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Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 3:55:53 PM   
Lucifyre


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Are any females (over 30 plz) interested in going to one of the local to Orlando or Daytona area munches or gatherings with another female? (me)
My Mr has a goofy work schedule and I'd like to just go hang out at a meeting and maybe meet some folks, but I don't want to go alone...probably for obvious reasons.

I'm not looking for a play partner for the evening (though I'm not opposed but that's not my goal) Just want a woman to go hang out with and get to know the flavor of the local groups is all.
Maybe a few of us can get together and go as a group?
I'm open to anything, just not flying solo.

Worth a shot :)

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 4:06:42 PM   
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I might post this on fetlife too, but I'm not really fond of the format over there.


I hate the Fet format but it's really the best venue for local events.

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 4:09:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm sure I'll find the *something* there, I'd just like to find the *someone* first :)

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 4:13:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wouldnt you rather get to know the person you are asking out to an event first? Or are you into just hanging out with random people? Maybe its just me, but the thought of spending a day at something with someone I dont know and the high potential of that person ending up being a douchebag makes me cringe -

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 4:22:28 PM   
Lucifyre


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Status: offline 		How better to meet and get to know people than to hang out with them in a public place where the*theme* of the gathering is something you have in common with them?
If they turn out to be douchebags (or think I am) then I guess a second meeting out together wouldn't happen.
I'm asking to go to a munch with someone, not asking for a date.
I dunno, I just don't see what I'm asking for in my original post to be anything more serious than say asking someone out for a coffee.

Maybe my mistake was in my delivery the first time :)

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 4:24:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not to be difficult, but to me your request makes no sense. You're saying "I don't want to go out and meet strangers on my own, so how about I go out and meet strangers on my own and then we go somewhere else".

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings...(Orlando/Daytona) - 3/29/2012 4:29:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		I gotcha - I agree that meeting someone ahead of time is far less fraught then walking into a room full of strangers.

If you get no responses here, try checking the RSVP lists for fetlife events and contacting people with whom you think you might resonate.

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings...(Orlando/Daytona) - 3/29/2012 4:31:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thnks kalik ;)

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings...(Orlando/Daytona) - 3/29/2012 4:46:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		You might consider making a "kinky Friendster" profile on an alternative dating site, like PlentyofFish, or OKCupid, targeted at women for friends only, saying pretty much what you wrote in your OP. I think a lot of women might be more willing to go to their first event if they had a partner in crime.

Also, perhaps this is duh-obvious, but no one has said it yet: you could also create a profile on CM specifically for that purpose. A lot of people have more than one profile, including me. It's not against the rules, and doesn't mean you're being fake.

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 4:52:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		I guess Im strange in wanting to exchange ideas or screen someone before I actually go out and meet them. Hell ---> maybe even decide that I actually like them before I meet them. I have very strange concepts though.

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 4:55:20 PM   
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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 5:15:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ive done the "lets just meet - and not exchange a word route" a few times -----> and it never was a pretty sight. I ended up exchanging a few words and looking the person straight in the eye and telling them that we are not compatible. Standing up - and leaving.

But I totally understand that there are MANY people that dont care whom they are with, as long as they are with someone. I get bombarded by them all the time. I suppose I am on the other side of the spectrum where I would rather be alone than meet up with just "anyone" just to tell them to their face that this has been a huge waste of my time.

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 5:27:17 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: JanahX

Ive done the "lets just meet - and not exchange a word route" a few times -----> and it never was a pretty sight. I ended up exchanging a few words and looking the person straight in the eye and telling them that we are not compatible. Standing up - and leaving.

But I totally understand that there are MANY people that dont care whom they are with, as long as they are with someone. I get bombarded by them all the time. I suppose I am on the other side of the spectrum where I would rather be alone than meet up with just "anyone" just to tell them to their face that this has been a huge waste of my time.



I think you're looking at what I am asking for from a seeking a relationahip perspective. I'm not for the purposes of this post. I am simply asking if there are any BDSM type females out there that would be interested in attending a local munch or gathering with me so I don't have to walk into the big bad room full of strangers all by myself without my husband on my arm. If we click and get along then GREAT! If we don't then well, it happens..there are all kinds of people out there, predators included, yes even in the BDSM community and I'm not going to get along with all of them, but I am also not going to go to my local grocery store to meet people and atrempt to meet friends with an awkward "hey do you like to be bent over and spanked? HEY ME TOO"
At least by asking to maybe meet some potential friends here that awkward part is already out of the way.


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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 5:31:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have no problem meeting a person for the first time and attending an event together.

Do I have to get to know them first? Hell no. Life is short. Live and enjoy life.

The worst thing that is going to happen is that I find it boring. But the more likely thing is I am get the chance to meet people and learn about them including the person I am taking to the event. And a great outcome is I find new friends!

So OP, go for and have a good time!

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 6:21:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with mummy, go for it and enjoy yourself! If I was back in FL I'd go with you. I fit the 30+ female category.

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 6:55:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		Might want to try asking the organizers of the munch if there's someone that meets your criteria and goes regularly that would want to accompany you.

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 7:31:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		That was My thought, too.  Some munches specifically have greeters or people open to meeting with someone before the munch so they don't feel like they are completely alone.  Have you contacted the organizers of the munch to see if somebody would suit what you are looking for?

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 8:02:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've actually used fetlife to chat with people online to find someone to go with me, and didn't meet them until we went together :)

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/29/2012 8:52:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

For a potential partner, yes. For a dinner companion, not so necessary.


That was my thought too.  I think posting here and seeing if anyone is interested in making a new FRIEND is a great idea.  I'm sure they would exchange a couple of emails first, lol.

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RE: Speaking of Local Gatherings... - 3/30/2012 7:37:01 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

For a potential partner, yes. For a dinner companion, not so necessary.


That was my thought too.  I think posting here and seeing if anyone is interested in making a new FRIEND is a great idea.  I'm sure they would exchange a couple of emails first, lol.



^^This, exactly. Not looking for anything other than folks with common interests and certainly willing to email a few times for comfortability etc before meeting anyone f2f.

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