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cuddleheart50 -> RE: Rejections... (6/4/2006 4:21:56 PM)
How do I reject someone emails? I say....Thanks, but no thanks.

juliaoceania -> RE: Rejections... (6/4/2006 4:23:34 PM)
If someone rejects me I move on very qucikly. Most of the time that has not been a problem for me, but if someone doesnt answer an email or is not into me... well "next" is what I say. It is fairly easy for women to do that I suppose. It is after I get to know someone over a period of time and get close to them then rejection is deeper and harder to deal with.... even then you have to learn from your experiences and move on eventually. I respect people's space, even if it is someone I felt owed me an explanation, I still wouldn't bother them for it. On the other hand I try to be kind when telling someone they are not for me on sites such as CM. I usually explain why we would be unsuitable to each other. I will not argue the point with the person. I may chuckle when they obviously did not read my profile, and sometimes I will not answer emails from people that didnt read my profile. On the whole I try to treat others like I want to be treated. I am a generous person and think most are sincere, even if it isnt true I treat all as if they are sincere seekers, even if they are not right for me. It is usually age differential, goal of relationship, or distance that is a determining factor for me when I have rejected people. It is never personal. I never insult people who email me unless they are abusive. I have rarely had an abusive email from anyone. I do not see expressing interest in me as being "trollish" as some do.. I think people are here to meet like-minded individuals and if they are not right for me, they will be right for someone. I guess I understand the comic part of the weeding process of going through emails from some people I thought were "odd", but I guess that's the point, I find humor in it. I cannot imagine staying on CM if I took it all sooooo seriously. I have had mostly positive experiences so far. My pet peeve are "dick pics". I do not like that because it is almost like some strange man showing me his penis in front of a store and I kinda find this creepy... But I even laugh at that. It also made the weeding process easier to finding someone I could relate to... but this is me and I could be wrong.

Calandra -> RE: Rejections... (6/4/2006 4:37:15 PM)
Re: Dick Pics I am reminded of an old Robin Williams standul routine where he says that a great response to a flasher is "no thanks, I don't do miniatures" LOL In the adult phone industry we used to have this interesting trick... when a guy was about to tell us their size and we were in danger of laughing, we were told to exhale deeply and quickly... You simply cannot laugh and exhale at the same time, and the guy thinks you're inhaling from surprise... ~giggles~

mgdartist -> RE: Rejections... (6/4/2006 4:47:32 PM)
well im new, and haven't really rejected anyone per se... but a couple i wasnt overly interested in sent a "What is it you seek sir?" or the like. The reply deliniated some of my most explicitly harsh dominant cravings spanning several paragraphs (since i dearly love to write such to submissives) and ends with me appreciating their interest and politely noting that if "any of the above" stimulates them they should contact me again. (i guess thinking if they really can take my heat, maybe i will let them into my kitchen) so far, no cigar <evil grin> shame on me, i should stop doing that to the poor girls.

juliaoceania -> RE: Rejections... (6/4/2006 5:03:37 PM)
That might be a little mean... but they asked right? When I was actively searching I wouldnt have asked that right away... WEG..lol

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Rejections... (6/4/2006 5:24:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Calandra How do you typically reject people's emails? I don't respond to 98% of them- the form letters, the dork one liners, the obvious wankers. The ones who are actual thoughful emails, I simply say that I appreciate their writing and compliments but am not really interested in getting involved at this time. quote: Do you find that they respect your wishes? Please explain... Yup. But again, that likely wouldn't be the case if I tried to respond to the dorky ones.

eruditegirl1 -> RE: Rejections... (6/4/2006 5:26:55 PM)
The first day I joined...I came home to 200 emails....I was so overwhelmed...at first I was polite....and tried to answer each one...even if it was only a "thank you"....half way through....I started only emailing back the ones with pictures....took me 2 days...then I would say roughly half of the polite..."no thank yous"...I had emailed either returned with a plea of give me a shot...or were rude....after debating with a few back and forth as to why I wasn't interested...it got to be a waste of time and consuming....I may be considered rude now....but I just don't answer unwanted emails from Doms I am not interested in....just seems easier for me...I am sure there have been some wonderful men whom have emailed and I am sorry they were lumped in with the jerks... That's my approach and it works for me....so no response is how I (don't really like saying rejected) choose to respond to unsolicited emails....

