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bamabbwsub -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/3/2012 8:33:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise Then think of how you would feel if you won't ever have the chance to get what it is you really really want again. Ever ever ever! Don't worry about how it sounds, focus on how it feels. poise: I somehow missed replying to your post, which contains very good advice. Perhaps the emotions will help supply the words when I start feeling as though I've forgotten my line in a movie.

another1harder -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/3/2012 8:53:51 PM)
The brain is the largest erogenous zone. Stop thinking and let yourself go. Currently you have only physically submitted.

bamabbwsub -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/3/2012 9:00:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: another1harder Currently you have only physically submitted. I wouldn't quite say that. I have mentally submitted in a lot of ways (without that, what's the point?), but the begging is new to me and I'm finding it more difficult to sound sincere to both my Dom and to myself than I had expected. I would agree that I am probably overthinking the issue and should, as you say, just let myself go.

MrBlackMan -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/3/2012 10:29:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BurntKitty I got nuthin'. All I keep thinking of is the "What would you do for a Klondike Bar?" ads. Id gut punch a grizzle. Bear for one

TNDommeK -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/3/2012 11:07:01 PM)
They advertised the Neapolitan flavor a long time ago, and have looked for them ever since. I haven't found them in any store around here or in Mississippi. I would ninja kick a Yakuza member for one of those. Not really, I'd probably just get it and pay for it, and enjoy. But I would like one really bad. [sm=offtopic2.gif]

WestBaySlave -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/4/2012 1:42:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bamabbwsub I am not very experienced at begging, but I've been asked a few times, "What would you do for it (whatever the "it" was at the time)?" or "How badly do you want it?" For example: Dom: Do you want _____? Sub: Yes, Sir. Dom: I'd like to hear you beg for it. Sub: Please, Sir, please! Dom: How badly do you want it? Sub: (This is where I get lost. Obviously, I want it bad, but just saying that sounds so lame.) Dom: If you want it so badly, what would you do to get it? Sub: (Again, I get lost. The first thing that pops into my head, of course, is "I'll do anything," but that's not really a genuine answer, IMO.) I'm not looking for an answer, per se, but ideas from where I can pull my answer, if that makes sense. The few times I've genuinely begged for something it was rarely something sexual or playful and was usually kind of a dark patch between me and the man, so I'm not much help. Usually in situations like the above I tend to sound pretty lame and go "Okay, well, if you're not into it, that's fine with me - I still love you and want to do what you like." ( Yes, I know, the WRONG answer for a dom who likes this kind of play. [:D] ) Reading the answers on this thread has been fun, though.

angelikaJ -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/4/2012 3:31:22 AM)
In those begging moments I have been known to promise fantasy things. He knows they may be outside of the realm of possibility but it allows for hot scenarios to take place in the moments that follow. Perhaps you can talk with your dom and find out if fantastical offers for that moment are acceptable.

DesFIP -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/4/2012 6:52:35 PM)
The first time he did this I froze and couldn't think of anything good enough and wound up bursting into tears. It turned out what he wanted to hear was that I would do anything for it. What that taught us is that I need directions so now he'll ask me if I'll do x for it which tells me this is what he wants to hear. And after him asking me this sort of thing for a while, I now have some stock phrases that will occur to me and that I'm sure he'll like.

bamabbwsub -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/4/2012 6:59:05 PM)
quote: Perhaps you can talk with your dom and find out if fantastical offers for that moment are acceptable. Hadn't thought of that, angelika. That's a good idea, since he tends to like to read sci-fi and fantasy stuff. Thank you! quote: What that taught us is that I need directions so now he'll ask me if I'll do x for it which tells me this is what he wants to hear. And after him asking me this sort of thing for a while, I now have some stock phrases that will occur to me and that I'm sure he'll like. DesFIP, thank you for your response! I really like that idea and will talk to him about my fears, and possibly suggest what you mentioned. I think that would take a lot of pressure off of me for an answer, until I can gain more confidence.

xssve -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/4/2012 7:23:24 PM)
Well to be perfectly honest, at that point, I don't want to hear it, I want to see it. [8D]

IrishMist -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/4/2012 7:26:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ProlificNeeds FR~ It's not always about WHAT you say, but HOW you say it. I use to whine a lot as a kid, whining is obnoxious, so I learned to turn that into more appealing tones as I matured. Begging is the same idea, it's not what you say but your presentation. Tone of voice, expression, the position you're in, the full body language and movements. When they want you to beg, they want you to beg SEXY, not obnoxiously. Work on it in private, it's definitely a learned behavior and probably won't feel 'natural' at first. Tone of voice - small, vulnerable, -wanting-. Expression - anywhere from demure to desperate, tearful of batting lashes. Body - Any physical position that he finds both arousing and submissive to him, on knees, belly, standing meekly with head down, whatever specific pose rings his bell. When they ask what you'd do for it... treat it like a bartering match at a market... a bartering match you intend to lose, badly. The idea of begging, is to make your D feel empowered, to that end, find out what things do that for him. The bolded part is what I would agree with. THINK SEDUCTION...subtle and with words [;)] edited because I obviously can't fucking spell worth a shit [:'(]

Winterapple -> RE: Begging for Answers (4/5/2012 10:38:54 AM)
FR I think there's two basic kinds of begging. One is sexy flirty begging where you basically weave a detailed tale of all the things you're willing to do to get what it is you're begging for. You just feel him out and he'll lead you to what he likes and wants. Then there's in the heat of it begging where you don't think about it, you want him to stop or start doing something. Emotions speak louder than any words in those moments and they can't really be faked or I don't think they can. Your thinking self is just along for the ride when that sort of emotion takes over. And as was said begging isn't whining and wheedling. Keep that tone out of your voice it isn't a turn on.And in sexy begging keep the Sarah Bernhardt dramatics out of it, that distracts from the words. Humble but naughty seems to strike the best chord.

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