:35:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are lots of reason's for it, but if you are "out" them this might not be a good match because he is obviously not "out"

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 7:40:40 AM   
indybbwsubbie


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Status: offline 		if you get any hint of red flags - it is time to run!!! and i do mean RUN!!!  i have learned the hard way from being way too trusting.......
Trust is a good thing - once the relationship has been formed - based on all the facts on the people involved.  Do your homework - and if the Doms don't like it - too bad!

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 7:42:37 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I guess there could be some "good": reasons, but I'd be very careful.

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 9:03:50 AM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Thought O/our relationships were to be buildt on trust.  Ask Him then decide what you think (we can think for ourselves ya know) then if the answer doesn't ring true consider perhaps a player or worse and run like hell is behind you.  Wonder what Ted Bundy might have said?

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 9:08:17 AM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		Are you certain he lives in the first state? Are you positive the picture is correct?

I can see a lot of reasons for changing one's profile to reflect different information. Perhaps he has moved? It happens. Be interesting to see if you can get a real answer if you asked.

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 9:13:49 AM   
shygirldesires


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Status: offline 		When a Dominant lives in one state

do you know he really lives in "said" State?
 
but  changes His profile on here to another state

maybe this is the "real" State of residence.
 
and takes His pic off

just because someone took their pic off doesnt mean anything positive or negative 
should that indicate a red flag about Him?

If you meet him in one state and you saw his face looking into yours and addressed his profile and his desires....then you find him in another state...then i might raise the red flag and question with honest intent.
 
when we assume, we make asses of ourselves.   JMO

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 10:13:35 AM   
PlayfulOne


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Status: offline 		Is this a general question from something you noticed on a profile, or is this about someone who you were interacting with  who has suddenly changed their info?

I can tell you that the state on my profile changed more than once.  I spent many years working on the road and if I was going to be in that location over 3 months I changed the state on my profile to where I was.  Once I came in off the road their was one last change when I moved to FL.  People also put up and take down pics from their profile all of the time. 

There can be real reasons for changes, you don't give enough information to know if this should actually be a concern to you or not.

< Message edited by PlayfulOne -- 6/4/2006 10:14:30 AM >

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 10:21:51 AM   
wandersalone


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Status: offline 		Ask him about the changes rather than thinking about possible negative reasons for him doing so. There could be another reason.... or your instincts may be correct.
Either way I wish you well
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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 10:26:59 AM   
slavelooking2006


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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 11:00:57 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: slavelooking2006
When a Dominant lives in one state but  changes His profile on here to another state and takes His pic off should that indicate a red flag about Him?

If you're getting to know someone with intentions of getting involved together, any unexplained profile changes should be taken as a big caution sign and discussed thoroughly.

I think saying "Run at the first sign of a problem!" is a rather fear-controlled perspective to take. 

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 11:10:11 AM   
NCSilverWolves


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Status: offline 		Might just ask ....why the change...then wait for a response. People are too quick to throw up red flags. Being cautious is one thing.... being quick to judge is another. 

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 11:31:09 AM   
pinkee


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ORIGINAL: slavelooking2006

When a Dominant lives in one state but  changes His profile on here to another state and takes His pic off should that indicate a red flag about Him?


Well, P/pl do move in real life.  Perhaps His circumstances have changed and He can no longer run the risk of being "outted" at work.  However, if this was Someone with whom You were  speaking and He never told You of His plans, i'd say --IMHO -- write Him off.
 
pinkee

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RE: red flag - 6/4/2006 12:04:30 PM   
iliv2servher


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ORIGINAL: slavelooking2006

When a Dominant lives in one state but  changes His profile on here to another state and takes His pic off should that indicate a red flag about Him?


Perhaps there are good reasons, such as:

1) He moved from one state to another, or he travels from state to state on business.
2) He decided that posting a photo was too dangerous.

In a case like this, I would just ask.


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