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Searching - 3/28/2012 9:24:12 AM   
dualrololo22


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Status: offline 		Hello to anyone and everyone that reads this. My name is Jon and I am a 6'3", weigh 240, am of average build, and have shoulder length red hair (yes natural). Had a recent turn of events that have lead me to this site considering I'm not very outgoing unless I feel in control of situations (a lot of bad experiences with people). So the story goes as follows: In a relationship currently but she feels as though I would leave her in order to fulfill any experience I have not had yet and thus has allowed me to partake of a play partner or multiple play partners. The terms are that there can be no emotions behind it so everything would be strictly physical but friendship would be a requirement before moving on. I currently reside in North Mississippi but am not a typical Southern guy. So I guess anyone who is intrested or has anything to say or just wants to talk feel free to hit me up.

Thanks!
Jon
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RE: Searching - 3/28/2012 9:32:07 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Um. Hi, Jon. I have to admit that I'm confused. You're looking for a woman to fulfill unspecified physical acts that your gf won't. A journal entry hints that your gf may join in. Even thought you're Dom, you're not into administering pain, which kinda limits the physical acts. And you're not outgoing, so you're looking for a woman who'll take the lead, but is a sub.

Welcome to collarme, and good luck with your search.

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RE: Searching - 3/28/2012 9:32:50 AM   
hellionsLight


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Status: offline 		Good luck and welcome! Keep trying out new things, and you'll find what you want :)

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RE: Searching - 3/28/2012 9:51:03 AM   
dualrololo22


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Status: offline 		I understand that it is confusing. Was basing my role solely on the fact of how I am day to day with anything. Not really been with anyone into BDSM or anyone that had a specific role so I guess it would be safe to say that I'm still new to this lifestyle.

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RE: Searching - 3/28/2012 11:05:35 AM   
ashjor911


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RE: Searching - 3/29/2012 2:25:02 AM   
Delilya


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Status: offline 		welcome to CM

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RE: Searching - 3/29/2012 6:38:27 AM   
OohAahMrs


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Status: offline 		Welcome dua.

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RE: Searching - 3/29/2012 8:57:03 AM   
DomMeinCT


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You've promised someone else that you won't have any feelings over someone else with whom you're looking to share intimate, BDSM-based activities?
That's quite a big promise.

Welcome and best in your search to find what you seek.

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RE: Searching - 3/29/2012 12:17:38 PM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		Hi there, and welcome.

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RE: Searching - 3/30/2012 6:12:32 PM   
LanceHughes


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Status: offline 		I'd like to suggest the ResidentSadist book list http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm 

Maybe the gf and you cuddle in bed and figure out what works for you both.

What I get from your OP <didn't read your profile> is that you have no clue other than "something in this direction."  Meanwhile the gf is "okay, but don't leave me."  Her 3-way suggestion is based on what she "knows" always works with men.

YOU know the answer - SHE knows the answer.  Neither of you really like the answer, so you came for advice.

The answer being, "BDSM is stronger than any 1/2 vanilla relationship."

I can just see it, two years from now.... we tried to make it work and now I don't know what to do.... I love her and she's tried to be understanding, but......

GET REAL!  BOTH of you! 


< Message edited by LanceHughes -- 3/30/2012 6:13:43 PM >

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RE: Searching - 3/30/2012 6:27:20 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Um. Hi, Jon. I have to admit that I'm confused. You're looking for a woman to fulfill unspecified physical acts that your gf won't. A journal entry hints that your gf may join in. Even thought you're Dom, you're not into administering pain, which kinda limits the physical acts. And you're not outgoing, so you're looking for a woman who'll take the lead, but is a sub.

Welcome to collarme, and good luck with your search.


Hahahahahahahahahaha

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