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lizi -> RE: Weddings (3/30/2012 5:36:46 PM)
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
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ORIGINAL: lizi
That day is to share with others and celebrate, have everyone happy and relaxed, not have them wonder what your necklace (?) is all about. That's pretty much it. My mother would not understand and it would just upset her, thinking she had done something to cause it. I love her too much to do that to her.
Second, when we got married he put a ring on my finger. To me it's the "collar" I wear everyday in pretty much every situation.
Well, i obviously agree. Some people choose to feel that it's 'their' day and whatever they want goes, but I'm wondering then why they would choose to invite everyone else if they aren't somehow important to the proceedings? If you actually set aside a day and the purpose of it is to share something important to you with them, then are the two things not equal somehow in importance?
if we don't want people to be offended or whatever, then don't ask them to put aside their time to come and do something at your request and not take into account the fact that there will be other people there with different values/morals/lives. i mean I'm not advocating completely setting aside what is precious to you, but isn't there a way to combine everything and reach a solution? I own this collar and have worn it and there is no way that it is ever going to look like a normal addition to a wedding dress, so therefore people are going to notice it. Maybe it'll just seem odd, maybe it'll be fine. Maybe someone will know what it means, will drop a few comments to other guests, and the shit will hit the fan. I'd not take the chance. Not when you've asked these people to come to the thing in the first place - it's about them. Otherwise just go get married somewhere private.
Once again...just my opinion.
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