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Duskypearls -> RE: Irrational Fear (4/1/2012 3:14:00 PM)
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Scars, like greying hairs, are hopefully an indicator of the character, growth and story of our lives. With any kind of luck, we acquire, learn from, and gain wisdom and insights from all we have weathered, in all realms.
None of us gets out of here unblemished. It is a mistake to think we will do so. Thanks to modern media, many have lost this valuable knowing. Which of us wants the pages of our book to be blank and boring, or like that of ever other human? Not I.
Happines, joy, and inner freedom, in my book, comes from realizing there is no such thing as flawless perfection, inside or out. It is only when one comes to terms with the fact that accepting and loving ourselves as we are, such imperfect beings, will we find peace. The closest we can come to being perfectly comfortable, and forgiving of ourselves and others, is when we accept our imperfections. We are perfectly imperfect.
Whatever we focus on expands. Instead of focusing on the minutia of small things we think we dislike, let us redirect our attention to the rest of our (and others) magnificent selves. Honor that which distinguishes you from others. Stand back and look at the larger picture.
Edited to add: Artistic, in peeking at your profile I see you are early in years. It is not unusual for the young to obsesses about such things, and it is exactly that...obsessing. I remember a time when a scar on my face (in my twenties) caused me great despair, as back then I sadly thought it was my face that would either make someone like me, or dislike me. Thay was back before I'd been through too many horse wrecks. Now I know better.
Many on here have often seen me write, "Pretty is as pretty does," and after learning this the hard way, I firmly believe it. Some of the prettiest faces have done the most heinous things to others. Some of the mosts physically plain or unattactive people have the best heart and character.
Who do I want in my life or by my side? People who love, value, and respect themselves others. I shall steal from one of my earlier posts on another thread, to share that which I value in others, and this speaks for any gender:
"Quiet confidence, honesty, transparency, forthright, integrity, honor, humility, modesty, compassionate, passionate, protective, patient, humorous, sexual/sensual, resourceful, respectful, open/generous mind and heart, flexibiity, happy, playful, loving, intelligent (academic or street smarts), mature, assertive, sincere, tenacious, self-assured, hard-working, responsible, principled, accountable, reliable, sensitive, faithful, polite, respectful, well-mannered, courteous, courageous, considerate, ambitious, spiritual (whatever that means to them), spontaneous, forgiving, mentally/emotional present, gentle, strong, willing to take correction and direction when appropriate, can exercise self-restraint, loves to touch and be touched, and with good "backbone!"
Did you notice anything obviously missing from this description Artistic? Did I anywhere list any physical attribute at all? No, of course I did not. If you are any or all of these, you could be my friend. I do not care whether or not you have all your limbs, are gorgeous or plain, are rich or poor, etc. All those are "outside" physical stuff, which may come or go in your life. The currency in which I wish to trade is that of one's "inner gold."
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