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A wholel week - 10/27/2004 2:02:08 PM

blushes4u

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YaY!! I've been on the forum a whole week now....Booo I've still not got any messages on the "other side". Wondering if anyone could tell me if my profile is not that good or how i can help myself out here? Maybe should not even post this because maybe feeling insecure. Yeah guess i am insecure, especially not ever experiencing anything of the lifestyle. Maybe i shouldn't have mentioned that i was so new to it? Thanks if anyone responds and apologizes if this was not the right place to post this *I never know where to post things*

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RE: A wholel week - 10/27/2004 2:30:57 PM

velvetvixen

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I am one to talk about profiles seeing as how I have turned mine off for now, but maybe a picture would help. I don't think it is bad that you have been honest as to the fact that you are quite new. Have you responded to any ads? Maybe it would help for you to make the "first move" because you are limited in your experience.

Much luck.

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RE: A wholel week - 10/27/2004 4:27:56 PM

Estring

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Your profile seems fine to me. A picture would probably draw more attention to you, but that might not be such a good thing, as many subs here can attest. I would suggest that you contact any profiles you are interested in. There is nothing wrong in making the first contact, and we males always enjoy getting messages from subs. And keep posting on the message boards. Good luck.

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RE: A wholel week - 10/27/2004 5:24:10 PM

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I agree that a picture is probably not a good idea right away. I also agree that contacting those you find interesting might be very helpful. My ..i am too agreeable today LOL....but very sincere and serious ;)

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RE: A wholel week - 10/28/2004 10:30:52 AM

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I'll agree with the others that your profile is fine and you should contact those that interest you. No need for a pic -- you can include one when you make contact.

I'd guess the lack of responses to your profile has more to do with location and population density than anything else. Probably not too many looking in WV except others in the state and those close to the border. If you were in California you would probably get multiples in e-mail simply from more eyeballs seeing you.

So I'm just chiming in hoping to help ease your insecurity.

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RE: A wholel week - 11/6/2004 10:53:15 PM

Suleiman

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Apparantly pictures help. The automatic search function on the front page defaults to the first profile with a picture, so the folks with pics get casual browsers, while non-pic profiles only get viewed by those who are looking. Your nickname might not be very attention-getting, but as with the pictures, this is not nessisarily a bad thing. A lot of the attention that others seem to recieve appears to be of an essentially negative sort, as frequent and numerous topic threads on these boards will attest.

Be patient, hon. I was here a whole month before anyone Emailed me without my first Emailing them, and most of my Emails have recieved no response at all. You might want to take a little time to say what it is that you're looking for - I realise that at your level of experience that's a tall order since you literally don't know where to begin, but you are looking for something, and if you take a little time to listen to yourself, you will realise you have a much clearer idea of what you want than you give yourself credit for. This will help you to attract the sorts of people you want to attract, and will also get you "fan mail" from people who think that what you're looking for is all wrong (and fan mail can be a lot of fun!)

Please keep in mind - it does not matter what you are looking for, someone will take it upon themselves to correct you. They will probably even believe that they are doing you a favor by telling you what is wrong with what you want. It's a real icebreaker - the more self aware you are, the more people will come out of the woodwork to inform you that you are misguided or just going through a phase or plain delusional and that's not how it works at all. I love these people, I wish more would come to visit me (but I'm a guy, and sadly, guys just don't get as much attention).

If it would make you feel better, I'll Email you. I love Email, especially from folks I know here on the message boards.

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RE: A wholel week - 11/7/2004 6:19:05 AM

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I think a picture helps a lot. And don't be worried if you don't look like the people in the commercials. Just be real, and you'll be OK. As mentioned, a picture does attract some unwanted attention as well, but you can politely decline those.

I think the advice that others have given, of contacting those that are of interest is good.

Apparently patience is needed. I've gotten just a few messages. A week is really quite short for these sort of things.

Good luck!

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