OttersSwim
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So OP... What sort of relationship do you think you would have to have with a Lady to engage in that sort of activity? What people are trying to get you to understand is that kink is first and foremost - a relationship. Especially when you get into such intimate activities as asking a Lady to let you anywhere near her most intimate parts. Relationships are many faceted things - not just one kink. Relationships with Dominant Women are and should be based not on the desires/kinks of the sub/slave/bottom, but on the desires/kinks of the Lady. That is not to say that you should not have desires/kinks, but they should take 2nd place to those of the Lady. Even if you meeting someone at a club for the first time who is going to just spank you - you establish a relationship - eye contact, evaluation, negotiation - and if anything is going to happen, it will be because the Lady desires it. And so, you are here trumpeting a kink. A lone single one-note kinky desire and your orchestra that attracts a -relationship- to you is silent at your back. Engage your orchestra, attract a relationship first, and all the kinky stuff will sort itself out on its own.
< Message edited by OttersSwim -- 3/30/2012 7:27:35 AM >
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