MstrssM4u -> RE: Rejections... (6/4/2006 5:33:47 PM)
in rejection, I just send a simple thanks but no thanks very politely and they send a reply back saying thank you. that is My simple soluton for Me. Ms M

feastie -> RE: Rejections... (6/4/2006 6:06:42 PM)
It depends very much on the email and my mood at the time. There are plenty that I just do not reply to at all. Others, I'll send the template Thanks and good luck in your search. It just really depends on the email.

akisha -> RE: Rejections... (6/4/2006 7:45:56 PM)
Mine are alway a polite. thank you for your interest but i'm not intersted. sometimes i give a reason. sometimes I use the auto thanks but no thanks reply but i always reply.

Proprietrix -> RE: Rejections... (6/5/2006 8:12:58 AM)
I’m that bitch you see all the subs complaining about that "can’t take a minute to politely respond with a no thank you." Yup. That’s me. The queen of no response. I used to do the no thank you thing, but found that my rejection was always rebutted. "No thank you." "Please? If you give me a try…" or "Why not?" or "You’re a bitch anyway." or "I’m sorry that I’m not worthy of your precious time, but please take a moment to…." Blah, blah, blah… My no thank you wasn’t an invitation for us to begin conversation. It meant "I’m not interested in you, so go about your merry way." I also do the non-response thing because I’m tired, or because I’m more interested in skipping email and going to the forums, or because I can’t think of anything to say, or because I have a headache, or because my son wants to get on the computer, or because the neighbors are being too loud for me to concentrate, or because I simply forgot to respond, or because I can’t keep track of who I meant to respond to and who I meant to delete. (I really need a filing/flagging system for CM emails.) I don’t get worried much about emails here. It wouldn’t be healthy for me to stress myself out by making a point of responding to every single one. On good days, when I have plenty of time, and my health is good, and I’m relaxed, and someone writes me something of interest, I take the time to write back. Other days, I don’t. I truly live by "What’s meant to be, will be."

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Rejections... (6/5/2006 8:28:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Calandra How do you typically reject people's emails? Do you find that they respect your wishes? Please explain... I usually read their emails/profiles, and if I find that we aren't a fit, I will usually say so... How long/kind/courteous the response from me is depends on how kind/courteous his/her email to me was. I thank the person for emailing, but decline based on specifics that I read and find contrary to my profile/desires/beliefs. M

becca333 -> RE: Rejections... (6/5/2006 8:43:28 AM)
I try to reply politely, the usual "thanks but I have a wonderful Dom, hope you find what you're looking for" type of reply. Most people are fine. One guy sent an email that he'd be in my city for a week, and he'd love to meet me for some fun. Standard reply as given above. So then I get, "When can we meet?" A+ for trying, F- for comprehension skills. Mostly, though, they wish me well and move on.

MisPandora -> RE: Rejections... (6/5/2006 8:50:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Calandra How do you typically reject people's emails? Do you find that they respect your wishes? Please explain... If they got close to what I asked for in my profile, or if they came close to what I said I was seeking in my profile and yet, I'm still disinterested, I'll take the time to write them, explain my reasoning, and wish them well. If they're someone who didn't bother to read my profile and sent me some blathering nonsense about what they want.....I point them back to my profile and spell out what parts they failed to recognize. Rare is it that I get a response back that is outrageous in this respect. Generally, they are more pleading, asking if I can make exceptions (say for a married guy or someone who is grossly over or under my preferred age parameters). My answer is no. I don't ask someone else to give up their hopes and expectations, and I shouldn't be expected to do so either. If they were spamming me and writing for their own jollies -- they get whatever comes off my fingertips. It's sometimes just deleted. Other times, it's a colorful reply. I generally then block them for good measure. I've learned if I don't, people really don't take kindly to being told that they're selfish and/or illiterate! LOL

NCSilverWolves -> RE: Rejections... (6/5/2006 9:58:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: snappykappy very good responses from all who have responded to this question especially the one which takes more energy to reply negatively than positively also from reading a lot of forums here one does get a lot of things answered to ones questions which they are wanting to find some sort of answer to i also use the supermarket approach (((((((((((((((((Snappy))))))))))))))))) nice to see you about again. Still banging the shopping carts are you?...lol Depending on the content of the e-mail.... depends on my rejection. One worders... Hi... usually get ignored. ........ One sentance..... Hi there, I think we're a good fit. ....sometimes gets ignored... sometimes depending on mood.... i send back a laugh. It goes on from there..... it just depends on content....and mood.

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